No holiday this year as DP is getting a hair transplant

[HorseMadL]

My DP has been umming and ah’ing about this for a couple of years now and is finally taking the plunge.

Due to the cost, we won’t be having a holiday this year (a bit annoying but it’s something he’s set on).

Has anyone got any experience of their partner having done similar? Were you in support of it? Any tips etc which would be good to know…

Selfish of you?
That’s a joke - right?

LOVE bald heads and the confidence that typically gos along with them. But, attempting to be objective - if my partner really really wanted an expensive cosmetic procedure, I'd probably reassure him that he looks great without it, help him consider all the pros and cons, support him in finding the best deal without unacceptably compromising safety or quality, and then support whatever decision he made.

HOWEVER, if he decided to commit holiday funds (or any other household money) to this without consulting me and simply expected me to go along with that decision, I'd be insisting he get checked out in case there is something seriously wrong with him.

It is only one year. I would support him, no idea of the success rates.

Someone taking care of their appearance really is attractive.

My son in law went to Istanbul to get his done. It's helped his confidence and like it ir not, it can make a difference in the workplace because of ageism. Tooth replacement, rather than dentures can be cosmetic, but is well supported on here. The weight loss jabs aren't cheap either. We wouldn't tell women to not bother with/over something because there's plenty of men who would still shag them.

@HorseMadL
Has your husband lost quite a lot of his hair?
When he gets the transplant will it be quite noticeable?
The only thing I worry about is the teasing he might get from family and friends.
Even good-natured ribbing can sting when it comes to major transformations.
I’d hate to see that.

What is a more manly and attractive type of husband?

One who prioritizes his looks over his family's happiness/experiences? Or the other way around?

Bald Husband who goes out of his way to provide his family a great holiday, any day of the week.

Self-confidence to not care about going bald.. and being good to your family = more attractive than a head of hair.

Just want to say if anyone's sad after reading that, small breasts aren't a flaw.

@LBFseBrom , you could apply that reasoning to all sorts of anxieties.

absolutely

Some women spend an absolute fortune to reduce theirs and get small breasts!

Yep even millionaire wayne rooneys failed

Wow. I find that pathetic. Just tell him to shave his head. Vanity in men gives me the über-ick.

good thing he's not your partner then, isn't it.

Would you say the same about a woman wanting to get a breast reduction or uplift? Or a woman wanting excess skin removed after weight loss?

To dismiss someone wanting to take positive action towards a body insecurity by calling it a “vanity project” is pretty fucking gross.

Absolutely agree with this. Incredibly dismissive.

How is this comparable?

Balding in women is unusual. Balding in men is a normal part of ageing caused by hormones.

The menopause is a normal part of ageing caused by hormones. It doesn't mean we should be dismissive of someone struggling with it.

I'd book a holiday and go away without him. Either take a girlfriend with you or go alone. He may not be so keen on his vanity then.

Would it not be cheaper for him to look at those wigs they put on in barbers? Expensive but they are real hair and matched and cut. I think you go back every few months to get it redone and obviously keep trimming the hair that does grow? Could end up being more expensive long term but a hair transplant could fail and some do fail.

That’s a LOT of money for cosmetics! I wouldn’t be happy with that unless he’d saved his own money and wasn’t family money. Crazy amount.

Tell him to get over himself or buy him a toupé! £7500 is a lot for something that will only last a couple of years. What happens then? Another £8000 ? How does this work for you? Have you agreed it’s a one off and that at some point you can spend a similar amount on something you want and he will support you? If he really wants it that badly can he. It save for a couple of years? Or is it just you that has to sacrifice and go without with nothing to show for it?

What makes you think it will only last a couple of years?

My DP is 49 and had one a couple of years ago and it’s still going strong. He’s super happy with it and I’m pleased that he’s happy.

Foregoing one holiday isn’t the end of the world.

I have alopecia areata and can totally understand why hair loss is such a big thing for some men.

Women have cosmetic procedures done all the time and other women don’t bat an eyelid at this. But lo betide a man wants something to improve his confidence and he gets shot down and called vain.

The double standards in this thread are CRAZY.

It's wonderful that your partner has had a wonderful experience but it isn't uncommon to need multiple treatments. It can be very person specific.

It depends on age, how long the hair has been thinning, how much donor hair takes at initial transplant, whether the hair around the implant area continues to thin, blood supply and method of transplant and how each person reacts to ongoing medication.

Fwiw I don't think it's any different to someone wanting another cosmetic procedure. I just think both OP and her partner need to be able to make an informed decision especially if this is coming out of the family pot, the same as I would expect anyone undertaking any other cosmetic procedure.

I don’t disagree.

But the point I was making was around the double standards on here.

Good on you.

Sacrifice is part of couple’s life.

No advice!