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2nd Date, he embarrassed me in a restaurant

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RTooDeeTo · 30/05/2025 19:42

Am I over reacting here? I suspect I might be.

1st date went well, 2nd date today. We went for for late/early dinner. nice restaurant. We got talking about Austria, Switzerland etc and he said “I can yodel”. I just laughed so he said “I can show you?” So I laughed again and said “in the middle of a restaurant?”

He then started yodelling loudly. I swear everyone turned around and looked at us. I’m normally pretty passive and would usually just quietly die inside but on this occasion I was beyond embarrassed, absolutely mortified and snapped “Shush!”

He laughed and said “what?” So I said “seriously? We’re in the middle of a restaurant”. He said sorry (whilst still laughing) and tried to change the subject but I couldn’t get past it. Who does that?

I don’t like being centre of attention and yes I embarrass easy. I ended up going home early as I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. He’s messaged me since asking if everything is ok, I don’t think he’s actually associating my change in mood to the yodelling incident!! Making me think maybe I’m over reacting??

OP posts:
real13 · 30/05/2025 19:53

I think he was trying to be flirty and funny because he wants to impress you and make you laugh.

I would also be mortified and be thinking ‘shut the fuck up’. I wouldn’t let it put me off this time, but if this sort of thing happens again then I would call it a day.

GreyCarpet · 30/05/2025 19:53

You're just not compatible.

I very much doubt he's done it to test your boundaries 🙄 but it might well have been done to test your compatibility.

tuvamoodyson · 30/05/2025 19:55

Is he Frank Ifield? I would have been embarrassed too OP. 🙈

Left · 30/05/2025 19:56

I think I’d hate this.

But also I’m over invested - I really wanted to know how skilled he was at yodelling?

MrBlobbyScaresMe · 30/05/2025 19:58

🤣I'd have been so embarrassed. I'd probably give him one more chance but I feel like this is just the first of a list of things to come.

Glitchymn1 · 30/05/2025 19:59

🤣I’m not sure this happened.

Mydahliasareshit · 30/05/2025 20:02

Attention seeking men are really hard work. You can never relax or fully trust when you never know when the next impromptu performance will be. It's always about them and how fucking 'gregarious' and 'people person-y' they are. He will shrink you if you let him.

VoltaireMittyDream · 30/05/2025 20:03

This would give me such intolerable ick. There’s a very particular type of man who behaves this way, and also probably does historical re-enactments at the weekend / owns a selection of onesies / has weirdly long fingernails filed to points.

ClimbEveryLadder · 30/05/2025 20:07

That would be it for me. He’s attention seeking and doesn’t care about the comfort of other diners or the staff.

2 dates it’s just not worth investing anymore time

ilovesooty · 30/05/2025 20:08

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 30/05/2025 19:47

Omg! 😄😄 no, youre not at all, he needs to be chucked back! Psychotic behaviour

Uninhibited perhaps. Hardly psychotic.
Still if @RTooDeeTo can't get past it, she is of course quite free not to see him again.

JemimaTiggywinkles · 30/05/2025 20:11

I’d die of embarrassment but also be a bit impressed that he was brave enough to do it. As long as he knew not to do it again anywhere I was!

ilovesushi · 30/05/2025 20:15

That does sound hilarious. I am sure the other diners had a lot of empathy for you.

coxesorangepippin · 30/05/2025 20:15

Terrible

Curtains for me

Zone2NorthLondon · 30/05/2025 20:16

You’re evidently not compatible. Don’t see him again
He will need to click with a woman who likes his SoH And Yodelling

lightslittle · 30/05/2025 20:17

I think it’s an overreaction.

I would flip in round - he didn’t embarrass you, you felt embarrassed by something he did. Might mean you’re not compatible and that’s fine.

I would be irritated he had disturbed other diners, as I think that’s a bit rude but also I like it when someone doesn’t care what people think about them!

Zone2NorthLondon · 30/05/2025 20:17

VoltaireMittyDream · 30/05/2025 20:03

This would give me such intolerable ick. There’s a very particular type of man who behaves this way, and also probably does historical re-enactments at the weekend / owns a selection of onesies / has weirdly long fingernails filed to points.

lol, love your v descriptive post

threenaancurrywhore · 30/05/2025 20:17

That would be a nodel from me.

TheCurious0range · 30/05/2025 20:17

Was the yodelling good?
I think I'd find this really funny albeit I'd be a bit mortified. I quite like the kind of confidence that means dinnertime isn't worried what strangers think of them.

CestLaVieYouSee · 30/05/2025 20:18

You two don’t sound compatible, I certainly wouldn’t find it cool to be in that situation. Just chalk it up to the fun of dating

nomas · 30/05/2025 20:18

SeaFloor · 30/05/2025 19:52

This. I mean, there’s no right or wrong here. You’re just incompatible. I’d probably have been amused, if I found him attractive and was liking him. If I didn’t, I would probably have imagined him yodelling in the throes of orgasm, got a giant attack of the ick, feigned sudden illness or climbed out the bathroom window.

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They’re not so much incompatible as him just being a loon. OP is fine in this scenario, he is not.

Feetinthegrass · 30/05/2025 20:18

I would probably laugh but if you don’t like it, that’s fine, don’t see him again. Simples.

thecatneuterer · 30/05/2025 20:19

nomas · 30/05/2025 19:47

Run like the wind. Seriously.

He absolutely knew he embarrassed you and is testing your boundaries. If you still see him, he knows he can escalate it.

I can't work out if this is a joke. I hope it is. Escalate to grime rapping (or whatever it's called) maybe? That would be embarrassing.

Leeds2 · 30/05/2025 20:19

I would've been mortified, and hated every moment of it. But, from what you say he did stop when you asked him to so maybe he just misjudged the situation and was simply trying to impress you? I would probably give him another chance. Just one chance, mind!

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/05/2025 20:19

VoltaireMittyDream · 30/05/2025 20:03

This would give me such intolerable ick. There’s a very particular type of man who behaves this way, and also probably does historical re-enactments at the weekend / owns a selection of onesies / has weirdly long fingernails filed to points.

ALLLLLLL of this.

Zone2NorthLondon · 30/05/2025 20:19

I expect he’s that performative type - only me,speak as I find, comedy socks and impressions