To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

[Exaltedmalteaser]

My child (7 years old)got a party invite via a WhatsApp group. I asked him if he wanted to come, he did, and I replied saying he would love to come on the group. So far, so normal.

I then was removed from the group, and received a message to say that his invite was a mistake.

AIBU to think regardless of mistakes, you don't uninvite? My child has been in nursery/school with this child for years, they play together, and it's not a small party either, or one where numbers are critical or pay per head (just a party at home, which is also fine, and I know they have a good size home and garden).

I don't care that he isn't invited, just that he has been invited, when he is aware of the invite now. He will now be hearing kids talking about the party at school, thinking he is going, but not able to go.

Oh yes!!!

Course it’s rude and not great, but just okay it down to the child (oh plans changed) and move on.

I will try and use the word exceedingly as much as I can in the next few weeks.

I have noticed in this and other threads that this poster's responses are rarely a solid indicator as to the correct course of action in any given social situation.

Nope just calling out bad behaviour. Hopefully you will learn and think twice before you do it again. No one needs to be a doormat to rude behaviour. Funny you’re calling the parent rude but are rude yourself 👀

Maybe that's because a lot of people love their children and if their children are hurt, then....
Damn right I'd be petty

Ghastly behaviour. I would have blocked her too. Agree with others, take your DC on a really fun day out on the day of the party. 😊

Stalking my posts is over invested and unhinged.

you’ve called me rude, immature etc. (whilst stalking me like a teenager).

You need to step away.

Honestly, I think your opinion is wrong, accept it.

But don’t stalk me, life’s too short for that.

Interesting that someone does recognise your username and states that you’re not really someone to take a lot of notice off.

Honestly it suggests to me that there is a peer issue you aren’t aware of in that case.

Not nice at all. Your poor little boy. 😢

YANBU @Exaltedmalteaser Really rude, and quite cruel of that woman! I'm so sorry...

Remove yourself from that WhatsApp group by the way.

That's a horrendous thing for the parent to do

When it’s his party invite everyone else but that child.

A lot of weird comments on here. Can people not just sort it out like grown adults?

She called you babes as well..we both know what type of person that is!

It’s rude behaviour on her part. I’d just write her off as being a rude, socially inept arse, play it down to your son and give her no further headspace.

I suppose I should be a little grateful it wasn’t hun?

But honestly stalking me is so bloody weird!

Tbf you did start this first. Seemed like you were unnecessarily rude to begin with. Then carried on and this person has responded. Why can’t we except people’s views and not start fighting over MN?

It was bad enough that your DC got uninvited but when you said she was a teacher I was gobsmacked. I would be as angry and upset as you are OP.

Sorry?

I think you’ve got that wrong! As many posters have said.

And you think stalking my posts is not odd? It’s really over invested.

Blimey, they’re two of you.

We’ll have to agree to disagree.

Oh dear…. 😅

I've never heard of someone uninviting to a party, that's horrendously rude of her! Fair enough to tell her so OP, if she comments to others they would tell her the same. Amazing really.

You could book a theme park or another brilliant treat with a favourite outside school friend and tell DS you're so sorry but you double booked. Usually I am up front in telling DS anything, but this is so bizarre and not the little friend's fault at all that I don't think I would.

yanbu to be annoyed and disappointed. I think it was weird to block her though.

why does being a teacher make a difference? Would it be better if she was a GP, or a librarian?

Because as a teacher, she is more aware of the impacts in a child.