Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

[Vickersz]

I was given the task of organising my best friend’s hen. I, alongside our other friend, decided on Magic Mike Live. It’s very on theme for a hen and from what I have heard just a very silly dance show which gets people dancing and laughing (not at all seedy).

This will be the end of August. So great weather. We thought we’d go in a little tipsy (after bottomless brunch) and have a laugh as a group of girls (and a couple of gay guys). Finish with a dinner and some dancing. And Bob’s your uncle.

It’s all gone to shit.

Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. Everyone’s paid for the non-refundable tickets! There was a bbq last week and it was the main topic of conversation apparently. With all these weird theories as to why it was chosen. It’s not that deep!

My friend often attends bottomless brunch, dances on tables etc. And is no prude.

i genuinely feel ill! It’s being referred to as a strip show! The bride’s step mum and mum will be in attendance.

I really want to walk away from the whole thing.

I spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all

Its unfortunate that she doesn't like this idea. I do think you should have checked,

In all honesty, I'd be gutted if people had planned this for me, its not for me at all but not everyone would probably know that.

If you can't resell the tickets, Is it possible to change the date for the hen do and have a bottomless brunch, meal and night out for the hen do another time all together and then the original bookers just go to magic mike, not as a hen do but as a night out?

If I had bought the ticket, I wouldn't want to waste the money by not going so I think doing hen do a different time is the only option

Her fiance was not happy if he didn't kick up a fuss would the bride think differently. He comes across as insecure it's only a show.

Eugh I was subjected to this on a hen weekend once, in hindsight I would have said no to the whole weekend. But I felt I had to go and was stuck with a bunch of aging women who just looked desperate, screaming at the young guys gyrating with their clothes off. It’s full of hen parties who were also at the same bottomless brunch beforehand. It was honestly an awful weekend, but the rest of the group supposedly loved it. Definitely something you should have checked out with the bride first!

Yay! And a bit of Mumsnet Ageism thrown in. Always a bonus!

I mean women do this everyday when they oppose their fiancé having strippers at a stag.

Exactly!!!

Both of you should have talked before booking this sort of thing.

Simple solution is to organise another night out, taking into account that people have already earmarked money for this and will still be going. Perhaps cut the bottomless brunch and do that on the new hen do so people aren't laying out twice.

Both scenarios sound controlling and insecure.

The groom sounds like a control freak, major red flag

I’m sorry OP. I cannot believe the responses here. Magic mike would be amazing for a hen… clearly it’s gone to shit because the groom is insecure and jealous.

Brilliant! 🤣 you probably made his day! 😀

For a laugh. Remember them?

It’s not my cup of tea, but good Lord, try not to be quite so judgemental. You’ll get a nosebleed on a horse that high.

Yeah it’s a no from me as well. I’ve told my bridesmaids no male strippers and no magic mike! It’s so cheesy & not for me at all

I think this is the sort of thing you need to check before you book. It’s not to everyone’s taste.

It’s not something I would enjoy and I’m a real party person. I just find stuff like this really cringy.

I totally agree with this.
I have never heard of Magic Mike, but I find it worrying how controlling the groom sounds.

Yeah do this and then smuggle the bride in so her controlling fiancé can’t tell her off.

Seems it's the GROOM that's not happy.

The amount of people on here who say they can’t believe their husband went to a strip show/ strippers for a stag so I’d guess it’s the same thing. Id think this was too marmite as a guest at a hen/ I know more people who’d find it awkward and horrible and also know women who I’d cringe at sitting next to at this kind of thing!!! Saying that it’s not as gone to shit as you think, sit down with people and figure it out. You were trying to organise something fun, just people’s tastes are different

It’s not my thing at all and I wouldn’t go as an invitee but if you’ve all paid for your tickets and wanted to go, then I’d go anyway and if the bride doesn’t want to, she doesn’t have to go along. Then go to the pub for her actual ‘hen do’. I think if everyone agreed to it including her mum it then it’s not fair to push it back on you at this stage.

Hen do’s are ridiculous these days. If she had rules she should have stipulated them or she should have organised her own thing. It’s all utterly out of control. They’re getting married, not leaving the planet forever.

Does the bride not want to go because the groom has said so, or because it’s not her thing?

If no one raised concerns prior including the mum, I wouldn’t have worried about it either.

If it’s because of the groom I think that’s a bit sad, it’s none of his business really.

By all the pearl clutching on here, I must have seen a different Magic Mike show at the hippodrome in London. The one I saw was quite tame, more dancing and I didn't see 1 willy!! It certainly wasn't a live porno or a P Diddy baby oiled "event"!

@Vickersz I don't think you got this wrong, the bride has watched all the films so is obviously a fan of them and not 1 of the 20 friends has no or shown any doubts and even the brides own mum said it was a good idea.

I think you need to tell the bride that she needs to change the date of her hen and she can now organise it herself and run it past the groom first.

You lot should go so you don't lose your money.

Think you’ve been given an unnecessary hard time OP. It sounds like a typical hen do! I’m a bit of a prude and I’d actually quite like this! Sounds like everyone changed mind once grooming piped up; his reaction / control is the issue!

it doesn’t have to be common or tacky. What gives you the impression it needs to be? Oh and it most certainly is stripping.

I would hate this. Me and partner have an agreement of no strippers or strip shows, don't think that's controlling tbh

I would have been pretty annoyed if anyone booked that when I got married (recently) in fact I arranged a nice meal for men and women instead (grown adults don’t need separate parties) not everyone wants tacky