Partner has wet the bed…

[WFHbore2023]

41 year old healthy man, never happened before, completely sober. Obviously this is concerning (and my main concern) and he will contact his doctor.

woke me up this morning saying that we need to get up and change the bed, obviously not ideal but he’s embarrassed so I just crack on. He helps me strip the bed and then goes off to shower.

I’m working today, he’s taken the children out for the day, and so I have been left with a superking duvet to wash and dry, along with mattress topper, protector, sheets and any other bedding.

AIBU to be pretty pissed off that he’s just cracked on with his day without so much as a conversation over whether or not I was ok to sort everything out this end?

How exactly have I treated him?
i have posted anonymously on a forum that he doesn’t even knows exists.
there’s not a person in the world who could read this and know it’s about him.

Thank you for putting into words what I was thinking.

No projection, a lot of people wouldn't treat their partner like that. If I was her partner I would feel unloved. She didn't let it go she made sure he apologised for not asking her to wash his pissing sheets. She's treating him like he's nasty and this is someone she claims to love.

To add - she has already stated that he's not ill how does she know that?

Honestly, how on earth have i treated him?! 🤣
You would feel unloved if your partner said ‘hey, I’ve sorted out the bedding but to be honest I felt a bit off that you just left me to it without checking that I minded, felt a bit like I was taken for granted’?
I can assure you I didn’t ’make sure’ he apologised, he freely did it himself.
what part of what I said was designed to make him feel nasty?
and I’m going to go out on a limb and say that seeing as he was well enough to go out for the day, and continue on with the things that he would normally do all weekend, then he is not ill enough to warrant not simply asking me if I was ok to pick up the slack.

Maybe it's because I am a woman, but when I did actually mention to the GP that I had wet the bed, he did not suggest any investigations or show any worry or concern at all that it might be a symptom of something serious.

Or maybe she rubbed you up the wrong way because you have let yourself become the de facto housekeeper in your own household and any woman who stands up for herself threatens your entire belief system.

Do you think it’s OP’s fault he pissed himself?

Because you said he felt humiliated and to humiliate means ‘make someone feel ashamed and foolish by injuring their dignity and pride.’

You're not a doctor so you don't know if he is ill or not you can't make that assumption. You got an apology out of him so you obviously complained to him. From the sounds of this post you're not at all bothered about his health only that you are respected. If it was normal washing you wouldn't be complaining it's only because there's piss on them.

Her partner could be ill wrong time for all that lark.

Surely this hasn’t made almost 1000 posts? 😳

You should have asked for a blood test that may have come up with something like diabetes for example.

Bore off.

Oh right, so he’s that special kind of ill that makes it too difficult to pop a few loads in the washing machine or even ask someone else to do it, but doesn’t effect his ability to have fun and do his usual hobbies or similar?
got ya.
when I say he’s not ill, I mean that he’s not physically impaired. If he was, then this wouldn’t be a thread. And, if he is - then again, this wouldn’t be a thread.

Not long to go now, thank god

Before we get there I just want to say to OP that I do 'get' her issue and am still struggling with the lack of comprehension of some other posters.
I hope he either gets a clean bill of health from the doctor and/or it was a complete one off.

You like a fight your poor partner he must have got an ear full when he got home.

Like a fight? Or not accepting the exaggerated take that you’ve invented?
told you above what I said to him when I bought it up. No ear fulls were had.

He didn't have to apologise did he.

No one in their right mind would treat their LOVED ONES like that. He didn't need to apologise.

Except all the tons of people who disagree with you?

In the real world I don't know anyone who would treat their partners like that. If this happened to a woman and the op was a man the responses would be different.

That's been brought up before, and it wouldn't. A normally continent, well person should clean up after themselves, like the grown ass adult they are, and not take their partner for granted.

I have been on many threads and I beg to differ. Manchild was the words used on this thread, he's not a toddler. Now you're changing it to grown ass adult fuck right off don't pretend now.

To add - I am well my dear admit your prejudice.

Are you quite well, dear?

As an ending, thank you to all that have said that AIBU, but have refrained from name calling or just plain making things up as long as it suits your narrative - I’m sorry that I’ve not taken your comments onboard, you’ve been quite overshadowed.
for those that have agreed that I’ve had some batshit comments on here - I hope you’ve at least been entertained. I know I have.

for the rest of you - do have the day that you deserve 😘