HELP! Inappropriate message from client I clean for.

[LemonLass]

Need advice on how to proceed, ladies.

Just started cleaning for a chap in his 70s in a town I lived in for 20yrs. His partner lives around 20 miles away and asked for help on his behalf. He has grown up kids and grandkids and is a professional (medical) semi retired.

I have cleaned for him twice and he goes out once I arrive.

I am due to clean tomorrow. He has just messaged to advise a plumber will be at his tomorrow. Owner will be out on his motorbike. OK, not ideal someone there but ok (I have a key).

Then I received this message. Urgh.

My instinct was block and dont engage and return key (he will be out).

Alternative to send this screenshot to the partner and say why I quit (and drop key as above).

Or go and clean as he wouldnt be there.

I am not a prude but his text was totally inappropriate. I had thought he had sent it in error but no word from him since to backtrack.

Comments and advice please ladies. Would you clean for this person under these circunstances. This extra money is £13ph self employed if that makes a difference to your comments (not a lot but very handy sideline).

How awkward!

PS i think i have successfully scrubbed anything identifiable.

He keeps inviting me to make myself a coffee and leaves a jar of instant out. I take my own travel flask as prefer my coffee and milk. Hyper vigilant also due to past. He drinks ground coffee. It gets weirder if you read too deep but safety first x

what a complete wanker, in every sense of the word.

I am wondering if he imagines I would now turn around and say "ok that is alright then?"

I havent replied. I am waiting if his gf responds. I wont be replying to either of them.

Look, he said it was a mistake, why do you feel he is trying to insult your intelligence?

I'm so sorry he's put you in the position that you've lost work because of his disgusting behaviour.

I bet he would never in a million years have managed to "accidentally" send that message to the plumber who's visiting today.

1. In his reply he's asking you to come around so he can talk to you in person, alone, about how he likes to talk about his masturbation habits...

Obviously this was before his recent 'update' that it's a message he sent a woman on a dating site (WTF!!) that he randomly now sent to his mate.

His desire for an in person explanation sets off even more alarm bells. He wants to discuss sexual matters in person with you.

Urgh

2. most messaging services (text, messenger, WhatsApp etc) show a preview of the last message sent to a person when selecting a chat. So he wouldn't have needed to go back to check the OPs chat, he'd have seen her listed, along with the words 'are you horny'.

It was an "old online dating message he sent someone ages ago" and he was sending it to a mate last night. Within 3 seconds of his previous message to me.

His "story" doesnt make sense to me

Does seem weird

yes I may text a good friend and joke about lack of sex and need a shag

but the extra of lube etx seems a bit ott to a mate

He keeps inviting me to make myself a coffee and leaves a jar of instant out[...]He drinks ground coffee. It gets weirder if you read too deep but safety first

But there have literally been threads on MN where the OP has asked if it's OK to leave instant coffee for the cleaner when they drink ground. And if it's OK to leave out cheaper biscuits.

I'd be tempted to forward his latest messages to GF as well.

Thread reported.

Full speed back pedal from the dentist.

i have attached photos for you to ensure genuine @WhatdoesitmeanKeith They are genuine

He has said it was a mistake, I think your are insecure about you being a cleaner and him a medical professional and it’s your own insecurity leading you to believe that he is trying to insult your intelligence.
You have now resigned so forget about it and move on, after all the message wasn’t even intended for you

Agree with this. OP spending a lot of time on this, either block and start looking for another job or believe him.
Clearly you don't, so why still dragging it out.
You were going to block him but now posting more messages, what do you want to happen next?

We fall for it so often but thankfully when staring it in the face they reveal themselves by making ridiculous excuses that unravel and shows their true colours - he’s sounding pervier by each text - don’t reply or he’ll carry on thinking it’s bantz

His GF isn't his keeper and OP can just block and move on.
The gf hasn't replied to OP.

Agree with PP.
Just block him. It's clear you don't trust him. To me his explanation seems very believable but I wouldn't want to work for him again as it would be awkward.

There’s a lot of gaslighting men/ handmaidens ( ;-) ) answering you OP. He meant every word, didn’t get the response he thought he would. Wants to prove to you / his GF / the world that ‘he’s a good guy’ LOOK ‘she’s still working for me she got it was lols’ !! ‘Nothing to see here ‘ ‘where’s my lube she’s scrubbing those floors fiercely’

yeah. No.

This thread is getting weird. He sent you an inappropriate message, you told him that you won’t work for him anymore. That should be it. He’s a guy you worked for three times, why all this engaging with each other?

I must be mis-understanding something.

You've called him out on dodgy behaviour, he's come back and apologised and said the message wasn't for you in the first place.

You've gone back and said that you felt distressed on receipt of the message, that you don't wish to clean for him anymore and will drop key off. The story should end there.

Why have you engaged in text conversation again if you've been so traumatised by his behaviour? You said blocking was the right way to go so why haven't you blocked him?

OP, kindly, you need to leave this thread. You’ve said you’re not going to clean again for him and good for you. But why do you need to keep arguing with strangers on the internet about it? You’ve done the right thing, that’s all that matters, not what others think. Prioritise your own peace.

MFM fan?!

@Projectme my text was circa 10am. He is now blocked.

I wont be checking any more replies on here but thank you all contributers on navigating this

She replied because he asked her about the cleaning and her initial sentence didn't mention the keys and not cleaning. Op is the victim, let's not pile on her.

"Give me a chance" , huh? The dude clearly meant what he meant with his messages. Why does he cling, you are just a cleaner, after all? And you should stop analysing his ugly behaviour and move, he is just a client to you too. Why invest your energy in this further?