To say going to bed really early is equal to bed rotting by getting up late ?

[RobertaBeckett]

Dh starting to be to bed at 1030 even 10 doenst get up till just before 9

yet gets grumpy if you don’t get up before 9 ….

i say it’s equal

Yes I’m always amazed people sleep all night. Mines more like 10pm-12 sleep. Ds wakes crying. Takes me ages to go back to sleep 1-2am sleep. Cat wakes me up. 2.30am Ds wakes to join in our bed. Takes me about an hr to fall asleep again. 3.30-5.30/6am try and sleep. Up for the day.

A few years ago when Ds was a smaller he woke every 45mins for the first 2 years.

But this is just a phase of your life

Even if you did shifts, 4pm to 4am?

Just because you spend evenings lolling on the sofa, that doesn’t mean everyone does. And physical activities aren’t the only ways to be productive.

You don’t need to justify your early nights; you just need to stop judging other people’s late mornings. We’re all different and it’s all fine.

I definitely prefer doing things in the evening. If I get up early on a wfh day for example I would just drink coffee and watch tv. Maybe go for a short walk or to the shops. But I don’t like feeling constrained by having to be back for work. Whereas I prefer going to the gym, shopping, housework instead after work

I thought the same

But later bedders like myself could be saying we have more to do with our evenings and free time, family we want to spend time with rather than to "laze" in bed from 9pm...

Even when I very briefly worked nights. My body clock simply can’t do it for whatever reason.

believe me I would love nothing more than to be able to have a lie in sometimes!

For my fellow owls....

I always thought as you got older you went to bed early and got up early. Not me. I can easily go to bed at 10 and wake up at 9 ….

He gets up just before 9 and wants her to get up at the same time.

It's not clear whether either of them actually have anything to do in the day.

I have a sister who’s in bed by 9 every night and she gets up at 10am at the earliest. She’s depressed though (so would I be if I did that).

I'm so glad to read 10.30pm isn't an early bedtime.
I was thinking what time are we supposed to be going to bed?😂

We go up about 9 / 9.30 generally and watch tv. It's comfier and in winter it's warmer.
Young dcs so they're in bed anyway.
When older ones are here and not at their partners / work or wherever then we stay up till maybe 11 as we're all catching up. But lately it's rare they're home and when they are they're out socialising so we go to bed.
Up 7am for school run and work

The hours after midnight are just not as good.

I think you are referring to the saying - ‘an hour before midnight is worth two after’. I think it’s true, actually.

My dh had a job where he used to have to get up at 5am to get there in time.
We started going to bed around 10ish and even though he doesn't do that job anymore , we are still ready to go up to bed around that time .

I used to love a late night when kids were small. Now they’ve grown up and i’m approaching the menopause I am up at the crack of dawn, so nearly always in bed at 9. But up at 4-5am, so don’t get a massive amount of sleep. I can’t imagine waking at 8.30, i’m in the office by then every day!

I’m in bed at 930 and up around 6 regardless of whether I need to get up. If I have a late night I will get up a bit later. I’d say up to 10 hour's in bed is fine .

I’m in bed for 7.30om most nights with my toddlers, I love it, it’s my second favourite part of the day, first is getting up early with no kids about !!

I don’t achieve much in the evening, so I’d rather go to bed early (can be as early as 7:30 for me), and get up early.

I don’t really understand your op. He goes to bed earlier than you and gets up earlier?

Going to bed at 10 isn’t early! What time do you go to bed?

I sleep 9-5. My Dh sleeps 11-7. We just have different routines.

That's when the wolrd is finally somewhat quiet. It's amazing

@Redpeach - surely not? I mean most people as children and teens would have had to get to school, then work from adulthood, or uni, or kids etc… unless you home school, are retired or self employed on late schedule, very small
per of the population can wake at 9-10am. As a 10am wake would mean they aren’t at school/ work/ clubs/ uni/ activities until midday.

And in reverse, by 5pm most regular life things like the banks, school, offices, shops , government are shut. So you then only get 12-5pm daily to get anything like that done v most the population basic hours for opening times of 9am-5pm.

In what world is 10.30pm really early? Also, unless it's impacting on your family life, what's the actual issue here? Different people need different amounts of sleep.