2nd Date, he embarrassed me in a restaurant

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Am I over reacting here? I suspect I might be.

1st date went well, 2nd date today. We went for for late/early dinner. nice restaurant. We got talking about Austria, Switzerland etc and he said “I can yodel”. I just laughed so he said “I can show you?” So I laughed again and said “in the middle of a restaurant?”

He then started yodelling loudly. I swear everyone turned around and looked at us. I’m normally pretty passive and would usually just quietly die inside but on this occasion I was beyond embarrassed, absolutely mortified and snapped “Shush!”

He laughed and said “what?” So I said “seriously? We’re in the middle of a restaurant”. He said sorry (whilst still laughing) and tried to change the subject but I couldn’t get past it. Who does that?

I don’t like being centre of attention and yes I embarrass easy. I ended up going home early as I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. He’s messaged me since asking if everything is ok, I don’t think he’s actually associating my change in mood to the yodelling incident!! Making me think maybe I’m over reacting??

Sounds a bit crazy doesn't he? Or immature at the least....

He's and extrovert - you're an introvert and self conscious. Sometimes the mix works, but maybe not for you. I'd say - give it a chance, another couple of dates maybe and see how it goes....

I often wonder why it's always the people who do mad socially unconventional things and behave like the zany friend in a romantic comedy who get credited with embracing life, seizing the day, living in the moment etc. Maybe OP's embracing life by having pleasant evenings in nice restaurants and not forcing other people to take part in her attention-seeking antics, you know, like a normal adult.

This is key information OP!

Because ‘Whatever you do, never attract other people’s attention’ is about the most uninteresting life ambition, ever?

High on a hill

Yodeling in a restaurant and OP hasn’t returned? Was someone angling for Classics? 😂

Was he high?

Did he yodel well?

You know psychosis and psychopathy are two different things?

I don't think this is real, but I would probably find it funny. I don't find the misuse of the word psychotic funny though.

This is what I think. He wanted to see how you’d react.

I would have found it cringey but i wouldnt dismiss him i would try another date if he did something daft again game over.

Some people are attention seeking.
I remember being at a wedding when i was 19.
I was seated next to a middle aged couple both dead loud and chavvy.
They kept touching each other up talking about sex.
When the food arrived they both hand fed each other including a slice of the cake.
I vowed never to be like that.

I think some people can pull this kind of thing off and others just can’t 😬

Yeah, i may think for a split second a bit odd and if it a very regular thing of being really loud it wouldn't work for me but as a one off I would just have moved on

So why's he single too then?

You miss the point. Both can be unacceptable.

Doesn't have to be extreme opposites though, yodelling on a date isn't the measure of of a fulfilled life,same as not wanting to attract attention doesnt equate to boring.

Theres a time and place.

He sounds like the sort who plays his music on speaker and has loud conversations on public transport.

Good one 👏😂.

Can this please be the 2025 version of T-Rex-ing in the supermarket? Yodelling in the restaurant!!
Hilarious.
I'd be embarrassed but also highly entertained, op.

The best lover I ever had possessed exquisite manners both inside the bedroom and outside. I think that anyone who lacks the social graces to know that yodelling in a restaurant is horrendous on so many levels is going to be a disaster in the bedroom.

• What he did is just flat-out embarrassing.
• Also rude to diners who might have hearing aids, which magnify awful noises like that.
• Arrogant enough to think he can yodel in the middle of a restaurant and still be just as attractive to you.
• Arrogant enough not to think or care if he might embarrass you.

I am cringing with second-hand embarrassment on your behalf. I'll bet he's awkward and embarrassing in other areas of life, too.

I'm sorry, I could never, after that. I'd rather be single for a million fucking years than date someone who yodels loudly in the middle of a restaurant.

When you are halfway up a mountain that is bare of snow??? 🤭

Just went onto YouTube and refreshed my memory of yodelling. God, what an awful sound. Even when done well, it's a dreadful noise.

My ex-husband used to embarrass me a lot in public. I think all the posters saying how hilarious they would have found it don't really know what it's like to have an embarrassing partner.

Sometimes men do stupid things when they get over excited. Also, I suspect he was trying to make you laugh but went a bit too far. He won't know that you really didn't enjoy that if you aren't honest with him about it, so try and do your best in saying please never ever do that again!

Id go on another date, if that was the only thing that didn't go great!

my now DH drank something on our 2nd date that went straight through him after we left the restaurant. He did this ridiculous over the top 'walk' holding his bladder all the way to a 24 hour tesco the other side of town to relive himself. I was really embarrassed as I didn't know him all that well but he had me howling with laughter and I couldn't help but admire his confidence in what was a really awkward moment. Reader, he honesty didn't nearly make it but we dont talk about that!

Perhaps you are not compatible but I would give him another chance.