Also, there’s this general underlying sense of parents just not wanting to say ‘no’ to their child. I don’t really get it, it’s not teaching them any resilience.
My DD asked why she wasn’t going to a party my son was invited to. I calmly explained that the invite said his name, it’s a friend in his class, you are doing something fun with Dad, you will get your turn when you start school, and no your brother won’t be taken to yours, My DD at 3 completely got this, zero fuss.
Fast forward to an uninvited sibling in her Nursery class turning up at my son’s party. His Mum had a go at me in front of other parents that she’d had to pay his entrance, despite invite explicitly stating that. I stood my ground, yes actually you do need to pay. She then told me her children were ‘bored’ during the lunch, could they go and play? She then presented me with her sobbing, uninvited child demanding that he wanted birthday cake now. I had to explain to him that the rules of the soft play was that it has to go in the party bags, and he would need to wait for 5 mins, which he accepted and Mum thanked me for 😂 I did not blame this child one bit, his Mum’s behaviour throughout was appalling. Beyond entitled and rude. What is she teaching her child?
I did wonder what my lovely, unspoilt DD would have thought of all this, who I would never even have taken in the first place! It actually really annoyed me, as we would both have been far more polite guests than this pair!!!