2nd Date, he embarrassed me in a restaurant

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Am I over reacting here? I suspect I might be.

1st date went well, 2nd date today. We went for for late/early dinner. nice restaurant. We got talking about Austria, Switzerland etc and he said “I can yodel”. I just laughed so he said “I can show you?” So I laughed again and said “in the middle of a restaurant?”

He then started yodelling loudly. I swear everyone turned around and looked at us. I’m normally pretty passive and would usually just quietly die inside but on this occasion I was beyond embarrassed, absolutely mortified and snapped “Shush!”

He laughed and said “what?” So I said “seriously? We’re in the middle of a restaurant”. He said sorry (whilst still laughing) and tried to change the subject but I couldn’t get past it. Who does that?

I don’t like being centre of attention and yes I embarrass easy. I ended up going home early as I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. He’s messaged me since asking if everything is ok, I don’t think he’s actually associating my change in mood to the yodelling incident!! Making me think maybe I’m over reacting??

There’s someone for everyone, as they say 😁 (Not for me though sadly).

I know exactly what you mean, I dumped a guy in my 20’s who was like this including the horrible fingernails (he claimed he needed them to play his guitar properly - ugh, my vag said nope!)

Honestly, this wouldn’t bother me! I really do like an outrageous person!(as long as it’s not all the time🤣) I like a person that doesn’t give a shit (again, within reason) and yodelling is up there for me.

However, if you’re embarrassed, you’re embarrassed. Tell him to do it at his mum’s!

I would find it absolutely hilariously mortifying. Have you asked if he did this for a bet with some friends? I know I’d be dying inside but would quickly laugh it off and get over it! He sounds like a hoot and like he doesn’t take himself too seriously, give him a chance!

Spot on. Run… fast!

I'm practically immune to embarrassment and would find this hysterical. On the other hand my Husband would have walked out mortified.

Well he’s a bit of a prat and you’re very uptight so it’s not really going to work out.

Quite so. If I was one of the other diners, I would feel extremely uncomfortable. Being so noisy in a ’nice’ restaurant that others turn and look at you is embarrassing for everyone. This is who he is - let him find someone else. He needs someone equally inconsiderate and lacking self-awareness and social skills, and you need someone better.

Would you consider letting him churn your milk on a 3rd date ?

Compatibility issue.

There's a spectrum for how people feel about standing out/being different in public and it sounds like you're on one extreme and he's on the other. In the same way you can't really imagine being so unbothered by it and thinking that was fun he just can't relate to it causing sustained upset. He stopped when you asked him to then moved on but the idea that you were still not over it later didn't occur to him in the same way that you were blindsided when he actually yodelled in public. Neither of you are wrong but I'd expect you're too far apart on the spectrum to be a good match. There doesn't need to be a villain in every story.

Is this a euphemism?

But surely the point of eating out in a restaurant is to be with other people as well as eating a nice meal?
E.g. when the waiting staff sing happy birthday to a diner, is it really an issue to other diners who see it as disturbing them and interrupting their conversations? Personally I like seeing things like this.
Personally I wouldn't yodel but I wouldn't care if someone did it for ten seconds in a restaurant. My life is so quiet I'd probably dine out on that story another time.

The OP's date sounds like he's someone who isn't self conscious and is fun.
They don't sound compatible though and for both their sakes, its probably better not to date again because they will end up being too critical of one another.

It would be the end for me. What an idiot.

Rude to the other patrons and very attention seeking. Nope.

You’d have to laugh.

Mn, where it’s apparently perfectly normal to be married to a farting, porn-using lout who is incapable of looking after his own children, cooking, cleaning his own house, remembering birthdays or doing laundry, or having a conversation beyond a grunt because he’s absent on some mysterious ‘hobby’.

But no, the real villain is an apparently nice date who, the horror, draws other people’s attention in a restaurant. By yodelling.

Its possible to disagree with both you know.

Total twat.
Doesn't know how to behave in public, and I certainly couldn't be arsed to be explaining basic shit to him.
Attention seeking idiot.
Dump.
Yanbu.

I would have been so embarrassed on your behalf if I had been in the restaurant. It also shows a lack of social etiquette and disregard of other people which would put me right off.

Seems very attention seeking to me. It would put me off him to be honest.

Probably not compatible.
It may not be for you (yodelling in public is rather niche !)
But anyone remember the episode of First Dates with Tim and Sarah? He was pretty off the wall (the one who introduced himself with the famous Rik Mayall joke ‘what does a man with a two foot cock have for breakfast? well this morning I had a boiled egg’..). She found him quite hilarious but equally could have found him mortifying.

I think he's done you a favour by revealing his...err, quirky side, so early on, save you a lot of time. I'm sure there are women out there who'd find his behaviour endearing, and i guess there are worse things he could have done. At least you get a funny story out of it🤔

Ouch!!

YANBU, assuming it was loud enough I would be a bit annoyed if I was at a restaurant and someone the next table over did this while I was trying to have a nice meal. As a date this would personally put me off, but on the other hand at least it seems he’s not uptight and doesn’t take himself too seriously.

This would put me right off !