To be getting second hand embarrassment because my DH is wearing sandals!

[Pinkbakewell]

For the first time since I’ve known him, my 43 year old DH has bought himself some sandals. I don’t know why but they make me cringe. I think sandals on men look so naff and ‘old man’.

I’ve put a photo of the pair he has bought on this post.

AIBU or do they look really naff and embarrassing?!

I assume you’re being lighthearted.

But in case not, reflect on how you’d feel if DH secretly threw away shoes that you bought for yourself and which you like, because he didn’t think you look attractive enough in them.

I suppose it depends on the couple but I would think most partners would care enough that their other half found them attractive ….but of course each to their own

His wife shouldn't be ridiculous about shoes.

To be fair most of the commenters on here agree with her

There is a border between caring about being attractive to a partner and the partner being controlling.

I wouldn't shave my legs or wear heels just before my partner would find it more attractive. Those are my basic choices.
As long as the shoes are clean and in good state, he shouldn't be forced into closed shoes.

....mostly women then......

I don't agree. I agree with fiveIsNewOne

There is a border between caring about being attractive to a partner and the partner being controlling.

He has more fashion sense than posters on here.

https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/fashion/article/socks-and-sandals

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I wouldn’t be so sure about that

I do think we should find our partners attractive based on what they wear, and I also believe there should be room in a marriage for that kind of conversation. However, not everyone is open to that, and some things are just non-negotiable, and it may be a very touchy thing to bring to the table, so I guess the best way to handle it is to accept it.

This is the particularly maddening thing about this thread!

Like them or not, those sandals are fashionable!

Well unless you're exceptionally shallow like many people on here surely it's the person you find attractive. And surely no normal person spends their time gazing at their partner's feet!

No, just find it unattractive when men don't take care of their feet...

The way a person dresses/ grooms forms part of their attractiveness though. Increasingly so as we all get older and the raw materials we have to work with degrade, so so speak 😬.

Such virtue signalling 😂😂

What does that even mean?

Look it up

It’s all about context, dear. Not just words.

Jesus?!?!,
There was context my dear

What, just because I love DH for who he is, not what he wears on his feet? Rather a virtue signaller than shallow and controlling thanks

The key words being 'part of'. Personality and kindness are surely more important those someone's feet. I'm more interested with what I have in common with DH than his shoes.

I actually am exceptionally shallow but whilst I definitely mentally judge what people wear- it's the clothing, not the person I'm judging. And I'd never say anything or try to veto something my husband wanted to wear **

And here we're discussing a basic item of footwear worn by millions of men- trying to control that is dreadful behaviour.

** unless it was a Saltire t-shirt worn for political reasons, in which case , I'm not being seen with him [purely hypothetical as he'd never wear that]

Huh?!?
I don’t think you really understand the phrase

Where are these millions of men?

There are none in my social circle - do these sandal wearers coordinate with man bags, maybe with sunglasses and long shorts, are these the types being alluded to?

Much to your annoyance, the majority on here agree with the OP - I for one wouldn’t be seen dead wearing sandals, what a laughing stock I’d be strolling into the pub for a beer!

Lol only in UK or do you never go to other parts of the world?