To have expected a response to a Welcome to Your New Home card

[Sassetta]

New neighbours moved in a month ago. The first day we, their immediate neighbours, dropped in a welcome to your new home card. Response? Zero.

AIBU to think it’s basic civility to say, at some point, “thank you for your card, hello we’re so-and-so”?

It’s not as though I want to hang over the garden fence and pry into their lives. I just think that if someone gives you a card it’s polite to acknowledge it.

You sound just like my mother ruminating over some perceived slight. A response is not expected usually and it's nothing personal

They're moving. They barely remember what day it is, never mind who gave them a card. They'll probably say hi once the chaos has receded.

Well you are just miserable aren’t you!

What! I just said I don't expect a response.

Nope just not a dram llama

I hate busybodies. An introduction is all you need. I wouldn't dream of intruding on a new neighbour like this.

Agree. Leave people in peace - they’ll introduce themselves when they’re settled (if they choose to)

Ive lived in my flat a year this month - other than the couple due stairs and next door who take in parcels, I’ve never seen anyone else.

I would have felt like a card like that was intrusive and placed an expectation on me, and I wouldn't have appreciated that. You're strangers to them. Too much.

The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty.

The overbearing neighbour sees offence in every (lack of) response.

Very profound.
Hardly apt in this scenario, though?!

You don’t see it!

Ok then 👍

Not exactly apt over a drama about a cheap card but hey ho

Ain’t that the truth - so much angst of a 99p card from Clinton’s

I don't think I'd have expected one.
We moved back in September last year, and didn't get any sort of card. Nothing from the departing seller either - just a single sheet of scrappy notebook paper telling me when bin day was!
My immediate neighbours (our driveways are side by side), I perhaps see once a week, usually through a window. We physically cross paths maybe once a month, say hello, and that's it. Don't even know their names. They probably know mine, because I sent them a Christmas card, "Zingally from number 22", but they didn't send one back.

It could have been a hand made one??

I think OP would have made a massive thing of mentioned this.

Yes agreed! Also likely live in different types of areas. We've ended up in a very close knit community so normal to know our neighbours and drop cards round etc

Do they know it's from you? If there's a few neighbours around perhaps they don't know who to thank.

It’s not the done thing to respond to or acknowledge cards.

More likely, it got lost in the move, or they saw it, thought “that’s kind”, put it up on the mantelpiece then thought no more of it.

Your expectation of acknowledgement at a time when they’ll have been incredibly busy is nuts.

Card manufacturers are missing a trick here. There surely needs to be Thank you for the lovely card card.
Possibly even a Thank you for the Thank you for the card card...

Don't give them ideas ....

Did you give the card to welcome them or did you give the card because you wanted to look good and get praise?!
if it’s the former then no response is needed.
Give yourself a Pat on the back and let your neighbours finish unpacking, decorating, and settling in…. I’m sure at some point when their brains are calmer they’ll see you out the front and say ‘oh by the way…. Thank you for the lovely card’… or maybe they’re very private people and the most you’ll ever find out about them is their names when you take in a parcel for them!

Hmmmm Not really cos had bought card and gift just she saw them on the side and wanted to go round on that day…..think it’s nice so show children acts of kindness and welcome neighbours

I did this to our new neighbour. Months later, they found the card - they hadn’t initially been able to access their posh mailbox as the previous owners had neglected to give it to them, so it was only after they realised they hadn’t received any mail since moving that they managed to get a locksmith out!