Partner has wet the bed…

[WFHbore2023]

41 year old healthy man, never happened before, completely sober. Obviously this is concerning (and my main concern) and he will contact his doctor.

woke me up this morning saying that we need to get up and change the bed, obviously not ideal but he’s embarrassed so I just crack on. He helps me strip the bed and then goes off to shower.

I’m working today, he’s taken the children out for the day, and so I have been left with a superking duvet to wash and dry, along with mattress topper, protector, sheets and any other bedding.

AIBU to be pretty pissed off that he’s just cracked on with his day without so much as a conversation over whether or not I was ok to sort everything out this end?

If you say he has not sought medical advice, how do you know he is not ill?

A bladder infection leads to kidney infection, which leads to kidney failure and eventually other organ failure.

Little acorns grow into big oak trees.

I think this is unkind. Sometimes my period leaks. He didn't do it on purpose and he took the kids out.

Do you leave the sheets for your partner to clean?

Then why is it OP's responsibility to take him to the GP?
As if he were a child?

What is unkind?

HE IS AN ADULT for the last time.

A fully fledged fucking tree with a phone of his own and fingers to tap the doctors number and guess what a voice to request an appointment.

What the actual hell is happening on this thread!! How have we ended up with so many posts reducing the man down to toddler age.

Considering it happened Friday night/Saturday morning I doubt he'd have a lot of success getting a gp appointment, he'd still be on hold. Getting a gp appointment during the week is hard enough, the weekend I wouldn't even try.

What utter drivel! They are two people. Two entirely separate people. Yes they have formed a family together, and as such work as a team, but that doesn’t stop them being two separate individuals. OP is not responsible for her DH. He is an adult and as such is responsible for himself. It’s not a case of her not bothering to push him into a doctors appointment. It’s a case of the need for a doctors appointment being agreed as soon as the incident happened, as stated in the first post, but in case you hadn’t noticed it’s been the weekend 🙄

One was on the beach.

The other was washing piss-sodden bedding in between work.

They are very much 2 separate people.

If this had been my wife that pissed the bed, I would have done the washing WITHOUT any question, and worried sick in case there was an underlying health condition responsible for it. As an ex paramedic, I understand what this all could lead to, and I would have tried my best to get a doctors appointment for her while she was out LOOKING AFTER the CHILDREN. A partnership is a partnership, don't come on here bitching about something that could not be helped and embarrassing the man further than he already would have been, and just get on with doing what needs doing. You could have a partner/husband that buggers off to the pub all the time, Does absolutely nothing but come home and beat the living daylights out of you and the children, would this be preferable to you?

Ah yes, finally!

someone who has grasped exactly what my complaint was.

thank you so much.

oh dear…

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This thread has blown my fucking mind. So many women falling all over themselves to somehow blame the OP, call her names, make her responsible for cleaning up her husband’s piss AND responsible for him seeing a doctor.

What the actual fuck is happening?

Lol

I suppose she rubbed people up the wrong way with her insistence on being asked if she minded washing his pissing sheets.

Try getting a life and living in the real world.

Sorry that was for Gyozas not you, sorry.

Not at all. We’re just laughing at her for moaning that she needs to be asked to do washing while she’s working so hard on her teams calls 🥱

I just would never have even thought to come on somewhere like this and forgive ghe pun, wash our dirty laundry here. Surely this was for husband/wife/partner to discuss reasonably and not air it all out in a public forum. A disgrace to be quite honest. Poor man must be feeling humiliated enough as it is.

Hey, so do you know who I am? Who I’m talking about? Does he know that this thread exists?

Nope. So I’m not sure where the added humiliation would come from.

Poor guy is probably mortified.

I think I'd have probs just chucked the sheets in the wash. Different story though if it'd been a brown log!

This thread is incredible.
More missed points than a UK song at Eurovision and more projection than a multiplex cinema.

I agree with what you said. I was highlighting the ridiculousness of starting this thread. I wouldn't dream of treating my partner like this and him with me.

No worries