What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

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Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

That Labour are shit and dogs are lovely.

That teachers mostly don't pick on children.

That children are frequently little shits at school just because they're kids.

Most marriages are sh*t.

Fat people aren't jealous of slim people.

The Harry Potter books are sh*t.

But surely those that have chosen not to have kids will think the opposite. They might think all parents have miserable lives for 18 or so years or whenever their kids leave and are jealous.

the washing machine does not need to be on every single day
toilet brushes are fine, just don’t wave them about
being a stay at home mum is in no sense work
killing civilians is wrong
trans people are fine

It’s good for babies to have extended families.

All the scaremongering about the menopause when in reality a lot of the symptoms women are complaining about are because they are overweight and don’t have a good diet or exercise much.

I don’t agree about stopping cooking for teens, giving them lifts etc, There’s a contingent on Mn who seem to take pride in completely disengaging from their kids once they hit about 14. I find it appalling.

I think a fair bit of what people post about the “mental load” is wildly OTT.

I don't believe everyone outside of my "core family unit" is out to fleece me!

Fat and obese people moaning about doctors and nurses always “nagging and bringing up their weight” or getting some kind of kick out it. No they’re literally doing their jobs.

Truly don't give a shit about grown women referring informally to themselves / contemporaries as 'girls' as long as they're not being deliberately diminishing. Hate when someone posts asking a question it gets derailed over this. I don't use it myself byt every bloody time.

The NHS is brilliant

I agree with all of those…

I don't believe in "staying for the kids" but I do believe in working hard to fix issues in your relationship for the kids. I think that mumsnetters can be very quick to jump to LTB but I think if you have kids and there's no abuse involved you should work hard to make things better. If you do that and it doesn't get better then absolutely leave, but I don't believe that people can't change and that you should leave at the first sign of issues or difficulties in a relationship with kids.

It's not a crime if your cousin's husband's sister's second best friend chooses the same name for their baby as you.

People who were raised with strict discipline from their parents aren't any more resilient or considerate or polite as adults as a result.

Cats shitting in your garden where your children play is not something to celebrate.

A full day's work in a high pressure job is easier mentally than a full day looking after a 4 year old and 2 year old on your own.

School - non uniform works

The propaganda around school uniform seems to be that if you don't have it, every minute of school time will be filled with bullying about designer labels. DP use to subscribe to this, I was unsure.

Then our kids went to school in France for several years, where there are no uniforms. They seemed fine even though they had zero designer stuff. They are now adults. I asked them once, "Did you ever have any issues at your French school over clothes?". They both confirmed that the topic had never, ever come up.

I have a toilet brush for each toilet and unlike most of MN I firmly believe that's less gross than sticking you hand down the loo (even with gloves on) to clean below the water line.

I'm not married to my DCs father. By choice.

My DC have their fathers surname. I'm perfectly fine with that. Outside of MN I've never once come across DC having their mothers surname if their parents aren't married.

Diplomatically dealing with an incident with family or friends is not a weakness IMO it's a strength. Sometimes you have to accept family members BS included. It's not being a walkover if you are nice to people.

I also don't find David Walliams, David Tennant or Noel Fielding creepy!! I also don't agree with expressing these views on a public forum.

I don't care how often other people shower or whether they have a body wash at the sink instead of a shower.

I love a bit of alcohol once in a while.

A marriage or relationship with your kids father is not something to walk away from because you wake up one day not finding them attractive. It's ok to have bad patches. I believe as default marriage is for life but I do respect its OK to walk away in some cases, but after every other avenue is exhausted. This does not include 'getting the ick' because you saw him cut his toenails.

It's ok to be financially dependent on your partner if its a partnership with equal power and choices and if the arrangement works for the family as a whole.

That a woman's aspiration in life can be to be a stay at home wife and mother.

england isnt the worst country in the world and actually youll fine the quality of life is probably better than many many places

That 'no-kill' dog shelters are cruel.

That no novice dog owner with children should take on a rescue dog.

Sharing a towel is fine

Agree with these!!!

I don't use the words pop, bits, grim or zero.

Being a SAHP is boring and way easier than an actual job.

Some parents are jealous of Childfree people and regret having children

Private schools are not worth it unless your children are extremely smart. What’s the point in wasting all that money for average grades?

That providing you are in an otherwise happy marriage to a decent bloke, but experiencing low libido, it might be prudent to shag your husband occasionally for the sake of marital harmony and oxytocin release. If he does a good job of it, you may find you want it more often!

That men who dress in women’s clothing are all perverts - no exceptions.

Agree with those who’ve mentioned the fuss around school uniforms (also following spells in other European countries) Should be ditched entirely.

That it is perfectly acceptable to gently take the p1ss out of your offspring and their mates when disabusing them of silly ideas (e.g. that they might be the opposite sex or neither, or have special identities).

If your child needs to be expensively tutored to pass the 11+ (rather than just giving them a few past papers to try) it probably isn’t clever enough to be going to grammar school.