To ask what you'd think of a 20+ stone woman lying on beach?

[PinataHeeHaw]

I'm alone on a uk beach, taking in the sun.

Will people likely be thinking the old beached whale thing?

I wouldn’t be thinking anything. People are allowed to do what they want regardless of how much they weigh!

To give a totally honest answer - I'd think you were very brave.

But that's coming from the perspective of someone who can't face wearing swimwear at 8 stone. I'd admire you for doing it, think you had the right approach to life rather than me but would think 'I could never do that'.

@TorturedParentsDepartment . That says more about their shitty attitude than you.
If anyone ever says anything like that to you again, just smile and say "I may be fat, but you are UGLY. Tomorrow I can diet, but you will still be ugly."
OP (and anyone else in her shoes), go for it, slather the sunscreen on and have an ice cream for me while your there.💐💐

If I thought anything at all, it would be I hope you are enjoying yourself.

The last holiday I went on there were all shapes, sizes and ages around the pool.

And that's how it should be.

I’d be too wrapped up in my own problems to even notice you. Like most people. I think we over estimate how much other people notice us or care. They usually don’t.

I wouldn’t even notice you OP. I walk around so deep in thought most of the time that I often don’t take in my surroundings.
The old adage of “don’t worry what people think of you because they’re not” makes sense here

Whenever I'm worried about what other people might think I find it helpful to think of the old saying: 'Those that matter don't mind, and those that mind don't matter'.

I'm fairly overweight and would be very self-conscious about being seen in public on a beach in a bathing-suit. I'd be most likely to admire you for styling it out!

Hope you have a lovely afternoon in the sun.

I remember being a size 10 teenager and thinking I was too fat to wear a bikini on the beach in Greece (this was height of Kate Moss era). When we got to the beach there were women of all ages, shapes and sizes, many very large, wearing teeny weeny bikinis or going topless. All perfectly happy, chatting away, sunbathing, swimming in the sea. It was a very freeing experience.

I don't think I'd think anything, honestly- someone lying on the beach is just someone lying on the beach! If anything, I'd be jealous because I'm not lying on a beach right now.

I’d think whether I wanted to know where your clothes were from if I liked them and how nice the day was!

I'll be honest and probably notice you were bigger, so it would cross my mind, but only because I've been there and so I'd think, good on you, enjoy the sun!

As long as you do not sit there and engage in sexual acts or supply of class A drugs I see no problem.
Peoole could be cruel but don't let them spoil your summer

This is me as well. I am usually thinking about lunch or what i am going to cook for dinner. No matter where or what I am doing. I am currently doing exam invigilation and someone asked me what I think about for 3 hours. It's usually lunch.

That would be their problem, not yours.

‘i like her swimsuit/dress/shorts’
’i hope she’s got suncream on’
’isn’t it lovely weather’

I’m a size 18 and am old and confident enough to know that if someone takes issue with me for Existing While Fat in a public place, that says more about them and their own issues than it does about me.

Normal well-adjusted adults just aren’t that interested in other people’s bodies unless they a) fancy them or b) are admiring something about their aesthetic/outfit. Enjoy the sunshine!

I had a similar experience (also in the size zero era) and it’s great isn’t it? I think it’s very healthy for teenagers and young adults to see actual human beings of all shapes and sizes confidently wearing beach attire and just enjoying their lives in the bodies they have - even more so these days with social media filters etc.

I'd be incredibly envious, I live nowhere near a beach now, I hope she enjoys herself.

I went to our public outdoor pool last summer and there was a very heavy woman there. When I noticed her, I was just so impressed that she didn't give a fuck and was there in her swimsuit just like everyone else. No one stared, no-one bothered her, she was with a few family members (daughter, grand-son) and got on with it.

I don't think people are on here being honest. If someone is obese wearing a bikini, it draws the eyes of the general judgemental public and as human beings we are all judgemental. I have no doubt anyone would say anything to your face, but they were probably thinking it.

As long as you do not sit there and engage in sexual acts or supply of class A drugs I see no problem.

Well that's my summer holiday ruined!

I honestly don't care what other people are doing if they're minding their own business.

You have to be realistic, many people might stare. But I’d be surprised if it was more than this.

You just be another person on the beach

If I thought anything at all (unlikely) it would be jealousy. Jealous of you being on the beach, jealous of you being relaxed. Jealous of your confidence if you were wearing swimwear (I'm 10 stone but I don't feel comfortable in my skin).

Honestly, some folk probably will - but that's their issue, not yours. Enjoy the sun. 👍