Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

[Vickersz]

I was given the task of organising my best friend’s hen. I, alongside our other friend, decided on Magic Mike Live. It’s very on theme for a hen and from what I have heard just a very silly dance show which gets people dancing and laughing (not at all seedy).

This will be the end of August. So great weather. We thought we’d go in a little tipsy (after bottomless brunch) and have a laugh as a group of girls (and a couple of gay guys). Finish with a dinner and some dancing. And Bob’s your uncle.

It’s all gone to shit.

Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. Everyone’s paid for the non-refundable tickets! There was a bbq last week and it was the main topic of conversation apparently. With all these weird theories as to why it was chosen. It’s not that deep!

My friend often attends bottomless brunch, dances on tables etc. And is no prude.

i genuinely feel ill! It’s being referred to as a strip show! The bride’s step mum and mum will be in attendance.

I really want to walk away from the whole thing.

I spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all

100% this. 'He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go' would totally give me the ick and would just make me want to go more...

It's an over-18 show.

With men with not much on gyrating around and simulating sex while the largely female audience whoops and yells.

They're not doing the merengue.

@ByBlueMoose

…and? So what? The bride and all hens are all presumably over the age of 18

And....it's not classical dance is it?

Which is what I was posting in response to 🙄

Maybe something more up-market? Perhaps 'Rigoletto' would suit you instead? It's about rape, murder and revenge. Nice songs, though. Lighten up, it's just men with their shirts off - we aren't living in Victorian London!

Why does the Dirty Dancing stage show attract hen dos and groups of women? Why are there very few heterosexual men going to see Taylor Swift with their mates? This is not a well thought out argument.

you've missed the mark though @Vickersz

When you say 'you spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all' do you mean she's not happy about the groom's response or not happy about seeing Magic Mike?

He might be coercive….or possibly the bride has expressed her discomfort to her fiancé and he’s doing the protective thing and supporting that she doesn’t want to go because she feels embarrassed about it? Why should she go to something she would find excruciating?
I dance on tables and love a good time, but I’d rather fly to the moon than go to a tacky show like this. I’d feel totally uncomfortable.

Regardless of what a person thinks of this sort of thing, the issue is that the groom seems to be forbidding his bride from doing something. That’s between them, and I would be telling her to discuss with him and let you know whether she wants to proceed or not, on the assumption that groom (or bride: it should be the groom but that’s between them) refunds everyone.

I’m assuming the whole hen party doesn’t know each other so it would be weird for everyone to go without the bride (so only one lost ticket) and then a whole entire, afternoon tea-style (!!) hen party another day for the actual hen?

What a shitshow. The groom sounds fucking awful (and I think Magic Mike sounds fucking awful!). Two extremes on the same continuum
of men keeping women where they need them to be.

I've been and it's very tame and a laugh. I think the groom is probably controlling the bride's decision on this

Bet the older women will love it!

It’s not what I’d choose for my hen, but it sounds like if even the bride’s mother (not to mention all her friends) thought she’d like it then it’s her fiancé who is clearly kicking off.

So I don’t think it’s your fault. You should all go anyway and do a hen for her on a different day. One of those tame ones that he’ll approve of, like a picnic or afternoon tea.

I went to it on a hen night. I was basically a sheep and went along with it to keep the peace. I assumed the other women were really into it. Afterwards we realised that none of us apart from the organiser actually wanted to do it but all thought everyone else did and didn't want to make anyone feel bad by saying no. 😂

Unfortnualty in your case, if the bride has said no then...

Can you change the tickets to a different night so everyone can still do it if they want to? Can you sell the tickets?

The groom is a twat and this isn’t your fault, people here are being obnoxious for the sake of it - it’s not as if you’re trying to make them go!

You know the bride, so does her mum and her other friends, and everyone thought it sounded like fun. I’d be inclined to go anyway with whoever still wants to if you can’t get a refund, and maybe pick a different date for the hen if Mr Misery won’t get over himself.

I feel like to be in the position of organising the hen, you know this person very well and are good friends. You know this is something she would enjoy and get into the spirit of, and it’s probably the fiancé who has put a dampener on it. Even her mum and step mum are attending, they would have also said something! I think this is exactly the kind of hen I’d go on and expect to be invited to with my friends, it sounds like you’ve organised a really fun day. I’m sorry you’re now getting grief for it. It does seem to be pointing to the partner causing the issue though, which is concerning. I guess you have to say she can stay bottomless drinking whilst you go and have fun and meet you after!

No I finally, after a lot of crap from him, packed his bags because he was, amongst other things, controlling.

🤣🤣 I don't think so

Am as auld as Methuselah mind

If the bride is the type of person who dances on tables I would have thought Magic Mike would be her type of thing.

Why?

I’ve been twice. Once for my 50th where I ended up on stage lol and I would have agreed it was pretty tame - saucy but not filthy

I then went on a hen and ermagad. It was filth 😂
I mean we laughed so hard at the brides mum and aunts being lap danced but it was deffo switched up a few notches.

however. Groom needs to grow the f up - the strippers are not in ANY way interested in any of the guests, it’s absolutely not like a lap dancing club. Not at all. The dances were for 30 seconds and just randomly distributed to the women who
looked most horrified lol

go anyway and have it as a ‘birthday celebration’ and have a pub lunch for her hen

@QOD I don't think many strippers are interested in the male clientele in strip clubs, doesn't make lap dances okay.

@ByBlueMoose

who wants to go see classical dance for a hen do? 🤣

I actually divorced my ex over this kinda thing. She booked male "dancers" for her sister's hen night and didn't say anything to me about it. I only found out when I called her on the way to the hotel which had the venue, she told me then.

It was full contact stripping and he paid for her sister to have a "hot seat" on stage.

I searched social media that night and wish I hadn't, lots of videos of women grabbing their dicks etc. I was horrified.

She lied to me about pretty much everything that happened, I found out everyone knew in the family except me.

Felt like cheating.

My point is, had it been communicated I'd had voiced my issue. It's not just about the "hen" having what she wants. It's a line that some are unhappy cross.

@Cherrytree86 some people might, if that is what they like. Hen nights don't have to be tacky, drunken affairs