Team day out without me

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Have just seen on social media that my entire team have been taken out as a treat by our manager. He has taken them to a local seaside resort for ice creams and general fun. I haven't been invited and didn't know anything about it. I'm the only one not there. We were all in the office yesterday and not a single person mentioned it.

So you’ve been seconded to the team, is this right? Did you mean you’ve been in this specific team for two years or the company overall?

Is it possible there’s a team social chat you’ve not been added to as you were seconded?

Can you ask HR to return to your original team because of this bullying?

Being the only one not invited is dreadful. I wonder if your manager will claim that either a) you knew and refused (you say there’s a history of lying) or b) that it was only for permanent members of staff?

Either way I’m really sorry. I’d absolutely be looking for another job. Pronto. Bunch of twats.

@GoodonHamzah Nor is this. Please don’t make OP feel worse than she already does.

Same team and all report to the same manager..the one who took them all out

My point is

Posters are talking about taking employment action and taking screenshots

the op has assumed the manager has treated the team but all it is …. Is photos of her work colleagues with whom she has a torrid relationship with (about a dozen threads this Op has on her work colleagues) at the beach on a Saturday

I don’t tent to mislead the Op in to her thinking she had any rights of redress about this Saturday beach trip her colleagues are taking together.

How do you know the manager has arranged and paid for all this? You’re going by some beach photos posted today

Plenty of friends outside of work thank God, many of them ex colleagues funnily enough and had a great time in school. This is literally the only place I've ever had any issues x

Have you been keeping a record of all the incidences where you have been mistreated? Or are you able to compile a list this with dates?
After this, I would be going to HR for bullying. It’s not fair for you to be working in an environment like this.

Absolutely this OP. It’s important. Evidence can mysteriously disappear if you make a complaint.

Regardless of how far you take it, collect the evidence that gives you the option to pursue matters if you feel like it.

I am asking whether the op has friends outside of work or if this is a pattern.

if the op does have friends, then see about getting together with them today op?

He put something along the lines of 'treating my great team. '

what was actually written, if you’re absolutely honest OP….

He'll have paid for it and then submitted expenses under the banner of team building..

If OP can find that's the case it's enough to make a formal complaint.

No it's my day off too, we don't work weekends x

Been with this team 2 years, about 5 overall wirh the company x

Ice cream at the seaside is a fun day out for toddlers, not working adults. I'd be quite glad not to be asked along!
We do it as part of our team days occasionally. We all get on and it's a complete change of scenery.
The only difference is that every is invited.
It's something that everyone can take part in.

Sorry I forgot it’s Saturday! Really crappy of them.

And the entire team was invited except her? Give your head a wobble.

Is this a working day, or are they spending time together in the weekend? How many people are there?

Nasty, hope they all get a dose of food poisoning.

It is a small team of much older women than the op…. She doesn’t get on well with anyone of them, and there all worked there for much longer than tha Op.

there is a LOT of history to the Op and her colleagues

I can sympathise OP. Many years ago, I had similar where my boss took all the other members of our small team to the opera to celebrate her birthday.

It stung. Especially as I found out by chance as they all kept quiet. I made the decision there and then to start looking for a new job.

Fast forward 15 years and said boss passed away just after retirement. I did not send a card, flowers nor did I attend the funeral. And I didn’t feel one pang of regret about it.

It’s perfectly acceptable for colleagues to not particularly like each other. It’s not acceptable for a team leader/ manager to let that influence how they treat team members.

I don’t think it’s meant to be helpful. It’s goading and attention seeking. Best ignored

is this the OP who refuses to communicate her birthday to a colleague because she doesn't want to discuss these things at work? Odd.

Social exclusion needs reporting to HR, obviously, but considering moving job would be on my list. They never going to get on, and while a manager inviting an entire team except one is bullying, you can't police private events in their own home, when people invite "friends' as opposed to "the entire team".

It won't get any better

This and very unprofessional of your manager.
Raise with HR

That’s the one