Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

[Vickersz]

I was given the task of organising my best friend’s hen. I, alongside our other friend, decided on Magic Mike Live. It’s very on theme for a hen and from what I have heard just a very silly dance show which gets people dancing and laughing (not at all seedy).

This will be the end of August. So great weather. We thought we’d go in a little tipsy (after bottomless brunch) and have a laugh as a group of girls (and a couple of gay guys). Finish with a dinner and some dancing. And Bob’s your uncle.

It’s all gone to shit.

Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. Everyone’s paid for the non-refundable tickets! There was a bbq last week and it was the main topic of conversation apparently. With all these weird theories as to why it was chosen. It’s not that deep!

My friend often attends bottomless brunch, dances on tables etc. And is no prude.

i genuinely feel ill! It’s being referred to as a strip show! The bride’s step mum and mum will be in attendance.

I really want to walk away from the whole thing.

I spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all

I am not following your 'reasoning' there at all

Of course they didn’t.. Hardly going to tell a female friend they got a €20 handjob from the stripper.

We thought we’d go in a little tipsy

Imagine planning being drunk this much in advance for August 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Is it the actual bride who isn’t happy or the husband? People make such a big deal over things like this - it’s really not a big deal! It’s a show! If the bride is happy I wouldn’t worry, if she is unhappy then I wonder if you should cancel it? I know it’s been paid for but I went to a hen once and the bride really did not want a strip show, she got one and it basically made for a tense horrible weekend!

Make the Hens the night before and the lunch.

On sell the Magic Mike show tickets as best as you can.
Maybe some of the 19 will want to attend but as a separate event to the Hens, of course.

Never mind if they are equivalent or not. I watched the video and it is horrendously tacky and over-the-top.

But it has a smutty undertone and it sounds like that is not the bride’s thing.
was the same when my friend got married. She hates anything ostentatious or connected with nudity/smut. We wanted to do a dance class and they were pushing burlesque on us as it was a hen do but we knew she’d hate it so we went for a salsa workshop.

There's no need for that.

As said, the bride enjoyed the films and everyone else in the hen group thought it was a good idea.
Why be so stern?

It's so disrespectful to the groom. (Or vice versa when men go to strip clubs)

I like a good dance, but no way would I want to go to something like that. I would have refused to go whether it was my hen do or a friend's

As its non refundable and got the okay from the brides mother, I'd still press on ahead. It's up to the bride if she wants to now out, but I wouldn't be arranging another event! Its harmless and a bit of fun!

Sorry @Vickersz but YABU. If you are so close to the bride that you are organising the Hen, then you should know her enough to know she would hate anything that resembles a strip show (Magic Mike pretty much is one. Very erotic and sexual themes.)

Everyone who knows me knows that I would hit the roof if someone arranged a stripper for me. Or any kind of show with stripping, and mostly naked/totally naked men. I would be very embarrassed, and angry. I'm not a prude, and like a laugh and a good time as much as the next person, but I hate anything like this. And I think male strippers and the lewd acts many of them perform (in front of drunken women) are vile. Utterly vile.

A woman I know had one arranged by her work colleagues, and she got very drunk, and someone took a photo of her with the stripper's (hard) penis 2" from her mouth. 7 years ago this was, and it still haunts her. Everyone seems to have a copy! I have to say no matter how drunk I was, I wouldn't be 2" from a stripper's penis for all the money in the world, but I'm not her.

I know this may not be what Magic Mike is (not quite,) but it is along the same lines, and I know that the bride-to-be's husband, and her are thinking this. Almost naked, writhing men performing suggestive/sexual moves. Probably coming in to the audience. That's what they're thinking. Yep, I would not be happy either. My DH probably wouldn't care if I went to see Magic Mike, but I would not go.

My father apparently called off his stag do and crashed my mams hen do because he was so insecure/controlling. She was always annoyed/bitter about it. Guess how that turned out? theres a reason he is now 60 and alone with a long string of failed relationships (non lasting more than 5 years).

He was a horribly controlling and wildly sexist man, people keep claiming there where 'no signs' and he 'got worse with age' but there clearly where signs all along.

I would tell your friend to pay attention to these signs.

I think you’ve asked the wrong audience here OP - I think this sounds like a bloody amazing hen, wish you’d organised mine!

The whole thing is supposed to be for the bride!

But it's OK if she doesn't go because she hates the idea.

Don't arrange anyone's hen party will you, like ever?!!

Agree with this. Given that the bride’s mum thought it was a good idea, along with everyone else that was invited …

Well, that was a bit of a stretch. Assuming the bride to be is going to have a horrible marriage to a controlling and abusive man because the hen's husband-to-be isn't happy with her going to what he believes is a strip show. Good grief!

Clearly, she doesn't know her daughter as well as she thinks she does.

Of course you're getting a load of replies saying how tacky and crass it is, this is mumsnet. The bigger concern, of course, seems to be that the husband to be is dictating whether or not she can go.

I've been to Magic Mike Live for a friend's birthday- wasn't my first choice but honestly it's more like a naff dance revue on a cruise ship than a strip club. It's basically made for hen dos.

If the bride really doesn't want to go then you shouldn't, but if she handed over organising of her hen to someone else she should have made it clear any dealbreakers. Sounds more to me like it's her husband that is stopping her from going rather than it being what she doesn't want.

Well she certainly doesn’t know her future son-in-law as well as she thinks she does

Given there are different opinions (and knowledge) of what Magic Mike involves on here, is it possible the DM doesn’t know what it is?

I'm sure his wife to be does. And that's all that matters. His mother-in-law doesn't need to know him.

People on here: "Oh, it's sooo tacky for a hen do."

Typical hen do: "Look at my giant inflatable penis!"

🤣🤣🤣

Her reasoning is she's allowed to be insecure but her husband isn't

Can’t say this would be my cup of tea, but the groom’s attitude is concerning. He sounds controlling and possessive.

@Catinthereallysmallhat you think every stag do involves a strip club?! Wow