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How would you feel if someone told you you are not needed

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Amyrhaf · 05/06/2025 12:40

How would you feel if your sister-in-law told you outright, “you are not needed here” that my DH “has a mother, has a sister, there is no need for you here at all” my DH and I have been together since I was 18, now 33, 2 DC. I have since blocked her on all SM and keeping a huge distance from her, but really, who would accept being spoken to like that?

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miss79guided · 09/06/2025 20:36

SharpLily · 09/06/2025 11:11

Are you on the wrong thread? This one is nothing to do with weddings or parties...

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NOT NEEDED - IS the theme, make your self needed
Take the theory ...

miss79guided · 11/06/2025 02:01

Amyrhaf · 05/06/2025 12:40

How would you feel if your sister-in-law told you outright, “you are not needed here” that my DH “has a mother, has a sister, there is no need for you here at all” my DH and I have been together since I was 18, now 33, 2 DC. I have since blocked her on all SM and keeping a huge distance from her, but really, who would accept being spoken to like that?

Show your sister-in-law that, you ARE needed.

> Get 1 over your sister-in-law
AND
Look good to everybody else

miss79guided · 11/06/2025 02:08

miss79guided · 09/06/2025 06:50

If somebody say`s that you are not needed the simple thing to do IS
> Show that you ARE needed - Cancel that suggestion OUT

Bring somethin MORE to the situation

Adapt and change your strategy as appropriate
This instance, for a wedding

Wedding
> a marriage ceremony and any celebrations such as a meal or a party that follow it

The after party - that IS where you ARE needed
Get your kit

Hopscotch is a game involving hopping through numbered squares and tossing a marker (like a stone) into each one. Here's a basic guide:

To Play:
Draw the grid: Create a hopscotch grid using chalk on concrete or asphalt. The typical layout consists of numbered squares, with some pairs of squares side-by-side.

Choose a marker: Select a small object like a stone, beanbag, or marker.

Toss the marker: The first player tosses the marker into square one.

Hop: Start hopping through the squares, skipping the one with the marker. Use one foot in single squares and both feet in double squares.

Return: Turn around and hop back, picking up the marker on the way.

Next square: If the player completes the turn without mistakes, they toss the marker into square two on their next turn, and so on.

Winning: The first person to successfully complete all the squares (1-10) wins

The bride HAS the wedding
> You MAKE the after party YOURS

Get everybody playin Hopscotch - TRUST ME it WILL show that you ARE needed

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Ahh the Good Old Photo Booth🤳

Its popularity never seems to cease, and with good reason. There is just something particularly fun about squeezing into a little booth with friends or even people you did not know before the wedding, to take some silly photos. The bonus of a photo booth is that most of them offer immediate printouts so your guests can leave with a little souvenir.

NavyTurtle · 23/06/2025 10:12

Amyrhaf · 05/06/2025 12:44

Since keeping distance from her she is now openly aggressive towards me if we do happen to bump into one another (she lives with her parents very close by) and her mother is making me out to be a horrible person because I am “making her poor innocent daughter feel lonley”

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I would just love it if someone did this to me - I would wipe the floor with her.

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Amyrhaf · 23/06/2025 12:17

NavyTurtle · 23/06/2025 10:12

I would just love it if someone did this to me - I would wipe the floor with her.

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😂

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Laurmolonlabe · 23/06/2025 17:11

Just put it out of your mind and go no contact and make sure your DH has minimal contact, if they say anything again point out to them DH chose you he didn't choose either of them.

miss79guided · 23/06/2025 20:28

miss79guided · 11/06/2025 02:08

Ahh the Good Old Photo Booth🤳

Its popularity never seems to cease, and with good reason. There is just something particularly fun about squeezing into a little booth with friends or even people you did not know before the wedding, to take some silly photos. The bonus of a photo booth is that most of them offer immediate printouts so your guests can leave with a little souvenir.

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(Its popularity never seems to cease) The reason NOT to have one
> Your weddin WILL B just the same as all of the others
Somethin everybody KNOWS how to do (HopScotch) haven`t done that for years, makes it new AND original - people WILL join in, drunk people laffin havin fun - it IS what weddin parties are all about

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