HELP! Inappropriate message from client I clean for.

[LemonLass]

Need advice on how to proceed, ladies.

Just started cleaning for a chap in his 70s in a town I lived in for 20yrs. His partner lives around 20 miles away and asked for help on his behalf. He has grown up kids and grandkids and is a professional (medical) semi retired.

I have cleaned for him twice and he goes out once I arrive.

I am due to clean tomorrow. He has just messaged to advise a plumber will be at his tomorrow. Owner will be out on his motorbike. OK, not ideal someone there but ok (I have a key).

Then I received this message. Urgh.

My instinct was block and dont engage and return key (he will be out).

Alternative to send this screenshot to the partner and say why I quit (and drop key as above).

Or go and clean as he wouldnt be there.

I am not a prude but his text was totally inappropriate. I had thought he had sent it in error but no word from him since to backtrack.

Comments and advice please ladies. Would you clean for this person under these circunstances. This extra money is £13ph self employed if that makes a difference to your comments (not a lot but very handy sideline).

How awkward!

PS i think i have successfully scrubbed anything identifiable.

My comment was in response to some pp asking if you were flirting because Razz sounded like it might be a sexual act. On the bike.

I've never heard of that and I'm inclined to think people just make stuff up for the sake of it

I agree. It’s becoming dwelling now.

She doesn’t need to do anything. If this thread is helping her get support and closure then that’s for OP to determine, not you.

There are a lot of incel misogynists and supporters on this thread but there are also many of us to counter their heinous views.

Do you realise how many men say it is a mistake? A mistake has consequences.
"I thought she wanted sex". "I thought she was 17". I thought she wanted me to send a dick pick".

I don't believe for a second that it was a mistake.

He has watched too many porn plots, featuring the horny cleaning lady.

Why should he be able to upset OP, ruin her income and be a dirty dog, and claim, no harm, it was a mistake.

For the dramaz.

Good cleaners are like gold dust where I live. Would be very surprised if somebody pulled this stunt but who knows?

And what good does ruminating about it do? It’s time a line was drawn now. Otherwise we are just giving the dirty man more power.

This….

FWIW, it’s my feeling that the old guy was meant to message his side chick and accidentally sent it to OP… he didn’t realise he’d sent it to the wrong person/he thought he’d deleted it for all, until OP alerted him. His ‘explanation’ of meaning to send it to a mate is clearly BS, but he doesn’t want to tell OP the truth that it was for his bit on the side because she’ll tell his GF.

Is that ^ really outside the realms of possibility? Probably not dramatic enough though. Throw in a bit of drugging the instant coffee (as per a PP) for extra histrionics.

Either way I agree that returning to clean for the dirty old goat would be a bad move, so OP has done the right thing saying she’s not comfortable cleaning for him anymore.

There is no evidence to suggest that it was not a mistake, I think your head is after running away from you

This thread has been wild. All the women seemingly more concerned about this 'poor doddery old man who made a simple mistake' than the woman who's has to deal with this. Yes, maybe he's sexting with a woman who enjoys him sharing his desperate lubed up porn wank sessions. Take all sorts. But the 'oh it was clearly a mistake, don't be so mean, poor fella, ask him nicely if it was meant for someone else" No har done, people sext by mistake all the time'
Do they really?

Sod being kind and nice and sensitive to the feelings of these creeps. If you're in the habit of texting your pornified activities and 'careless' enough to be sending these graphic messages to your mother, daughter, boss, employee, you need to have a word with yourself.

I believe it wasn’t for you. However I don’t believe it was for a mate and think he’s probably cheating on his partner. Dirty git. Glad you’ve decided to quit.

No 'pile on' from me. Genuine question as I clearly said 'I must be misunderstanding something'.

What nonsense.

Well done OP. Your instincts were correct. I am glad you asserted yourself. He was clearly a creep from the start. Hopefully this is the end of it.

How revolting that he sends messages like that to women on dating sites 🤢

I bet I'm not the only one wondering whether the GF has asked him to explain himself. She'll know it wasn't meant for her if they'd had no preliminary conversation to warrant that remark. I wonder how he's going to explain himself to her?

How was he a creep from the start?

I was wondering about the gf too ....

Don’t concern yourself with it, how he and his gf are going to handle it is completely irrelevant to the post

Very valid and sage response

I agree.

@LemonLass of course it was a mistake because you called him out on it. If you had not have said anything, he’d have considered you as up for it.

he’s revolting, this is sexually harassment and you absolutely shouldn’t set foot in there again.

put your rates up and find someone else.

Your mind is after running away from you, you have absolutely no evidence to support any of this

Fucking hell, there are some dickheads on this thread!

@LemonLass, I'm sorry for the horrible position you were put in by this pervert. I hope his girlfriend dumps him.

@Someone2025, you have GOT to be the Dodgy Dentist, surely?!

Oh don’t be ridiculous… your another one who has let their head completely run away from them, a man who had previously been very polite and considerate to the OP sent 1 sleazy message in error and so many silly women on here completely loose their heads and imagine all sorts of ridiculous scenarios ….. give me patience?!?

‘Silly women’? You are not a feminist are you? And possibly a misogynist. Women should not have to tolerate sleazy comments. Ever. We need to have zero tolerance.

Btw it’s you’re and lose.