Partner just thinking he can bring his son to live with me

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this is a long one but I just feel really emotional now and don’t know what to do. Basically my partner is originally from a few hours away but has moved to my area and had his own place which he has recently lost. His 6yr old autistic son came to visit him 2 weeks ago and my partner has now decided he isn’t sending him home as he doesn’t want to go back, no conversation with me if I’m ok him staying with me or nothing. I only got my new home a month ago and already my brand new couch is covered in marks and disgusting because of his son, my house is a mess, my dog is over stimulated constantly, the noise is unbearable, he’s meant to be in school but clearly cos he’s up here he isn’t so he’s here 247 I don’t get a minute. It’s all too much. I don’t mind my partner staying with me until he sorts himself out but how do I tell him I am NOT ready to be the full time co parent of a 6yr old autistic child and it’s really overwhelming me to the point I’m sitting in my bedroom crying. It’s too much. His son thinks he’s rules the roost, eats all my things, hides stuff, leaves mess everywhere, doesn’t have any respect for my home. This was meant to be my new start, my safe space, and now I just feel it’s been invaded and I don’t know what to do. I tried to bring it up today and got screamed at clearly i mustn’t love his son or want a family life etc. I never asked or signed up for this tho?! Am I being a selfish idiot or?

Is there a way of MNHQ reporting to the relevant services if there is child abuse/neglect happening? Threads like this one is concerning because in real life social services would have been contacted immediately and the child removed from the situation. The op is an adult she can make her own decisions on whether she wants her partner or not. Children can not make those decisions they are vulnerable and deserve all the best chances in life. Let's not forget she is asking women who have children themselves what she should do. The child is only 6 I hope he is either back safely with his mother or in care. Even without her past posting history you could tell through reading her posts on this thread she's with a lunatic. That's her choice and I wouldn't want to stand in the way of that. The only advice I would give is don't bring innocent children into it. They trust adults to protect them not abuse and neglect them. There is too many horror stories in the news and the papers I don't want to read another one.

Can you fucking imagine the volume of calls social Services would get from the Mum’s net hotline ? People on here think that if a child doesn’t get £1000 spent on it every Christmas that’s a case of neglect and social services should be involved 🤦‍♀️

Read the thread and all ops responses before posting rubbish to me. It's not a joke there is actual abuse going on. The 6 year old child was dumped on the op by her abusive boyfriend. He's a violent man. I don't what possessed you to post that stupid scenario to me about Christmas presents this is serious.

Most of what has been posted on this thread is probably complete fantasy as is most of the content of this site. Which is why social services would have no interest whatsoever in any of this crap

I do see your point BUT it is possible to set up an account with fairly minimal information (probably just an email account - it’s been a long time since I’ve done it). I am not saying this is the case here but it is possible that quite a few posters on MN are not who they claim to be. Realistically, even if things were reported to SS, without a name and address, they won’t be able to take action.