HELP! Inappropriate message from client I clean for.

[LemonLass]

Need advice on how to proceed, ladies.

Just started cleaning for a chap in his 70s in a town I lived in for 20yrs. His partner lives around 20 miles away and asked for help on his behalf. He has grown up kids and grandkids and is a professional (medical) semi retired.

I have cleaned for him twice and he goes out once I arrive.

I am due to clean tomorrow. He has just messaged to advise a plumber will be at his tomorrow. Owner will be out on his motorbike. OK, not ideal someone there but ok (I have a key).

Then I received this message. Urgh.

My instinct was block and dont engage and return key (he will be out).

Alternative to send this screenshot to the partner and say why I quit (and drop key as above).

Or go and clean as he wouldnt be there.

I am not a prude but his text was totally inappropriate. I had thought he had sent it in error but no word from him since to backtrack.

Comments and advice please ladies. Would you clean for this person under these circunstances. This extra money is £13ph self employed if that makes a difference to your comments (not a lot but very handy sideline).

How awkward!

PS i think i have successfully scrubbed anything identifiable.

I’m a lot younger than 70 and have both sent something in error to the wrong person, and also not checked my phone for long periods of time after sending a message. I have no problems using a phone.

as you point out, he likely lived his first 45 years without a mobile. It’s not about his ability to use one- it’s about how people use tech. The OP thinks that because he hasn’t replied in 2 hours it assumes he’s guilty. That’s not conclusive.

you might be right. He might be a perv testing the waters, but it could equally have been a mistake for the reasons myself and many others upthread have pointed out. The fact this thread is split shows it’s not definitive.

the one guaranteed way OP can test the theory is by replying she is horny and will come to do the cleaning naked- that will flush him out! If he’s innocent, he’ll be horrified.

Nonsense!
The balance of probability can’t really be applied in this instance when he did nothing untoward / inappropriate up until the point where the text in question was sent

Sounds like a man. Telling women to shut up and calm down. Male behaviour.

And calling people ‘silly women’ too, @lifeisgoodrightnow.

Agreed.

Im interested to know what exactly this chap could have done to prove he sent it in error (if indeed he did), and didn't realise until the OP replied, which caused him to check his messages.

I certainly message friends all sorts of random shit, yes including copying and pasting stuff I have said to other people, and those messages may well lack useful context if sent to the wrong person.

I also (because I am 45 and spent a large portion of my life without a smart phone - I am only on my second smart phone!) am NOT glued to a phone, not checking a messaging app every 30 seconds for a reply.

I have several friends now who I message sporadically (and they me) where we may send a one liner and not expect or check for a message back for hours or even a day or two.

So absolutely nothing about this mans behaviour is a strong indicator that he definitely sent the message to OP on purpose, to me.

Of course if the OP feels like she's not comfortable working for him now, then she doesn't, how she feels is how she feels.

Only a woman would come onto MN and say we were talking nonsense.

A man would be sending creepy PMs and claiming it was a mistake.

Except having a naked profile pic of himself on Whatsapp, and a general tone of unnecessary overfamiliarity? Open your eyes.

Because when something horrible happens, people often like to talk it through.

Some mistakes you can’t come back from 🤷‍♀️

@WiddlinDiddlin - when I talked about the ‘proof’ that the message was sent in error, I was pointing out to @Someone2025 that there is no proof to back up his statement, because they seem to be believing him over @LemonLass. Whilst there is no concrete proof that it wasn’t sent in error, the OP knows this man, and his previous behaviour, and knowing that, she believes it wasn’t a mistake, but that the message was sent to her and now he’s backpedaling - and I am inclined to accept that over the man’s excuse.

Naked profile pic on WhatsApp …. Where did the OP say he had this?

In one of her first few responses, I think it was topless.

So absolutely nothing about this mans behaviour is a strong indicator that he definitely sent the message to OP on purpose, to me.

Agree

No it wasn’t
This is just another example of people letting their heads completely run away from them,

I thought op said so at 21.07

The quote.

No she did not, what nonsense

She said he was topless, big difference between a man being naked and topless, millions of men have topless pics of themselves from on holidays, it’s a very normal thing

Stop trying to put 2 & 2 together to come up with 10

silly women

This comment tells me everything I need to know about you 🙄

Stop talking rubbish, there were no naked WhatsApp pics!
As I said previously, silly minds just running away from them, imagining scenarios that just don’t exist !

Also his behaviour previous to the text in question was friendly and polite, only someone trying to read something into nothing would try are read that as ‘ overfamiliar ‘

Have some sense for gods sake!?!

I personally think people who put 2 & 2 together and come up with 10 are silly and I will stand by that, I would say it about a male or a female

Nonsense! Honestly @someone2025, you HAVE to CALM DOWN. You're becoming hysterical and histrionic here. I've never heard such absolute tosh and rubbish. You are getting carried away with yourself and making things ups. That's it. End of. Silly man

Oh how silly! Absolutely rubbish. Calm DOWN. That's it

Oh please CALM DOWN @someone2025. You're getting hysterical here especially. Silly nonsense and rubbish. Calm down now please, before you have a stroke

I was referring to the word topless, not naked, just pointing out your error was all