To be getting second hand embarrassment because my DH is wearing sandals!

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For the first time since I’ve known him, my 43 year old DH has bought himself some sandals. I don’t know why but they make me cringe. I think sandals on men look so naff and ‘old man’.

I’ve put a photo of the pair he has bought on this post.

AIBU or do they look really naff and embarrassing?!

My DH and I have similar to these and almost matching! You'd hate us

That sounds like a ‘you’ problem. I wear sandals and don’t experience your issues.

Just normal walking around, streets, paths etc. Shoes get dirty and dusty and feet are no different. By debris I mean stones, bits of twig, dried leaves, occasional bits of litter. MIL managed to stand in dog poo which went in her sandal.
You’re lucky with the blisters, I have scars from my attempts to wear sandals.

Good for you 🤷‍♀️ PILs walking group has banned them as they were causing so many issues.

YABU and a bit mean. It’s just a pair of sandals. If it was macho even for the roman centurions, it’s fine for blokes to wear sandals.

They're not sandals but sandals are absolutely fine on men.

Again, that’s an issue of not wearing appropriate shoes for the environment. If they’re hiking in fields etc then they need hiking shoes.

Good grief.

It’s footwear. If a woman in here said her OH was policing what she wears there’d be uproar

Such double standards.

I actually did say that, well kind of, and theres a lot of people agreeing and not much in the way of arguments.

DH cares a lot more about fashion than I do, he is allowed an opinion on how I look and vice versa. Not the final say but an opinion that I value.

The way I put it was if you we’re a professional woman, put effort into your appearance and tried to always look your best in a nice outfit, hair done etc would you go out with an unwashed man in a stained vest, shorts and sliders? I doubt it, to some extent couples represent each other.

Sandals are ok on men, my only no no it is when they wear it with socks, looks so stupid

So do we. 🤣🤣

They are awful but I really do defend his right to wear whatever he finds comfy. His feet, not yours. It’s probably a refreshing way to live, to not care about what others think of your fashion.

yanbu. I wouldn’t be seen dead with someone wearing those, unless they were over the age of 70. And if it was my husband I think it would kill any attraction towards them for a long time 🤣

Ewww! My dad wears them, I would be horrified if my husband wore something like that. YANBU.

A version of them is on this recent listicle of the most fashionable men's sandals.

https://www.cnn.com/cnn-underscored/fashion/best-sandals-for-men

Perhaps he's actually very fashion-forward...

There’s two different things there. DH wears shorts and sliders, I have no problem with it at all. Being unwashed and wearing stained clothing would be a no even if the clothing was designer. Providing he and his clothes are clean, which they are, he can wear what he likes and vice versa.

I think theres nothing worse than men who wear trainers rain and shine and refuse to let their feet see the sun.

YABU.

They are walking sandals My OH used them in South America. De ent company as well as the first ones had an issue and he emailed and they sent free replacements

Sounds like a teenage attitude tbh.

Mins you I dislike all feet so wouldn't be looking closely at other people's lol

They're on this list too
https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/fashion/article/socks-and-sandals

And whilst it's not the same sandals, here's a very stylish sock and sandals wearer.
https://www.gq.com/story/timothee-chalamet-socks-sandals

The way I put it was if you we’re a professional woman, put effort into your appearance and tried to always look your best in a nice outfit, hair done etc would you go out with an unwashed man in a stained vest, shorts and sliders? I doubt it, to some extent couples represent each other.

But that's not a valid comparison. It's very odd to assume that the OP's husband will be unwashed in a stained vest.

In general, I couldn’t give a toss what my DH wears, he is a grown man. But, he will often ask my opinion and my opinion of those would be…..a very strong “yuck”.

Divorce him with immediate effect - utterly cringeworthy and soooooo embarrassing for you!

Sorry everyone but I'm with you on this OP. Sandals on a man give me the ick. I do have a bit of a thing about feet though

You criticize the sandals and advocate DENIM shorts!!!! Really????

Are you serious? They look ok. You sound a bit loopy, though..