No holiday this year as DP is getting a hair transplant

[HorseMadL]

My DP has been umming and ah’ing about this for a couple of years now and is finally taking the plunge.

Due to the cost, we won’t be having a holiday this year (a bit annoying but it’s something he’s set on).

Has anyone got any experience of their partner having done similar? Were you in support of it? Any tips etc which would be good to know…

My partner has had it done and it has made him so happy. Gave him confidence I never knew he had. I’d happily forgo a holiday for that.

That’s awful, poor guy. But I guess he paved the way, as a guinea pig for the procedure and all. Nowadays it looks incredible and you can’t tell it’s a transplant.

i hope your photocopy repair guy doesn’t know what people say behind his back. How cruel. Hair loss affects men just as much as it affects women when it comes to self esteem.

@HorseMadL Fertility issues is one, possibly caused by lack of libido - which is a lot more common.
If it means a lot to him and you can afford it (holiday aside), then he should give it a go, but it would be good to talk to him about this being a one off. It is easy to get sucked in to "one more try".
I am not sure if they offer counselling for hair transplants like they are supposed to for plastic surgery, they should as they are essentially the same pathway.
Hair loss is highly visible and can do a great deal of damage to self image.
It's such a tricky one - married a full head of hair person, five years later, he embraced the shave. It really did a number on him to get there though.

If you reverse it, would he be happy to forego a holiday if you wanted a cosmetic procedure done? If yes, then it's great you can support each other like that!

Vanity? Some men are hugely effected by hair loss. Imagine saying that to a woman who is body conscious about small/big breasts.

@HorseMadL It also says on Google that it isn't prescribed on the NHS for Male Pattern Baldness - so it'll be a private prescription for life, which will also cost a bomb I would have thought!

And women will small/sagging breasts...It's about self confidence....I am male, when young used 3 different types of hair grease to achieve the Elvis quiff...now bald but not that bothered, yes would like hair...but I've got mates who are really effected by hair loss

DH had one and it looks great. Similarly to you he couldn’t contribute to the family holiday that year, I paid for us all instead. We only pool money for essential costs and keep our fun money separate.

I was more than happy to do this as it’s something he’s wanted to for a long time, and over the years he’s sacrificed things for my sake.

For people saying it’s just vanity it massively affected his confidence, he’d had a couple of instances of drunk people commenting on his bald patch which really upset him. He told me that it made him not want to go out anymore. I’ve noticed an improvement in his mood since getting it done so we are both happy.

It looks really natural as they didn’t pull the hairline forward just filled in his crown and the front where it was thinning.

tell him get a stick on wig and book the carribbean ! lol

I had my boobs done and that came out of the family savings.
I spoke about having my boobs done since I was 18- was an AA cup - then finally at 30 I did it. My husband was the one to suggest taking it from the family savings, although I was happy to pay for them myself. I did get them done 10 days before his birthday everyone joked that his birthday present sorted.
It’s clearly something he has his heart set on so I think giving up one holiday is not the end of the world. You could always go on a UK mini break if you wanted to have some quality family time together.

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yeah, lol 🙄

I would find this very difficult- it's such a lot of money for a cosmetic procedure. Unless we had money to spare I don't think I could endorse family money being spent this way.

I wouldn’t be giving up a holiday for such a ridiculous reason. Surely you can just pay for your own holiday or is this his money?

My brother had one about 8 years ago. It looked great at first but he started to bald beyond where the transplant starts so he has this bald line ina odd shape followed by thick hair. It looks weird

Sons friend aged 44 had it done last spring. We've known him since he was a baby. He started going bald in his early twenties. I saw him six months after operation. When he took his cap off my jaw dropped. He looks amazing and like the young man I remember. I was thrilled for him. Turkey was where it was done.

My son wants to have it done now. I'm all for it as is his wife. She said it's bothered him a lot.

Women with small/saggy boobs covers pretty much all women after about 55. Small boobs don’t sag and larger one’s inevitably do.

Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. I think that’s a healthier message for society than “if you look better you’ll be happier”.

The confidence to own your flaws and your aging, is more attractive than the need to be something you aren’t.

@Overhaul54 , you can say that but things like missing teeth are not socially acceptable.

I'd be spitting feathers tbh. If you have money to spare or he's using his own savings fair enough but sorry love we aren't go on holiday this year because I want cosmetic surgery is so incredibly self centred.

Devils advocate

To the majority that say he is being selfish and should either accept baldness or shave it all off. If you started to go bald what would you do?

If he'd keep his gob shut if you hijacked the thick end of £10k from the family holiday fund for something, then fair enough.

@Lassango ,it is more socially acceptable for women to wear hairpieces than it is for men. I know plenty of women who wear head coverings, and nobody mentions it.

Totally agree with this. Being bald or having small boobs are perfectly normal variations within the population.

There's a joke in here somewhere, the OP runs off with a wealthy bald man.

To the majority that say he is being selfish and should either accept baldness or shave it all off. If you started to go bald what would you do?
I don't think he's selfish, but rather I find it sad that people feel the need to spend all that money on something so superficial. As a woman in her 60s with thinning hair, I do nothing about it, because I don't care! But hey ho, each to their own.

Oh please

Do what you want about your own body, but who are you to judge others.
I AM happier because I exercise a lot and am toned, because I colour my hair, whiten my teeth, and do little things here and there to improve my appearance.

I live in a society where help is accessible, and I am happily using it.

Men or women, as long as you do it within obvious reasons, go for it.