WIBU if I complain about this teacher?

[Throwawaymama]

I need impartial advice in an awful situation.

my son (14) has got into a fight today at school. I am not happy about this obviously. Lots of stuff going on and I’m looking at getting him help.

There has been back and forth drama between him and another boy for the past few weeks, and today this other boy was being kept in isolation at lunch with his head of year (boy is year below so it’s a different HOY). I don’t know why but he was with her all afternoon.

my son has found out where he was and gone storming into the room with 3 of his friends (again this is NOT okay) and started to punch this boy.

here’s the bit I’m not happy with.

the head of year has forcibly got in the middle and told my son to get out - he did - but as he turned round again to say something to the other boy she has pushed him away from her and again screamed at him to get out. She’s not big or tall and she didn’t hurt him.

WIBU to complain about the teacher doing this? I thought they weren’t allowed to put hands on students?

throwaway for obvious reasons.

This has to be a wind up.

If not. Look up reasonable force - this is it.

Your son went charging in to a calm situation and was violent and unpredictable. Instead of focusing on the teacher focus on why your son is this way.

I hope your son is handed a hefty suspension or explusion

Lout.

Are you actually serious?

Complaining about the teacher is what you have taken from this situation. Bloody hell, no wonder teachers are leaving in droves.

Forget about the teacher and deal with your violent son.

YAB incredibly U!

Obviously, you are being ridiculous.

This can't be for real. Seriously? If your ds is hurting someone, they are completely entitled to stop him however they can. How frightening for the other child and the teacher.

This has to be a joke! You're lucky your son isn't being arrested and you want to complain about the teacher?!

Don’t be such a tool, of course you shouldn’t complain. Your son was behaving like an out of control, violent thug, she did what she needed to do, to protect the other boy and herself.

It is not.
im NOT okay with what my son did but im also not okay with a teacher putting her hands on my child.

i looked it up and I don’t feel it applies. She was not being attacked.

Wtaf 🤣🤣🤣

Absolutely 100% you would be being totally unreasonable. She didn’t hurt him, she hasn’t hit him, it would have been a very stressful situation for her. You say she’s not big or tall. Imagine how she would have felt being in between 4 teenage boys fighting.

The fact that you want to do anything other than sincerely apologise for his behaviour is shocking.

You're angry because a teacher was trying to protect a boy from YOUR BOY attacking him with a bunch of mates??????

We have to safeguard ALL kids as teachers, and sometimes you have to forcibly break up an unfair fight.

You should be reading your son the riot act and taking a look at yourself.

This female member of teaching staff has got in the middle of 4 boys attacking a 5th and it's her actions you are concerned about.

The other parent and teacher have massive cause to complain about the behaviour of your son.

YABVU

No wonder your child is a violent little shit if this is how you are raising him.

OK sure

Focus on this. They'll wipe the floor with you.

Meanwhile your son is a violent thug putting the rest of the student body at risk.

So if 4 older boys where attacking your son you wouldn't want a teacher to step in what did you want for her to just watch.

With all due respect, you were not there.

What consequence have you given your DS?

I thought students weren’t allowed to put their hands of other students…

I would focus your energy on your son & I hope the parents of the other child call the police about his unprovoked attack

Are you for real? And has anyone corroborated your son's version of it in which this teacher pushes him, rather than uses positive handling to stop a violent scenario escalating further?

Which are you more not ok with out of interest

Deal with your sobs dreadful behaviour!

No wonder there is a teacher shortage.

Better soon, home school
him and keep him away from other pupils.

Jeez. Go and give your head a wobble and then go and give your kid a bollocking.

He said that she did it as he was walking away.

there are also no cctv in that room, only in the halls outside.

Fuck me, you must be joking.

Your kid searched out a younger child, smacked him, and you’re angry with the teacher for protecting the child that was hit? She didn’t hurt your son.

If you complain then you’re an idiot. Concentrate on helping your son with his anger issues instead.

I hope that your son is arrested. You are an absolute idiot.