No holiday this year as DP is getting a hair transplant

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My DP has been umming and ah’ing about this for a couple of years now and is finally taking the plunge.

Due to the cost, we won’t be having a holiday this year (a bit annoying but it’s something he’s set on).

Has anyone got any experience of their partner having done similar? Were you in support of it? Any tips etc which would be good to know…

That's not the same.

Men losing hair happens to them all. It's not even a sign of old age, they thin out pretty young. Men with no hair aren't viewed as less masculine either.

So if they don't go on holiday this year, that's it? There's no more years to make memories left? Did I miss the part in the OP where it said this was the last ever opportunity they would ever have to have a holiday?

I know two people who have had hair transplants and they have had great results.

I have massive hangups about my tummy. Three very big children have left it with a noticeable gap in my muscles, and I do look pregnant most of the time no matter how much weight I lose. My husband has said that if I want to I can have a tummy tuck as he knows how much it effects my confidence. I would also support him if he had something he was very insecure about, even if it meant foregoing a holiday.

I’m shocked at the amount of women on here that think because it’s a male going bald he should just accept it! Men get self continuous just like women do. By the time a person has reached a point of wanting to get surgery to fix something it’s more than vanity at play.
I have hair extensions. Is it vanity? Possibly but it’s also a crippling hatred of my own thinning, scraggy hair that made me cry daily. The £80 every 6 weeks I spend is worth every penny for my self confidence and mental health.
I bet if it was a women poster asking if her husband should miss a holiday so that she could get a hair transplant the answers would be very different.

It's not fail proof at all. The fact they said that about a cosmetic medical procedure is worrying.

There's plenty of things that could go wrong.
Many people I think end up getting several as the first one isn't enough.

Would he let you get £7.5k worth of surgery?

He should use a payment plan anyway. It's not really that fair to say no holiday. Maybe a shorter or cheaper one but not none at all.

Thankfully in normal relationships, people support each other and if something really is important, you go with it.

I’d love to see one of those return flights from Turkey. Row after row of white teeth, red raw plugs and bandaged body parts.

I have worked with a couple of guys that got it done.
They dis look really good tbf and they were really happy with the results.

@UndermyShoeJoe , No fake nail, false eyelashes, beauty treatments, botox, fancy hairdos etc here either, but if I did, I'm sure it would add up quickly.

I'm not in a position to judge about things like hair transplants, boob jobs and tummy tucks because I have no direct need for any of them IYSWIM.
If, for example, it was affecting my mental health, then surely it isn't vanity.

(My boobs and tummy are not picture perfect but I don't care)

”I’m cabin crew on inbound Turkey flights, AMA”

My husband said someone posted a photo of Turkish airlines the other day on Instagram showing a lot of Middle Aged men with really bad hair implants and said ‘Guess the airline?’ 🤣 I’m guessing there were probably some turkey teeth in there too.

I think it’s okay if you support him. Men really do suffer bad self-esteem from being bald. Other people aren't kind about it.

Also to add, yes there was a tablet my DP was given to promote hair growth.

I believe it’s called Finasteride?

He stoped taking it several months ago as he’d started having chest pains and he felt it was related to that tablet. Hasn’t had any pains since he came off it.

DP is 49 now, so was around 47 when he had his transplant done. He was pretty sore for a while afterwards.

Dont be ridiculous. I fly from Turkey 6 x yearly. It's never as you describe. Have you ever flown to or from Turkey or are you just guessing?

As I said in a subsequent post, it absolutely WAS the same for the person I know who had a transplant. Starting to lose his hair so young destroyed his confidence and his happiness and was preventing him from living his life. The transplant has changed all of that. Why should he have to just suck it up when there is a potential solution? Why is it ok to dismiss it as vanity when the hair loss was crippling him?

DS’s friend got one in the UK for a similar cost, he was 28 at the time, now at 31 it looks awful, lots of tufts. He’s shaved it all off.

The number of posts on here mocking men for getting it done or dismissing it as vanity says so much about how society expects men to just put up and shut up about issues that affect their mental health. As the mother of sons I find this deeply depressing.

Yes my husband has had 2... It has actually made a big difference to him x

You’re agreeing with my point of view

I agree

I suffer from Alopecia Areata. So when my DP wanted a hair transplant I understood and supported him.

I wouldn’t think twice about sacrificing my holiday for this and I would hope my DP would do the same.

Tbh my hair is a big part of me and would consider doing something like this is if it ever started falling out. I’m not sure if they do it for women but I can imagine a lot of women wanting this treatment.

Did the first one fail or did he just have further hair loss from his non transplanted hair?

Do you live with DP? Do you have DC?

I think he should be able to spend his money on new hair rather than a holiday if that’s what he wants. However, I don’t think it’s fair that you (and possibly DC?) should have to miss out. That sort of expense should come from personal spending money, not the family purse.

Can you go on holiday with a friend/family/just you and the DC?

My uncle did - £20k later - hes given up. Good luck OP. Hope it works for your husband.

Gynecomastia and erectile dysfunction also positively correlated with Finasteride if I remember correctly.