To be getting second hand embarrassment because my DH is wearing sandals!

[Pinkbakewell]

For the first time since I’ve known him, my 43 year old DH has bought himself some sandals. I don’t know why but they make me cringe. I think sandals on men look so naff and ‘old man’.

I’ve put a photo of the pair he has bought on this post.

AIBU or do they look really naff and embarrassing?!

They are pretty awful. I hate seeing peoples trotters during the summer. My feet don’t get that hot unless in boots. Hopefully he doesn’t have dry fungal feet. Many men neglect their feet.

I feel for you. I vetoed some very ugly sandals last year, god they were awful. The compromise was deck shoes no socks (anchors aweigh lol), light trainers, and sliders for the pool/garden/beach. No divorce yet.

It’s none of your business what your husband is wearing. What would you say if he told you that he was embarrassed by something you were wearing?

You’re lucky. My partner wears DMs on the beach. I just ignore it. Who cares?

NONE OF HER BUSINESS? What her husband wears?!

First of all - of course it's her business. And she's allowed an opinion on whatever she likes. And because he's her husband she's allowed to voice that. He is of course allowed to ignore that, as I do, when I wear my comfy work shoes that my husband thinks are ugly af.

There fine he’s just bought them 20 too early

They’re revolting, my fanny would heal over.

Haha! This!

They are a MUCH better than this fashion for men wearing sliders these past few years....

my husband LIVES in his birkenstocks. He has an indoor pair and several outdoor pairs, Only time I see him in shoes is if we are dressing up for something which is rare. The birks have healed his plantar fasciitis. We have tile floors thru out the house so he needs them indoors as well. That being said , we live in the Dominican Republic and it is hot as balls most days. Right now it is 31 degrees, so I also mainly wear birks in the house, and pretty sandals when out.

I was raised in flip flops.
Still have flip flops.
Parents gran parents all wore flip flop winter and summer.
We are just a family that never liked shoes.

That's really shallow 😕 I couldn't care less what DH wears as long as he is comfortable! Why would you be embarrassed? His clothing choices are nothing to do with you!

Of all the things to be worried about, your husbands sandals wouldn’t even make the list! They are absolutely fine…worn to a formal wedding maybe not lol, but they are fine.

Keens re a great walking sandal. I’ve a couple of pairs and don’t give a shit what people think. They are really comfy and have a great sole for summer hiking and generally pottering around.

Mine only cares about comfort (autistic).

Nobody cares generally about what anyone wears. The older I get the more I realise this.
Sandals are great in hot weather.

I am surprised some folk think they are unmanly. Is it more manly to have hot feet or something 🤔
No wonder gender politics is a mess if there are rules like this.....

Never a truer word spoken. Though OP my dad wears those sandals your DH has got. He's 67 though🤭

So what I want to know is, what other kinds of male sandals out there are acceptable? Birkenstock type things spring to mind, but they are normally mules/clogs/backless. Sliders, esp with socks are comical and backless. Deck shoes aren't sandals and have become acceptable now but were old golfing and sailing posho shoes.

I wear sandals like this for cycling to and from work. Birkenstock otherwise from April to October.

@Pinkbakewell if worn with jeans/long trousers then 🤢 but if with shorts/t shirt then 👍

I couldn't get upset about hiking sandals, but they look better on some people than others IMO. Also depends what he wears with them.

This! I'm glad my DH isn't shallow and judgemental as I live in pink Crocs!

Women wear sandals, why shouldn't men?

They look like summer walking shoes, lots of hiking men have them.

But really, who cares, the only people will give a f##k will be shallow and judgemental.

Having lived abroad and an eyelid was never battered when bank managers wore them, my mind opened up to why not.

Hate the stupid and pathetic societial 'norms' about what is cringe. Who really does care???

Lots of people wear this kind of shoe.

Your DH has chosen footwear he feels will be comfortable for his feet.

There may be items in your wardrobe/shoe collection that your DH isn't so keen on.

Then in his defence it makes sense.

I wouldn’t be wanting them on a nice date night tho.