Am I misreading tone?

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Therapist of a year that I visit regularly asks for deposits pre appt. Very normal. I rarely mess with anyone’s money so I send it.

My bank is frozen out due to 3 fraudulent transactions so I can’t pay anyone. I booked my slot she said “please pay deposit via the link” i said “sorry Sandra my bank is frozen at the moment. Please could you remind me again in a couple of days and I will transfer you the money straight away.” Her response was “Hope nothing serious x

Would you mind setting a reminder for yourself please and message me once done so that I can confirm receipt 😊💜
Thank you”

I just read that as unnecessarily difficult. I run a business tutoring and I’ll remind clients. It’s no issue. I just think it was really standoffish for no reason. It upsets me because I’m a regular client and appreciate the therapy get.

12 pages of Absolute Codswallop 😆🤣😆🤣 or maybe 6 posts of codswallop 🤪

Speaking of tone, this is a pretty disrespectful way to dismiss the dozens of people who've offered the feedback that you asked for.

What's that, Skippy?

You're in therapy, you say?

Her reply was very friendly. She was just pointing out that it's your responsibility to remember to pay your deposit and you didn't like being in the wrong. You still won't accept it. 🤷‍♀️

I’ll forget can you just ask again later

Are you this arrogant in all your dealings with other people?
Why are you so much more important than others that it’s OK for you to know beforehand that you’ll forget to pay them, and just assume in a lordly way that they will run around to service your life and clear up any mess you leave?

I hope your therapy helps you get to the root of your sense of entitlement.

Again. You asked for feedback. About your situation.

It is not the fault of MN that you disagree with every response you've had and can't accept you're wrong.

If you didn't want honest answers, why ask the question?

I think we can see who has the issues here!

All this “cods wallop”?

I suggest you discuss your inability to be wrong in therapy.

I also go to work, as do a lot of people including your therapist.

Hooefully, this post has been a reminder that you needed, that you owe her money (she sounds like she deserves it!).

You could ask a grown-up to help you change your MN settings so that you have more posts per page (and fewer pages to click through)?

On second thoughts...

Some say codswallop, some say people disagreeing with you.

So now you're huffy because nobody agreed with you about the therapist's tone? You've certainly got a lot to unpick with her, just going by your behaviour on the thread you started...

Just set a reminder on your phone ffs like the rest of us have to, it's pointless having the strategies to help us manage our difficulties and just not using them. You're only harming yourself in the end!

Or... OP says Codswallop, everyone else says disagreeing with batshit OP.

Actually.

not sure why I bothered.

HTH

Not piling on you but the reason your account is frozen doesn’t matter. In fact giving off “it’s not my fault” vibes are even worse for late payment. Tbh I think she would probably have reminded you (depending on how financially important your booking is to her) but you asking her to do so was probably a step too far. I guess she was being a bit contrary but well within her rights to do so.

Plus this was the deposit, not even the actual booking, so makes more sense why she would be less arsed to chivvy you (no financial loss on her end even if you don’t book).

I'd say yes you probably do have a problem misreading tone OP. Probably best discuss it with your therapist.

It’s so funny how right you think you are. YABU, remember to pay the woman yourself.

You owe them, don’t make them chase you for this money.

Why did you bother to ask?

YABU and quite odd! Her tone is fine and it is up to you to remind yourself - your bank issues aren’t hers to deal with - why would I they be?!

You had the time to post it though

You should ask your therapist to remind you to give her a tip which she definitely deserves.

It’s pretty disrespectful to think I care x

ok I will show my therapist x

Can't even do wit!

You asked for feedback. Why would anyone think to don't care now when you cared enough to start a thread about it two days ago?
I don't understand why you're being so rude to people for posting on your thread, other than the fact no-one is agreeing with your view and you clearly don't cope well with that.
Very much seeing why your therapist wasn't willing to tolerate your shit though. Smart woman.

Oh, the irony of the “x” at the end of these posts 😆