What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

[Rosebush1245]

Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

Usually anything where parents are acting ridiculous and entitled about their child.

Thinking it’s acceptable for children to scream and be loud.

Any posts about weddings, which think the bride is a bridezilla for wanting a childfree wedding or picking a certain bridesmaid.

Childfree wedding. Parents (not all) usually hate them as they think it’s some kind of personal attack of them.

Posts moaning about something at the wedding

Posts about people hating kids but what they really mean is Childfree people.

Calling women vulnerable and making excuses if they have done something wrong. Always the man’s fault.

I have two that I already know go against the grain ;)

1. By the age of 16 our DC are not actual children anymore.
2. School - non uniform works it really does.

Sorry, should have clarified - they are my opinions that always seem at odds with everyone else

That women should be responsible for their own relationships and decisions with their MIL and not hide behind DH to manage it for them.

The children one, what do you mean? Do you think at 16, they aren’t children anymore?

I don't think you should cut family and friends off at the drop of the hat.

I think it's lovely when people visit after having a baby

It's ok as a wedding guest to wear a dress with lots of white in it..I can't believe the twist that some posters get their knickers in over this.

I think there’s a bit of a mentality on here where the OP is given a hard time. So if someone posts about their child misbehaving and they dealt with it firmly and with consequences, there’s a lot of ‘that’s so harsh ‘she’s FIVE’ (or however old) ‘good luck in the future OP’ ‘my parents were like you and I’m NC now.’ But if they are a ‘gentle’ parent there is a lot of ‘what are the consequences / try telling her off / I know parents like you, their DD has just been excluded again.’

It is pretty tedious. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt!

That sleepsuits are the best thing for a baby to be in for at least 6 months. I hated the things. All those fiddly poppers getting lined up wrong. Bodysuits and dungarees all the way. Extra points for said sleepsuits being white. Baby clothes in white look awful and sad and like nobody cares enough about the baby to chose an actual colour.

That people visiting a newborn is one of the happiest memories you’ll have of those 2 short weeks.

That breastfeeding a 5 year old is weird.

That getting married doesn’t mean you have to hate your mother in law.

That you’re a parent that’s needed for longer than posters might make you think. Throwing out young adults is generally not great for them.

Rarely do I share any majority opinion with people in real life or on mumsnet.

The hatred towards mothers in law is insane! I always read them thinking I bet there’s a whole other side to THIS story 🤔

I think childfree weddings are fine and it doesn’t mean you hate kids.

I don’t actually have one myself, but I do t think owning a toilet brush is disgustingly awful.

Step mothers aren’t always the devil incarnate.

Can't believe it's time for this monthly thread to come round again already!

Claiming a table in a cafe before ordering is normal - indeed, Ive never seen it done any other way.

It’s nice when people want to visit my kids / give them a bath / change their nappy / have them alone so I can have a break and so on.

It’s not “entitled” to feel aggrieved if your parents give zero help with grandchildren despite being nearby, able and available. Assuming you have a normal relationship and help your parents out with stuff too.

I tend to agree with the majority at almost all occasions so far except for my firm beliefs that:

• all abroad hendos or marriages are CF (unless the bride and the groom pay for everyone's tickets and accommodation ofcourse)
• it's weird, unnecessary and boardering incestous to be breastfeeding a 5 year old (unless you live in a country with famine)
• it's cringeworthy to make a song and a dance about your birthday as an adult (let's face it- one step closer to the grave)
• can't stand all the people on Ozempic/Mounjaro saying "you still have to do the work to lose weight". You really don't. The jabs take away your hunger and makes you feel filled up really quickly. Even without eating healthy and exercicing you will lose weight.

This is one of the weirdest aspects of MN! The MIL hatred, the insane cleaning/food prep standards, and the general overthinking and over involvement in children’s lives are not things i see reflected in real life at all

@BeJollyEagle

I don't really mean 16yr olds should be released to the wilds to fend for themselves but there are so many examples on here of parents "making" 16/17 yr old dc revise, grounding them, making them ask permission to do things or go places, being unable to leave them at home for a week or removing privileges for transgressions that it's all a bit babying imo.

But yes, to answer your question, I didn't think of my older dc as children when they were 16/17. I still loved and guided them of course but they were free to make their own decisions...good and bad.

People without children are missing out big time (I would never say this in real life)

Double barrelled surnames - unless you are actually the aristocracy - are an affectation.

That its empowering to make the decision to not breastfeed - rather than trying and not been able to and having that decision taken away from you.

The word Pop is twee and should never be used unless you are

1. Describing the sound
2. Discussing genres of music and art
3. Hugh Grant singing Pop goes my heart.

Cleaning standards. I once read a thread where a woman spent 6 hours every Sunday deep cleaning her home. Don't get me wrong, I like a clean home but that sounded obsessive to me and no one else turned a hair. I'd much rather have a little bit of dust and spend the time with my dc or doing some gardening!

You can wear anything you like to a wedding as long as it's not a wedding dress. No one is going to think you are the Bride and you won't upstage them

I also agree. I think I read the post wrong then got confused about what people meant 😂 but yup agree with you. How much parenting are you actually doing at 16/17? I moved out at 17. By 14 I was making my own meals generally, I just hated my mother’s cooking it was awful. 16 year olds are very much babied these days. The majority of my friends were also like me. We went away on holiday at 17, driving, going out and having sex- which was very normal back then. There’s parents that can’t even leave their 17 alone for the night. What makes you think at 18 they are suddenly mature?

I'm of the contentious belief that there's no need to breast feed once your child has teeth.

And that it's downright ignorant to let your kids scream in the back garden.

I'm with you but I would love to have her over to deep clean my place 😄