To think this is immature ?

[HockeyMum1996]

My sister’s 17 year son has just dropped out of an A Level course and he has a full time job atm.

Both my sis and my BIL are very well educated, upper middle class professionals- both did A levels, went to uni, worked hard and have now both got senior roles.

My sister clearly isn’t happy that her son left school, and when I went round her house for Sunday Lunch she’d had a few drinks and said in an angry, drunken voice that one of the ladies at church who has a son in the same school year as my nephew, said “I’m sorry for what’s happened” - ie my nephew leaving school. She went on to criticise nephew’s character saying he “couldn’t stick at anything and is hopeless”

my nephew could hear all this and was in the next room.

truth is, my nephew hated school and is much happier in work

AIBU to that sister’s being unreasonable?

my nephew dropped out of A levels - but I feel my sister can’t just scold him because of what another woman said in church ?

my sister has form for being immature abd a bit intolerant of differences

a 17 year old lad is doing office work?

He hasn’t officially declined but as yet I think he feels he doesn’t want to rock the boat at home.

Just for the sake of completeness- my nephew has 2 jobs - an office job where he works 8-5 and a job in a sports centre at weekends and some weekday evenings. It’s not unknown fur my nephew to sometimes work 60 hours a week !!

Yes!

Why on earth not?

What kind of office work Op? I am genuinely curious what office would employ a 17 year old to do 8-5 5 days a week office job?

Given you barely see the family op, is everything you hear regarding the SIL coming from your nephew?

It seems bizarre to me to interpret this horrible sounding scene as your sister being “immature”.

Filing clerk, answering the phone, sales calls. Never heard of office juniors?

They’re extinct, in my experience. No paper files, and concerns over GDPR etc mean that access to data would not be something a newly-hired 17 year old would be given access to.

Cheers for your answer
but I asked the OP

”filing clerk”…. What are we in the 1950s?!

Ok mail room then. Someone still has to open letters.

Very unlikely to employ a 16/17 year old
This actually a very responsible job, and subject to GDPR
and usually also involves electronic scanning and filing

My DD was doing that on bloody work experience for an insurance company

While I think that’s pretty poor form (at the very least, if not illegal!) by the company, in my experience, companies take on work experience kids and when they show up, half the time have little or no idea what to do with them, so a panicked email goes around saying ‘For God’s sake, someone find something for this kid to do!’ And it’s sometimes something that they shouldn’t be doing at all, because in fact most of the things they used to do in the past either don’t exist now, or do, but can’t be done by them.

(In the late 80s, I was a 16 year old on work experience at a preschool, and the owner and only other member of staff went out on more than one occasion, leaving me, a completely untrained school child, alone with a pack of three and four year olds in her converted garage.😱)

sending mail out

checking stock - it’s a tile warehouse

inbound sales calls

Filing

faxing

Why would you do that to your child? And for everyone saying you wouldn't be happy either Richard Branson didn't go to college or uni and he's doing pretty well you don't need the best education to become the best in life let them learn there way and to the op you seem the kind of auntie everyone needs keep supporting your nephew

Faxing??? 😆

Bloody. Hell. That is concerning.

Have you seen The Hale and Pace sketch??!

Why? What do people have to achieve before they are actually doing any work at work?

It's a shame they have to be so judgemental really.

His Mum shouldn't have lied and just sold it in a positive way.

'He's starting his career and really enjoying the world of work. He seems to be learning lots and becoming much more responsible and mature through his job..'

If you want to do a PR spin on your family member make it closer to the truth.

Anyway, I wish him well and he's not the only one to prefer work to education. It doesn't mean he's done anything wrong.

Hello 1991 😂

Well maybe a little bit of experience before being responsible for the handling and scanning / distribution of insurance documents, which will include private names addresses and no doubt policy related information!

Faxing??!!

You need to watch the excellent Hale and Pace sketch

How will people get experience if no one lets them do anything though.?

Yes well we can't all have very high achieving teens 🙄