2nd Date, he embarrassed me in a restaurant

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Am I over reacting here? I suspect I might be.

1st date went well, 2nd date today. We went for for late/early dinner. nice restaurant. We got talking about Austria, Switzerland etc and he said “I can yodel”. I just laughed so he said “I can show you?” So I laughed again and said “in the middle of a restaurant?”

He then started yodelling loudly. I swear everyone turned around and looked at us. I’m normally pretty passive and would usually just quietly die inside but on this occasion I was beyond embarrassed, absolutely mortified and snapped “Shush!”

He laughed and said “what?” So I said “seriously? We’re in the middle of a restaurant”. He said sorry (whilst still laughing) and tried to change the subject but I couldn’t get past it. Who does that?

I don’t like being centre of attention and yes I embarrass easy. I ended up going home early as I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. He’s messaged me since asking if everything is ok, I don’t think he’s actually associating my change in mood to the yodelling incident!! Making me think maybe I’m over reacting??

What a dick.

Heavens but you lot are gullible

What is this - Sistine Chapel The Restaurant Edit?

That's quite early to bring out the wierd.

I'd personally die but I have a real thing about it as my mum used to never be able to control the volume of her voice in public 😆

Yodelling is a red flag….

😆 Does OP mean she snapped and farted?

Jeez lighten up op. Not light he lit a fart in Harrods.....

Just thank the Lord you brought up the subject of Austria and Switzerland this soon!

If you stick with him, don’t go booking any alpine holidays! 🤣🤣

This is Mumsnet, people think it's fine to take effluent like McDonalds into a cinema so yodelling in a restaurant is just a bit of banter. You're being judgey. Which is the MN sin of sins.

It's uncommon behavior, one that requires a potential partner to be able to match in kind.

This^

This is the point of dating, to find out whether you're compatible together.

Someone who embarrasses easily and someone immune to embarrassment, probably not that compatible.

I think this would make me wish the ground would open up and swallow me if it happened to me. I’m a massive introvert and find uber-extroverted people exhausting.

You asked he did it....when you get Abit older you honestly don't care about randoms in the restaurant and being embarrassed..who cares...the main question is do you enjoy being with him and does he treat you well. If not don't meet again if you do meet him again...

That’s not what introvert and extrovert mean. They just describe where you get energy.

I don’t embarrass easily, this wouldn’t bother me.

BUT it bothers you and that’s all that matters.

I laughed out loud at this one, and that’s rare from a post! I get that it would put you off. TBH it probably would me too. But I also think fair play to him, that’s hilarious, I bet he’s great fun. I kinda want to be friends with him.

This just sounds plain rude to the other people in the restaurant, which I hate. So that's a hard no from me.

From experience - get out now. It'll only get worse.

Seems almost a 50/50 split. I couldn’t be with someone who had so little social awareness about their behaviour in a closed public space.
If he’d chosen to yodel on a mountain or outside location, I’d feel it was more acceptable. However, inside a restaurant, just no!!

I think he sounds fun. But I don’t embarrass all that easily.

Definitely throw this one back. I couldn’t date someone with no social graces who doesn’t mind making a spectacle of themselves.

Attention seeking is such an unattractive quality.

Did you have a yodelling date too? Did he try to get you to perform as a duo?

It's the second date so if he embarrassed you it's a no. Just don't see him again. No harm done.

I’m not sure you know what psychopathy is. He obviously just thought it was funny.

😭😭😭 omg no, sometimes hyperbole is necessary!