To say going to bed really early is equal to bed rotting by getting up late ?

[RobertaBeckett]

Dh starting to be to bed at 1030 even 10 doenst get up till just before 9

yet gets grumpy if you don’t get up before 9 ….

i say it’s equal

I am an early bird rather than a night owl but DH is the opposite. I have never understood why the two are seen in such a different light… we get the same amount of sleep!

What you on about?

10 30pm isn't really early. 🤔

I think you would be very shocked about the time I go to bed.

Bed rotting isn’t just getting up a bit late.

I work from my bed, so am frequently to be found heading up to my bed at 8pm (it's the one place that the dog can't get at me; when she sees me going up to bed she calmly goes to her own bed) and will often not get out of bed until 10am. But I am working for much of the time when I'm there (I write on my laptop, I'm not selling sexual services or modelling nightwear).

I can't really understand what you're saying in the OP but if it's that people who go to bed and get up early are seen as virtuous while people who go to bed late and get up are seen as lazy I would agree.

I have a busy job, go to the gym in the evening, do all the cooking and most of the housework in our family. I generally only get any free time from 9.30pm/10pm at which point I collapse on the sofa (sometimes still doing things like the online shop while I watch TV). I go to bed at midnight and get up at 8am.
I get teased for staying in bed so late but I get the same amount of sleep AND do more for the family than my family members who go to bed early and get up early.

Personally, I find it annoying when someone stays in bed late in the morning if it means everyone else in the house has to try to be quiet and even delay the start to their day (showering, dressing, eating breakfast), whereas going to bed at 10 or 10:30 doesn't seem as disruptive. The things I'd usually be doing later at night (reading, browsing the Internet) can be done quietly without much difficulty. By 10pm we're usually done for the day, but in the morning we need to discuss what we're doing or just get on with things. So I don't think it's the same, really.

Yep, I agree.

I would much prefer to go to sleep later and get up later.

I am a night owl. In the mornings I’m not up until around 8.00/8.30am depending on my schedule. I’m aware that some people would view my late get-ups as lazy, but I think they’re wrong. I go to bed late and a proportion of my evening hours are spent doing housework, admin, walking the dog etc. I can fairly often be found mopping floors or sorting laundry at 11pm for example. I feel productive and energetic in the evenings. So I get the same amount done as other people, just at a different time of day.

I’m biased as I would rather go to bed early than lie in, but I wouldn’t say it’s equal in terms of productivity generally. Most people would be more likely to be productive in the morning - gym, walking, cleaning etc but in the evening be more likely to be sofa lolling, watching tv etc.
That’s how I justify my early nights anyway 😄

If I go to bed early, I actually go to sleep.

I’d consider ‘bed rotting’ more lying around in bed despite being awake.

This is kind of a weird thread - going to bed at 10pm isn't really early and getting up at 8/8.30 isn't Really late.

do what works for you.

i have bouts of insomnia. I sleep when i can.

if someone is judging you for it, it's time to have a conversation about that element.

Neither of these things are 'bedrotting'. I can't stand the attitude that those who get up later are somehow inferior to early risers. We all have different circadian rhythms.

After 10pm is not early!

I thought you were going to say he goes to bed at 7, then I’d maybe an agree, but 10:30 is not early!

Haha, I go to bed at 8.30/9.00. 10pm is a late night for me!

Well he’s not going to be early but also pre DC I didn’t get up before 9 on a weekend unless we had plans. I do think bed at 9pm is different to getting up at 11am as the day isn’t being wasted in that scenario

Agree! DH is more of a natural early riser and I hate getting up early as I naturally stay up later. It’s the same thing - I never expect him and DS to creep around at the weekend before I get up - I sleep with a fan on so barely hear anything anyway

i start work at 7am (from home) so at the weekend I need to catch up on my sleep. I never understand why being an early bird is seen as more virtuous

I don't think you know what bed rotting means.

It depends on what you would be doing if you're not in bed, doesn't it? If you (general you) get up early but don't actually do anything worthwhile, then it really doesn't matter if you're in bed or not. I mean, if you're just wasting time on your phone or something, what does it matter where you do that? Similarly, if the evening is just watching TV or whatever, then why not go to bed instead? But if the evening or the morning involves more than that, whether that is work or childcare or exercising or spending time with family or friends, then I can understand the argument that staying in bed (at either end of the day) means missing out on activities or avoiding responsibility.

Of course, some people need more sleep than others. So it would depend also on how much sleep each person requires to function well.

It really hurt to hear someone describe 10.30 as a really early bed time.

I used to a be a late riser, but these past few months I can seem to sleep past 7, if I am lucky. Often I am wide awake at 6. Also my bastard cat will try to meow me awake as soon as the sun starts to rise.

I go to bed between 10 and 11. I can usually fall asleep by then and get just enough sleep to be able to make it through the day.

So he goes to bed at 10:30, up around 9, but gets mad if you aren't up before 9?

Make it make sense because it doesn't.

Is he expecting you to get up and do something like have a pot of coffee or whatever ready and cooked a breakfast for the Lord of the Manor type thing? Or he just doesn't want you in bed with him when he wakes up?

🙃

I am asleep by 9-9.30 my day starts at 6am, I'm out of bed after several wake ups during the night, there is no time to be lazing in bed until 9am for me! I guess it just depends what kind of life you have.

I think it comes down to how productive the person is. My personal experience (not saying this is always the case!!) has been that night owls seem to spend that extra time when staying up late quite unproductively, eg video gaming, watching tv/films, scrolling on a phone or online forums.

Whereas the get up at 6-7am brigade always seem to do so in order to get a load of jobs done early, like they'll get up at 6.30am and walk the dog, make the packed lunches and make breakfast all by 7.45am.

Ive never yet met a night owl who is there making the packed lunches for the next day at 11.30pm, or ironing...