What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

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Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

You can still get married at 16 in Scotland 😁

🤢🤢🤢would only share a towel if we were out and it was for hands or washing sand off.

Toilet brushes are absolutely fine. Yes, they’ve almost certainly got particles of faecal matter on them but no, they don’t smell and are very unlikely to make anyone ill. Some people are just very squeamish about the thought of what is on them.

My contribution-
Close families are usually dysfunctional.
Once adult 'children' should fly the nest. A 30yr old at home is a failure to launch, even if it's a shared house, they will be more adult.
Dummies should be disposed of once a child can walk and talk ditto breast feeding.
Most 'MIL ' issues are DIL issues, a bad DIL will become a bad MIL..
School days should be longer as children get older.
School is childcare these days unless we are prepared to support SAHM both practically and financially.

That parents should leave relationships so easily. Divorce hurts kids

My main one is very contentious and not a situation I’ve ever been in. I’m pro choice but only in certain scenarios. I know contraception can fail, however the amount of women on here seeking abortions for unplanned pregnancies astounds me.

So true @samarrange, or people think you must have separate clothes for school and for home or that you must be buying new clothes all the time.

I can honestly agree that nobody talks about their clothes at school at all. Nobody.

that children are mostly idiotic and even when they say they didn’t do whatever the teacher is accusing them of they most definitely did

I love making a fuss of birthdays, weddings and any other milestone or achievement of friends and family. Life can be bloody hard and I find so much joy in celebrating the happy moments.

Friends are important and maintaining friendships requires a degree of effort.

Bedding should be washed once a week.

Clothes need to be ironed.

Oh and Driving age should increase to 20 or 23. The present age was when the majority DC left school at 15 and had worked a couple of years. It's now 18 or 21. Accident statistics show young people are at greatest risk.

Unless truly toxic...in which case, I am handing over

I wash my bedding and towels once a month.

I shower once a week.

I believe in ‘be kind’.

I think we should respect everyone, even if they’re different to me, including trans.

I just want to be a nice person who doesn’t bully people for no reason.

I let my dog socialise with other dogs even though she’s well trained.

I bring my washing in before it gets dark. Not because it'll get 'darked on' bloody stupid, or even 'touched by spider willys' even stupider. I do it because condensation caused by lowering temperatures at dusk makes the clothes damp again. Then, more often than not in our neck of the woods, it will also rain overnight. Repeated wetting and drying allows stinky bacteria to thrive.

Define ‘certain scenarios’

So should they just keep the unwanted baby till full term and then just give it away?

I am of the opinion that children don't belong everywhere and adult only events or places my DC couldn't go when they were wee don't offend me to the point I would create an international diplomatic incident over it.

It's ok to allow children to experience (age appropriate) natural consequences and they don't need to be shielded from every negative emotion or experience.

I never had a list of rules for others who might interact with my babies, except "wash up your own coffee cup before you leave, I'm too bloody tired to do extra fucking dishes" 😂

I was happy for other trusted adults to watch my DC and (gasp) enjoyed the break. I know, what a scummy mummy.

Backyard trampolines are the devil!

A significant minority of ADHD/LDs cases in middle class children are actually FASD.

Nice recent one - Kneecap guy shouldn't have been charged.

Not a lot of discussion so far about the update but based on the last thread about them I'm sure a lot of people will be feeling nice and goady about it.

Unless actually abusive, having the occasional bad teacher is an excellent thing for a child’s development and doesn’t need to be managed by the parents.

Pushing women to have abortions without mentioning the benefits of being a parent, is wrong unless op knows that an abortion is definitely what they want. Just to add I am pro choice and would never judge anyone for decisions they make about their body.

Being transgender is absolutely fine.

Disabled people are full well rounded humans whos deserve love and companionship the same as able bodied people.

Your value as a person is not measured by how much work you do or your employment status. Same for your net worth.

The Labour government have made some mistakes (eg winter fuel) and there are issues on which they need to be going further, faster (eg partnership with the EU) but overall they are doing a decent job in starting to clear up the disastrous mess the Tories created.

Unless they can actually sort out immigration, however, nothing else will matter in 2029 and Reform will win the next election by a landslide.

I strongly disagree with the very popular MN opinion that it is the man’s fault if a woman gets pregnant as a result of lying about being on the pill.

I have a very lovely MIL. My DH has a v lovely MIL. We love them to bits.
But there does seem to be a special type of MIL on MN and (if the posts are to be believed - which I I say 70/30 in favour of DILs) there's a fuck tonne of unhinged middle aged women behaving insanely.
But then sometimes you look at posts and realise how delusional people are, as an example (and this poster realised she was projecting her desires over reality and was very graceful): wanting a nuclear family holiday, rejecting the long term partner and just not seeing the wood for the trees.

Except in cases of abuse, it's generally better for the children if parents stay married, even if it means working through relationship issues for years. All the data backs this up. Faithfulness, perseverance and sacrifice are what makes marriage unique. Giving up on relationships when they become hard work is selfish and damaging for the children.

I think the birth of children are a greater cause for celebration than graduating university or having a successful career. I know this opinion is super unfashionable and even offensive now, but I really think having children is simultaneously the hardest and the most wonderful and rewarding thing that's happened to me.

That pre-verbal children shouldn't be put in nurseries unless there are absolutely no other options. The safeguarding risks are simply too great and there's really no way of knowing what is happening behind closed doors.