No holiday this year as DP is getting a hair transplant

[HorseMadL]

My DP has been umming and ah’ing about this for a couple of years now and is finally taking the plunge.

Due to the cost, we won’t be having a holiday this year (a bit annoying but it’s something he’s set on).

Has anyone got any experience of their partner having done similar? Were you in support of it? Any tips etc which would be good to know…

All right Katie.

FFS I used to love it when MN had a sense of humour.

I'd 100% sacrifice a holiday for my husband to get a hair transplant, I've told him as much. His hair causes him so much stress and anguish, it'd be worth the expense infinitely more than a holiday (and I fucking love holidays)

Yes, this. If someone’s massively unhappy with their appearance, why the hell shouldn’t they fix it? Mumsnet is unbearably cunty about this sort of thing.

My friend had it done. Did wonders for his confidence, mental health and wellbeing. Was definitely worth it.

If the tablet he has to take is finasteride you should really Google the side effects now before he takes it.

No, you have to keep going back for top-up treatments.
Older men with luxurious hair are either genetically blessed, Irish, or so wealthy that they can afford all the extra treatment (Elton, Damon, Liam etc).

If it’s Finasteride, the side effects include loss of libido and erectile dysfunction. I knew a woman whose boyfriend took this drug and couldn’t get it up. He had great hair though. If my DP swapped a functioning cock for a full head of hair, I’d probably leave. My acquaintance married her bloke, so it’s obviously not a deal breaker for everyone.

Be very very careful of that medicine.
Everything can be fine and then suddenly out of nowhere a severe dip in mood, sudden onset of severe anxiety.
I saw it up close with a young family member and the deterioration was shocking.
Fortunately it was towards the end of a 3 month prescription and it wasn't renewed.

Everything can be fine for months and then suddenly out of nowhere it can hit.
Not worth it if you get the side affect.

A blood test for testosterone should be taken first to check levels.
It lowers it considerably apparently.

Have a solo trip. Seriously underrated.

I think this is a selfish approach. I assume this is something that he is very insecure about and will boost his confidence and as a partner we make sacrifices and work together not is it that you must have your vacation.

I will agree with you if he uses holiday funds for his personal use every year but for a one significant investment she can skip a vacation for one year, she will not die because she didn't go on vacation this year.

I know couples where the wife has been insecure about her body after children and they sacrifice and paid for some work for her and it improved her confidence. That's what marriage and supporting each other means.

Again if he has form for selfishly only doing what he wants then that's different.

And you say it's vanity but it can be very important to some people depending on how insecure they are about it. That's like telling someone who has dealt with bad teeth for a long time that it's vanity to get their teeth fixed when it so obviously bothers them and affects their confidence.

What ? Who is money is he spending?

I don't think you know what "probably" means. It's not "what I think given no evidence whatsoever and a predisposition to think the worst".

Irish?

My DH had it done. It wasn’t painful and after a couple of weeks of it looking odd he was pretty much back to normal. It looks great now. It was something that really got him down beforehand. Good on you for being so supportive. The not getting it wet/putting lotion on for the first week or so was a faff but when I think about the amount of hair dying/perming/waxing I’ve done over the years it’s nothing. Good luck to him!

I haven’t read the thread, but my very handsome DP was losing his hair rapidly post 40 and it was affecting his confidence. I fully encouraged him to go and get a transplant as we can afford it and I felt it would boost his self esteem, particularly as he’s in an industry where you can ‘age out’ (pilot).

The results have been amazing. He went to Turkey for his and paid about 4000 euros. The hospital was brilliant and the aftercare too. His brother also went a few weeks ahead and is now also enjoying a full head of hair after being 60% bald before.
It’s worth it, in my mind. DP has a new lease of life and looks great.

I have a sense of humour thank you. But people making sweeping statements when they probably have no experience of what they are commenting on is just ignorant and irritating

I'd be okay with this, I'd like to think my DP would do the same for me if I was insecure about something. A holiday is a holiday, sad to miss one but there'll be others.

One of my best friends has a hair system and it looks absolutley fantastic, knocks off 10 years. I'd worry about cock ups or continued balding with a transplant.

However I don't see anything wrong with a guy getting it done, each to their own. lHaving said that, do you have kids who are missing a holiday? I would take a holiday bullet for DH but would wobble at the kids missing one in exchange for a cosmetic procedure unless his MH was really in the toilet about it. Xx

The works photocopy repair man had a hair transplant many years ago. His scalp looked like Tiny Tears' head.

That sounds very positive.
A dermatologist friend said Turkey is where it is at for this surgery.
Would love to where he went and to whom?
Thanks.

Also, just to add. I don’t think a family holiday that lasts a week or two can be compared to surgery that will change the way he feels about himself fundamentally.

If he has form for being selfish and prioritising himself above the family, then you may have an issue. But otherwise, good for him.

Not RTFT but someone at work had it done and I only knew as he told me. It looks like normal hair and he’s happy.

I think you are doing a really kind thing OP.

Ah brilliant, hope it goes well. Maybe a weekend away instead 😃

If I had a recording hair line or was bald, I'd want it done.

I think the doctor was called Serkat Aygin. The clinic was amazing and the results have been worth every penny for both DP and his brother. Overall it was a brilliant experience and outcome for them both.