HELP! Inappropriate message from client I clean for.

[LemonLass]

Need advice on how to proceed, ladies.

Just started cleaning for a chap in his 70s in a town I lived in for 20yrs. His partner lives around 20 miles away and asked for help on his behalf. He has grown up kids and grandkids and is a professional (medical) semi retired.

I have cleaned for him twice and he goes out once I arrive.

I am due to clean tomorrow. He has just messaged to advise a plumber will be at his tomorrow. Owner will be out on his motorbike. OK, not ideal someone there but ok (I have a key).

Then I received this message. Urgh.

My instinct was block and dont engage and return key (he will be out).

Alternative to send this screenshot to the partner and say why I quit (and drop key as above).

Or go and clean as he wouldnt be there.

I am not a prude but his text was totally inappropriate. I had thought he had sent it in error but no word from him since to backtrack.

Comments and advice please ladies. Would you clean for this person under these circunstances. This extra money is £13ph self employed if that makes a difference to your comments (not a lot but very handy sideline).

How awkward!

PS i think i have successfully scrubbed anything identifiable.

I think Someone2025 might be my old headmistress.

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It’s laughable that a woman comes on here and disagrees with other women and gets accused of being a man

Is that the best you can do

I have plenty of sense thank you. Plus lived experience of these types of slimy entitled arseholes. Be thankful you are so ignorant.

I apply my sense and experience by choosing not to disbelieve someone else's metric for personal safety.

I would 100% not work in someone's home, who had a topless WhatsApp profile pic, had messaged me something outrageous (whether a mistake or not), and who then pleaded like a dog for another chance.

thought the same but you need to click on the photo to see the full exchange...

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Nonsense! There is absolutely no evidence for you being a woman. Stop getting hysterical

Oh, stop talking rubbish😂

And do you want to provide evidence that you are actually a woman
No one is becoming hysterical, stop letting your head run away from you

Please engage your brain before writing such nonsense

Aside from one text which a lot of people on here agrees was sent in error there was absolutely no evidence to suggest he was a. ‘slimy entitled arseholes’

You have no other argument than insults, saying anyone who doesn't agree is talking "nonsense" and "some people agree the text was sent in error"

Again, just be thankful you are so utterly ignorant and haven't encountered such horrible men before.

OP has made her choice.

I did not disagree with the OPs decision, it’s the other hysterical rubbish ( mainly from other commenters ) that I find ridiculous

Funny that you judge other people for being silly, but you happily believe that an adult man would text his mate about being horny, accidentally send it to the cleaner and not notice. Not the sharpest tool in the box are you? 🤣

I did not say that what he did was not silly, but there is no evidence at all to suggest it was not sent in error,
What I find even more silly than his error though is commenters on here completely jumping to conclusions with nothing whatsoever to back it up and loosing their heads over it

Well done OP for calling him out on his disgusting behaviour.

And shame on all of those who have defended him.

Yeah, guys, stop loosing your heads; they'll fall off!

I’ve seen your updates @LemonLass. I hope you’re OK. There have been some horrible responses on this thread.

What bizarre explanations he has! Sent it to a mate in error. Then, when you question that, he was sending the mate a message he previously sent to a woman on a dating app. Why? Sounds incredible fishy to me. Then, begs you to come back to clean as he ‘doesn’t want to lose you’. No understanding for how unsafe you’d feel after that.

And odd you’ve heard nothing from your friend about this. Surely, she’d have immediately contacted him to ask why he sent it. And, if a friend to you, would’ve replied to you to apologise.

Whatever, receiving an unwanted, sexually explicit text message from your employer (whatever the intent) is sexual harassment at work. He’s lucky you’ve only resigned and are not threatening constructive dismissal.

I hope you find a new client. All the best 💐

There is equally NO evidence to suggest it was sent in error, @Someone2025. Unless, of course, one assumes that a man’s word is reliable simply because he is male.

Not even sure why you've posted this, under the guise of needing help. When you seem pretty strong willed and determined to only see it from your perspective.

You've argued the toss with almost everyone who's commented.

Its much much more believable that he's messaged you about the plumber/cleaning and then accidently sent you a message meant for someone else. Than it is to believe that a guy has messaged his cleaner (organized by his gf, who cleaner has contact details for) a smutty message completely out of the blue.

I've seen you say several time that if the message was intended for his gf, then why didn't he chase up a reply. But then you also didn't reply did you, so he didn't chase that up either.

I've done it plenty of times, sent a message to the wrong person and not realized for days or until they've told me. You've pretty quickly jumped to sexual harassment. Which is fine, if you feel that way, but don't ask strangers for help if you dismiss them instantly with quite plausible answers.

Innocent until proven guilty and all of that

Baseless assumptions devoid of any evidence

There is equally NO evidence to suggest it was sent in error, . Unless, of course, one assumes that a man’s word is reliable simply because he is male.

But then a lot of people on this thread are refusing to believe it was sent in error simply because he is male. There is actually no evidence either way. Only some strong beliefs.

innocent until proven guilty, most logically minded, clear headed intelligent people will go by this, instead of making baseless assumptions

Do you have any other responses than saying, ‘nonsense’ when challenged?!

Are you due your period? Feeling hormonal?

There is also "rubbish", "silly", "you're making things up", "don't loose [sic] your heads" and sometimes this face 😂

Yes. There is no scope for intelligent discussion there. If you can’t beat ‘em…

@Someone2025 just so we’re straight, is it only ok when you call women silly then? Or are you also, to quote, just a ‘condescending old battle-axe’