Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

[Yesttte]

Lighthearted really but I honestly can’t understand why anyone would feel precious about a friend forgetting their birthday. My very best friend has forgot a couple of times and it’s more funny than anything else. But other people seem up in arms about things like this.

Weddings… I couldn’t give a shit if someone couldn’t make my wedding or posted a photo too soon or whatever else. I’m amazed people care about this stuff.

Obviously there’s plenty I’m highly strung about though! 😅

Strava - I exercise for my health not publicity
Second hand stuff
Reduced priced stuff in supermarkets
Cheap eating places - love a ‘Spoons
Privacy / absence social media

It doesn't bother me when OH goes on a night out with friends. I actually encourage it as he barely goes out, so that might make a difference compared to others who's husband's are our every weekend 🤣

It also doesn't bother me when people swear, chew loudly or snore. It also doesn't bother me if people burp or fart when I eat, whereas my mum goes bonkers!

People not answering their phones if it’s a number they don’t recognise- I don’t get that? What if it’s an emergency and a nurse or someone is calling to say your kids in hospital? Plus I’m freelance so most of my work comes from a phone call - if I don’t pick up someone else gets the job! Also gender reveals - what’s the bloody point? So glad I had my kids before all the baby showers and gender reveal nonsense became a thing.

These sound very much like things that DO bother you, rather than things that don’t.

How much money other people earn, how much their cars, houses, extensions etc cost
If other people’s children get better grades than mine
How people parent - unless it affects my children (as in bullying) or unless they put their own children in danger
if a friend has something more expensive than me in a restaurant but we split the bill evenly - if they’re really a friend it will all even up over time
Kids laughing and having fun in public

Which way the toilet roll goes on - who has time to care about something as trivial as that?

Most things.
In general, I think we have become far more uptight and less tolerant as a society. In the end, none of the small stuff really matters. Shrug and move on. The mental gymnastics people get into over the smallest matters sounds absolutely exhausting.

people cutting down trees, really bothers me but nobody else seems to mind.

You're the wrong way round for this thread, but I'm with you.

Obviously some trees are grown to be cut down. But leave the big old beautiful ones alone, and the woodland and forests (beyond maintenance). We need trees, they do so much for us.

Indeed. If we were to do a spray analysis - I don't recommend this - we would find that errant man pee is mostly found at the back of the seat and lady pee mostly at the front. Where we touch seat to lift / put down so I think we're a bit unreasonable to be precious about this.

That said everyone is lid down in this house on account of the spore containment. Although research has put a question mark over that now. Having a wee is a minefield. A minefield.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5332492-why-arent-you-getting-changed-man-asks-female-darlington-nurse-this-3-times-in-female-changeroom?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

This is why most women are bothered about trans people in women's spaces.

Yep.

Gender of my doctor, couldn't care if a male or female examined me.

Swearing, as long as not excessive.

I don't care who uses the toilet cubicle next to me

People being ill. It happens. When people act like other people being ill is just an inconvenience to them, it makes me think less of them.

School gate " clicks".

If people cancel on me, I just really don’t care 😄

Lateness.

Now, on the other hand - earliness😡

Only bothers me in the middle of the night when I’m half asleep and fall into the bowl🤣

Last minute lane changing is potentially dangerous if they are cutting someone up in the process and shows a lack of regard for other road users and a certain level of gormlessness (i.e. not paying attention). I can understand getting annoyed with people like that as they are responsible for most of the thousands of deaths and injuries on the roads every year. As far as merging is concerned, one massive problem in the UK is people are ignorant of zip merging. If I am on a motorway and a slip road is merging or there is a lane closure ahead, I create a gap in front of me to allow a vehicle to merge. Most people don't do this with the result that the main traffic flow is forced into stop-start-stop-start driving, making things ultimately worse for everyone. A classic example of the side effect of toxic individualism. Recently, even when I made a gap to allow vehicles to merge in front, several prats still barelled to the end of the slip road and then found they couldn't merge into the traffic (what a load of plonkers, as Del Boy would have said).

I detest sniffing, and have been known more than once to launch tissues at the offender. Hate plate scrapers and slurpers of hot drinks(just let it cool for a few minutes), don't understand why people eat chicken wings.

The counterargument is why shouldn't we call out crapness? If we don't it becomes normalised and everyone's quality of life goes down, and once it becomes normalised it becomes an entitlement from which there is no going back. I find it bizarre because it is really mimimal effort to be thoughtful and considerate of other people.

• Leaving toilet seat up - genuinely not bothered, but DP and DS missing the toilet in the night and peeing on seat is another matter!
• child free weddings - love an excuse to go out without the DCs, doesn’t happen often these days
• people addressing me as Mrs/Ms when I’m a Miss - I’ve seen other people get up in arms about this but it’s not a big deal for me, not particularly fussed with being addressed by a title at all to be honest.

Lateness - unless it’s for a train/plane or something that starts at a certain time it doesn’t bother me if someone turns up late. Shit happens and I’m happy with my own company.
swearing - as above 😂
what other people are wearing - wouldn’t notice and wouldn’t care

Didn’t really care much about my wedding, if we could do it again we would elope. It was fun and a great party, I looked great, but I wasn’t that bothered. I am pretty sure some random guy wandered into our reception.

Also have never cared about being near the front at gigs or even being able to see the stage. I want to listen to the music and dance.

Husbands/partners going out or away with friends. I love it and encourage it - the house stays tidy and you get peace (and the bed to yourself if its overnight). I love him to bits but I love my own space too