No holiday this year as DP is getting a hair transplant

[HorseMadL]

My DP has been umming and ah’ing about this for a couple of years now and is finally taking the plunge.

Due to the cost, we won’t be having a holiday this year (a bit annoying but it’s something he’s set on).

Has anyone got any experience of their partner having done similar? Were you in support of it? Any tips etc which would be good to know…

Oh blimey, I can’t remember but I know it was on Harley Street!

I’d have to ask DP!

Would you feel the same if it were YOU losing YOUR hair?

I had a relatively small one at the front. So so pleased i did.

A good quality surgeon in the UK will do a good job that looks natural (cheap turkey ones can look as unnatural as the teeth). But it'll cost here. Definitely research the surgeon. It's an art.

They also very rarely fail when done well, and the transplanted hair should stay as long as the hair at the back and sides does (ie maybe forever), where the follicles tend to be male pattern baldness resistance..... It's the follicles they transplant, not 'hair', and that's where they come from, your own follicles from back and sides.

The problem is the remaining natural hair on top which will continue to be lost. Hence:

Finasteride is the daily pill to stop the rest on top succumbing to male pattern baldness. It blocks DHT which the hormone that causes it, which comes from testosterone. I have no side effects and side effects are rare.

The one side effect most are scared of is erectile dysfunction so many don't take it, hence then needing further transplants as the rest on top falls out. You shouldn't need it to retain the transplanted hair tho (see above).

However, the evidence for ED even being a side effect is sketchy. The 1% who got it after taking it may have gone on to get ED anyway given the age of those who tend to take it.

I agree if you support him with this from family money then it would fair for you to get to spend the same on yourself, or at least something you really want that he might not that's for the family.

On whether women find men getting 'work' done a turn off is for you all. Even if it's a double standard (ie you'd support women but not like it in men) then no problem - we all can't help what we find attractive. But I've seen plenty (dating apps) outright saying they don't like balding or bald men too!

And dont underestimate how much men don't like losing their hair. Altho we seem to fair better with things like weight and age not affecting our self esteem - and i agree that is a massive privilege we take for granted too much - this one thing is the one that can possibly be as demoralising for us as those things can be for you. I think we're just less likely to admit it, partly because of feeling societal pressure to not care - to admit it would be 'not manly'.

Shave it off when he's asleep as punishment for stealing your holiday

if you get a chance, please post again! have been trying to find out about this procedure for ages for DP, but the 'field' is difficult to negotiate. seemingly so many cowboys... 🤯

Well I had a tummy tuck and lipo which cost our family £6k, and my husband still loves and fancies me, and doesn’t consider me shallow.

Im probably at least 40% happier every single day because I had it done; it’s changed my life in many many ways. I have accomplished things I’d never have been able to do before. It was honestly the best thing I’ve ever done.

Stick your silly, mean-spirited shallow and narrow view, frankly.

I am having my teeth done this year from family money. I lost and damaged my back teeth through an eating disorder in my teenagers/20's.

I have the implant screws in now.

My teeth have destroyed my confidence. I cannot wait to laugh with an open mouth or smile with my lips apart.

I appreciate that DH is supporting me.

That’s great @EmeraldShamrock000I don’t think I can adequately explain how much my
operation improved my life. Good luck!

Do you wear make up, nice clothes, have your nails done, get your hair cut etc, it's all the same.

Why would you want to beat someone down over this, they sound like they can afford this, and they have a big holiday every year, so whats the big issue for not having one holiday, one year.

If a woman came here saying her partner wanted to spend 10k on a holiday rather than IVF (as an example), it'd be LTB, red flag blah blah blah.

If you can afford it and the only sacrifice is not having a holiday for one year, go for it. Support him.

7.5k does seem a little more than normal mind, often speak to private hospitals around Harley Street/Devonshire Street. but no idea how many grafts he needs etc.

No, I’ve never had my nails done in my life - I’m quite capable of doing them myself. I wear very little makeup, and I’ve been to the hairdresser six times that I can remember since I turned 18, and I’m now in my late 60s. I do take trouble with my appearance, but don’t think it’s necessary to spend a lot of money to do that, and I am happy to age gracefully; my hair is now mostly grey, and I like it much more than the mousey brown it’s been all my life. My views have got nothing to do with the fact that spending this money on a hair transplant would be at the expense of a holiday - holidays aren’t essential anyway. I just find it odd that a man would be that concerned about losing his hair, which is something that happens to a huge proportion of men.

Och there’s always someone on threads about looks who goes ‘I’ve cut my own hair since toddlerhood, and simply gnaw my finger and toenails down to the quick on a quarterly basis’.

We get it, you’re better than people who care about their appearance. Well done to you.

DH shaves his head. He’s still fit. I’d rather have a bald husband and a holiday tbh.

I think if it was my DH and he was really struggling with his mental health and self esteem because of it,then I wouldn't mind.

There's caring about your appearance and doing a bit of superficial grooming, shaving,dying cutting etc.
Then there's full on medical procedures.

Surgery should be for correcting physical problems not self esteem or mental health issues. Make hair loss is normal. It doesn't need surgery. If a man choses to do it I wouldn't stop him but I think a bit of therapy to work on his ideas about himself is better value.

But @Overhaul54what do you mean by ‘should’? What’s a rule in your own head got to do with anyone else’s decisions!?

Should as in it is a medical procedure.For medical issues, with the associated risks.

I think it’s better generally and safer for individuals with a non medical problem ( self esteem) not to be thought of as physical problems.
The idea that superficially “looking” younger and healthier is in some way actually true despite turkey teeth and implants not actually making you healthier ( often carrying their own risks).

All the men I know who started losing hair, just went the complete shave route. That included men in their 20’s. And thought all men did this now negating the need for hair transplants and fluffing around?

I dunno mate @Overhaul54my tummy tuck motivated me to lose five stone. I’m infinitely healthier, and happier. I’d do it again tmrw. I don’t think there’s much value in trying to put your own values and morals onto other people’s actions.

Youre gonna be happier? Go for it. That’s pretty much it from me.

I'd totally support this over a holiday, if it made my partner feel happier and more comfortable. :)

Obesity is a medical condition as is loose skin
though.
I mean try diet first ideally but losing 5 stone will positively affect your health. Looking a certain way was the by product.

I think it's worth people having morals and values if only to stop people doing stupid stuff to themselves. Dying from complications of plastic surgery happens and often surgery doesn't help the issue (see Katie Price).

Who told him it’s ‘fool proof’? Doubt that, it’s expensive and time consuming with risk of poor results.

It’s different from things like dental work and more established cosmetic surgery for that reason.

Oh please @Overhaul54lets not try to draw any sort of line between one person having one procedure and Katie Price’s immense mental health issues.

Fur coat and no knickers.....

Those were the days 🤣