Lend car to husband and walk to work for 2-3 weeks

[BritAirwaysgirl]

Married for 15 years, our children are at uni, both work full-time and always have done. Completely separate finances and always have had. Husband would never share finances, accounts, etc. I pay the mortgage and food/household goods and husband pays the utilities, council tax, etc, which works out about equal. We each have a car individually financed by ourselves. We strictly stick to our individual respective cars. Husband's car is going to be in the garage for 2-3 weeks having major work done. He works 1 hour away so a 2 hour round trip and he uses his car for all his 5-6 appointments each day. I work 2 miles away, approx 40 minute walk each way. Husband is going to hire a car for work as he is contracted and does not get any paid leave. AIBU to not offer him to use my car for 2-3 weeks and I can walk to work each day? Or should he sort his own transport issues out as it is not my problem?

I don’t get all these people who think the only way to show you love someone is to put all your money in one pot. We keep our money separate after bills etc have been paid. That way if I want to spend money on getting my nails done or DH wants to spend money on his hobby then we don’t have to ask permission or feel bad.

i would absolutely offer my husband the car in this situation, but we largely have shared finances and there is absolutely no tit for tat in
our marriage

Why on earth will his car be in the garage for 2-3 weeks? What work takes that long?

I'd be moving heaven and earth to get that timescale changed. Is it a classic car? Is it a vanity project? If so, he could absolutely whistle for it.

Why doesn't he ask garage for courtesy car?
You both need cars .
He sorts his out

I'll stick to answering your question.

I'd offer the use of my car.

Can’t the garage give him a courtesy car?

Of course you should offer your car. I wouldn't hesitate to offer for DH. Its only a 40 minute walk. What's your reasoning? Its very mean spirited of you not to offer.

And we have separate finances - I'd still offer.

I’d walk every day if I were you (except in terrible weather) but then I like walking. I guess you wouldn’t enjoy the walk (otherwise you’d be doing it anyway) so given you seem to both be looking out for yourselves, I’d leave him to it.

Is the OP even ever coming back to this thread?

I think she’s walking to work 🚶….

You are bold (naughty) @TooGoodToGoto 😂

I can’t imagine not ‘lending’ my car to my dh. We have separate finances too.