To be absolutely fed up of toddler?

[fedupmomm]

I am so fed up of my toddler, I don’t know what else to do.

OH works 7 days a week and does not help me with anything apart from give me money.

Toddler will not eat unless he has something to play with.
Screams constantly all the time when in the high chair.

Refuses to sleep in his cot.
Brushing his teeth is a big battle.

I am just so fed up.
I don’t have any time for myself at all, the last time I went to the hair dressers was in 2023.

OH is just awful and says because I am a mother this is what I signed up for.

Because he has never looked after DC on his own he really does not know or understand how hard it is.

I regret having him so bad and I hate feeling like this.

I don’t have depression I am just fed up, I am tired, I am frustrated from the lack of help and support from OH.

Because I feel like this OH says “Wow you have a beautiful son and you feel like this?”
He just dosent understand.

His life has stayed the same, he works, he see’s his friends, he goes out, he goes on holiday.

Since DC was 8 months old I have asked him to do more, but to no avail.

I just don’t know what to do anymore.
My parents live close and they do see me but I don’t want to ask them for help as they have their own problems with health.

AIBU to feel like this?

Toddlers are exceptionally hard work and it is relentless.

What I don't get though is why your still with his dad? I mean your doing it alone already so why stay with him? The problem here sounds like your relying on him to bring home the bread and supporting you money wise and that if you leave him that will stop and you may have to do it on your own or your staying with him beacuse you think he will change and miraculously become this amazing support..which he wont, and even if he does improve this of course will not last and it will all happen again. I'm sorry but you chose to be a stay at home mum and when your with someone who works 7 days a week the childcare falls on you. I'm not saying that he has a right not to help you...he does and he sounds like a selfish twat for not taking into consideration how hard it is to be at home 24hrs a day with a screaming toddler, but to say you regret having him because of him not helping you is very sad. I mean his dad clearly doesn't give a shit about him and now his mum has said she regrets having him. He never asked to be here nor asked for a dad who doesn't care and let's his mum fall into such despair. You chose to have a child with him. I'm sure he was very much a selfish person before you had a child together. There are so many single parents out there struggling but but don't necessarily regret having them.

Why not enrol him part time In nursery and you look for a part time job. It will establish a routine for the both of you that's structured and gets you out of the house and interact with other adults Or find some kind of happy medium. Your child sounds bored and fed up too and he will be able to feel the tension from you coming out on him.

Your DH is controlling, coercive and bullying. Decide if you really want to stay with him because his behaviour may alter slightly in the short term but is likely to revert. Make decisions based on the needs and wishes of you and your child. How can a man behave like this?

Contact HA and tell them you are in a controlling abusive relationship.
That your parents are helping you and your want his name off the house.
Tell them he is a bully who controls you and all money.
Tell them you want him off the house so you can tell him leave.

This is a bad man.
Well done for telling your pardnts.
Get him out of your home.
Do not move, give up your house or stay with him.

What was the arrangements when you guys decided to get pregnant?

Did he want to be a father ?

Tell him if it's so easy he will manage just fine have a bag already packed and fk off on a spa weekend he is a parent too he signed up for this by becoming a dad 🤷‍♀️ he doesn't get to carry on like nothing has changed while you do all the donkey work the useless waste of space

Sometimes in the moment, it can seem like if toddler just behaves everything will be easier. I get it, when I have loads on my plate, I just don't have the capacity for my toddlers normal behaviour, until I check myself and remind myself that he's doing what he should be, it's me who is juggling too much. Still can feel frustrating.