Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

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I was given the task of organising my best friend’s hen. I, alongside our other friend, decided on Magic Mike Live. It’s very on theme for a hen and from what I have heard just a very silly dance show which gets people dancing and laughing (not at all seedy).

This will be the end of August. So great weather. We thought we’d go in a little tipsy (after bottomless brunch) and have a laugh as a group of girls (and a couple of gay guys). Finish with a dinner and some dancing. And Bob’s your uncle.

It’s all gone to shit.

Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. Everyone’s paid for the non-refundable tickets! There was a bbq last week and it was the main topic of conversation apparently. With all these weird theories as to why it was chosen. It’s not that deep!

My friend often attends bottomless brunch, dances on tables etc. And is no prude.

i genuinely feel ill! It’s being referred to as a strip show! The bride’s step mum and mum will be in attendance.

I really want to walk away from the whole thing.

I spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all

Agree. Same with stag weekends, you don't have to live life like the Jersey Shore.

Can you read?

Then go back and read the posts.

6 of us went last year on a girls trip - it was a hoot! We loved it…. Went to ABBA Voyage the day before.
There was a 92 yr old on stage with 3 generations of daughters getting a lap dance for her birthday 😂

What’s the bride not happy about?
The show for her hen or her fella kicking off about the show for her hen? 🤔

Op I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong. It’s a normal thing to do on a hen do and most people would enjoy it. I really don’t think the pearl clutching MN crew are your average females in this instance. No-one is expecting you to enjoy this every weekend. It’s a one off ffs

also it is relevant that the bride dances on tables. She’s obv not some shrinking violet

so id guess this is due to the future husband. Which IMO is a weird red flag

I'm not a prude and did plenty of dancing on tables. I would have been fuming if someone booked this for my hen do though. Luckily my friends knew me well enough to not do it.

1. You're right, it's not my thing
2. You have completely ignored the point of my post. I take issue with posters calling those of us who don't like these shows "prudes"
3. Objectification is always disrespectful, even if the performers only take their shirts off. That some people are okay with it or make money with it, doesn't make it any less objectifying or dehumanizing. A human is not an object, never has been and never will be. It's always been a slippery slope to forget that. At best it leads to a loss of a sense of self for both performer and spectator, at worse it leads to murder. In between you have everything from exploitation, to rape, to slavery, to assault, to trafficking, etc. It's never completely innocent or "just a bit of fun".

What’s the bride not happy about?
The show for her hen or her fella kicking off about the show for her hen?

Yeah, I think this is the main bit.
The OP sounds like the bride liked it until her fiance kicked off about it?

@SmoothRoads such a strong reaction!

It surely is reduced, purely, to some enjoy this kind of show, whilst others don't?

It’s not relevant that the bride likes dancing on tables.
That does not mean you want to see strippers.

People are not one dimensional.

How nasty. Eat your words, he went paintballing.

if he can keep it clean then it’s fair enough he expects his wife too. I find this grim rather than a laugh and idea of fun!

Id be cringing if i had a magic mike dance for a hen do or for anything.
Some like it some dont.
Im one that dont like it i couldn`t watch the film either i was dying from the inside out with cringe.

Edited- to add i knew a group of women in there 40s and 50s that had a grease lighting hen do sound awful but it was bloody brilliant.

Huge amounts of hypocrisy on this thread. Every woman banning their partner from strip clubs is fully supported, regardless of the club (so even when the partner doesn’t get a dance)

on this thread a man saying exactly the same is labelled as controlling.

it’s not surprising for mumsnet though…

It’s not clear if you’re a man’s or a woman

if you’re a woman, well done for having boundaries,

if you’re a man, how dare you be so controlling!

Agree. If these people arent hypocrites then that must mean they are happy with their husbands going to strip clubs and watching women gyrate in their underwear and having lap dances.

I guess we all have different standards.

I’m waiting for all the “it’s different” responses.

ignoring all the people saying “it’s not about the show, it’s the principle of him controlling where she goes”

And the worst thing is, having been in an actual controlling and abusive relationship I find it awful that people would complare being in that kind of DV situation with having a fiance that isn't keen on hi partner watching sleazy male strippers.

Expressing opinions and having boundaries isn't being controlling. A healthy relationship still allows both partners to have boundaries and expectations.

Yes and she should have made no strippers a boundary clearly at the start.lesson learned maybe to check before buying or keep it a surprise

Op which date are your tickets bought for?

Jesus op you’re getting a hard time! I bet half the people clutching their pearls on here would be quite happy watching burlesque - to insinuate it is seedy and sexual is laughable. Standard hen night entertainment - sorry the groom is so weird and the bride is making you feel bad - I’d ditch the lot of them, precious snowflakes.

Is the bride unhappy with Magic Mike or is she unhappy with the groom reacting the way he has?

It really isn’t.

It’s about… stripping… and sexually gyrating and dancing. It’s about pouring oil over themselves in a sexualised manner.

This should all have been sorted prior to booking.

At this stage, I think you should all just go anyway, and then arrange a nice afternoon tea for the bride.

Yes, some people enjoy objectifying other peoples bodies and others don't.

But it's never harmless.

No I wouldn't want to go to a burlesque show either.

And Magic Mike dancing and burlesque are both sexual.

It seems pretty tame to me.

I've only been to one hen do that had all the stereotypical hen do stuff (I've been to many others but it tends to be something a bit more weird, like sock wrestling or trampolining). At the stereotypical hen do I had to go to see an actual strip show, with the men windmilling their penises covered in UV paint under a strobe light. And the bride snogged and groped one of them, while drinking a pint of prosecco through a penis straw. Compared to that I would take Magic Mike any day!

Well she clearly lacks class for a start.