To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

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My child (7 years old)got a party invite via a WhatsApp group. I asked him if he wanted to come, he did, and I replied saying he would love to come on the group. So far, so normal.

I then was removed from the group, and received a message to say that his invite was a mistake.

AIBU to think regardless of mistakes, you don't uninvite? My child has been in nursery/school with this child for years, they play together, and it's not a small party either, or one where numbers are critical or pay per head (just a party at home, which is also fine, and I know they have a good size home and garden).

I don't care that he isn't invited, just that he has been invited, when he is aware of the invite now. He will now be hearing kids talking about the party at school, thinking he is going, but not able to go.

I do think that's rude and of course if a mistake was made, I would expect the child still to be invited as basic etiquette - as you say one more doesn't make a difference and final numbers to be confirmed. Definitely agree with just saying to your child - Ah I forgot we're doing that other exciting activity on that day and couldn't even have gone anyway!
Glad you have blocked, life's too short to deal with people who are prepared to disappoint a child when there is no need!

Me too!
Just Wow.

Maybe you could arrange to do something special when the party is happening..? Maybe tell your child that you had completely forgotten about your arrangements. It's only a little white lie to save your child from the spite of others. Because that's what it is by the other parent...spite.

'Not quite forgiven' - goodness you're a better person than me, I would be livid

Honestly parents and parties just continue to astound me - I once invited all the children in my then 3 year olds nursery group to a party and 2 of the Mum’s just didn’t reply - anyway I saw one of them in the car park at pick up and said ‘oh hi, I’m DS’s Mum, did you get the invite?’ she looked me up and down and said ‘yes but we don’t really know who you or your DS are so we didn’t reply as it’s such an odd thing to do to invite us’ her DD had been in the same nursery group all year and I wasn’t sure who her daughter was either but I just invited the whole class. I never bothered speaking to her again. People are just unbelievably rude and oblivious to social niceties it would seem. I’m sorry she’s done this - she would be dead to me forever. She should have stood by the invite. She’s an AH.

Why would the kids stop playing together in the playground just because the mums have blocked each other? It won’t affect them

This is quite funny to read today as yesterday I invited someone to my sons 7th birthday in error. When they replied to say their child would love to come I realised my error and just added their name to the list. It is only a small gathering at our house but one more won't make any difference. I would never take that invite back and say wrong person, I would feel that is too rude

This is normal.

My DS was invited late to a party with the mum saying sorry the invite was given to another child. Another kid with the same name (different shortening) was at the party, presumably in error. But the mum just got in with it.

Thank you,this is what the normal majority would do it seems. If my son hadn't been uninvited, we would not have known about the error and he would have had a good time at the party. It isn't a particularly small party (15+ numbers on the WhatsApp) so I don't understand why one extra child is a problem. I have never invited a child by accident but I can't imagine a situation where I would ever invite them uninvite, especially so publicly.

An update to this: several mums have approached me in the playground to say they knew what happened and it was very rude, since it was in public on the WhatsApp group.

Word does spread, and the uninviting mum has made herself look like a massive twat.

Well they are right. It was rude. Mistakes happen but no way would I ever uninvited a child after I accidentally invited them. I’d suck it up as my mistake, even if the party was at a venue where you paid per head.

Having said this, if I were in your position OP I don’t think I would have said anything to her but don’t let that cloud your judgement- I am known for being a pushover 😂

As expected.
Any decent person would be appalled at this.
I would 100% judge her and her card would be marked ...to be avoided.
Those mothers know that could have been their child and how they would feel.

Good to hear other people see her for what she is too. I doubt she’ll see it though. In my experience people like this are incapable of believing they’ve done anything wrong. Be prepared for her to try to paint herself as a victim and start telling people how you’ve massively overreacted and are making her look bad when all she did was as make one tiny innocent mistake 🙄