Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

[Yesttte]

Lighthearted really but I honestly can’t understand why anyone would feel precious about a friend forgetting their birthday. My very best friend has forgot a couple of times and it’s more funny than anything else. But other people seem up in arms about things like this.

Weddings… I couldn’t give a shit if someone couldn’t make my wedding or posted a photo too soon or whatever else. I’m amazed people care about this stuff.

Obviously there’s plenty I’m highly strung about though! 😅

I think I'm unusual in not wanting birthday reminders even from family; but I know other people who don't like friends and colleagues to make a 'thing' of their birthday,

Even as a kid, though I liked presents(!), I never liked being reminded that 'now you're 6', 'now you're 7', etc.

And I think in the past, adult birthdays; after 21, were usually celebrated just as birthdays; but recently there has been an increased emphasis on 'significant' 'milestone' birthdays where the emphasis is very much on your new age; and this has made me dislike birthdays even more,

Happy to celebrate other people's, however,

Status symbols in daily life: who sits at the head of the table, etc

Getting the right sort of cards: I actually enjoy sending and getting cards, but I won't be offended if someone doesn't send one back, or sends a card that is too 'cheap'.

Being insulted by getting something too 'generic' as a present. If you don't like your box of Thornton's chocolates, don't get insulted; just send it to me!

Al fresco wee-ers.
The neighbours whose cats/footballs come into my garden.
Transgender people.

Live and let live! 🥰

Travel and holidays to (what are perceived to be) exotic and exciting places for social media clout.

@ItGhoul

The only time I'm bothered about my doctor / HCP being female is for things like my smear test or those internal scans (had one once, hideous thing). I just don't like the idea of a man I don't know pushing instruments inside my vagina. Seems different when it's a woman.

Yep. Holiday how you like, if you want to. Stay at home for annual leave too if you want. Do what makes you happy in your precious free time.

I didn't mind people visiting soon after I had my babies. My last one i felt a bit lonely as I had to stay in hospital 2 nights cos I had a cesarean, my husband was home with our 3 kids. My sister came to see me that day and my mil came the next day as she couldn't the first day. When my 3rd son was born at home both my sister and in laws visited the following day

I think the people that get worried about home baked goods are those that know they're the sort of people that deserve to be fed The Help's chocolate cake.

Jehovah's Witnesses
Cold, wet weather
Dogs wearing outfits
Dogs in cafes and shops
People working in coffee shops
DH going to the pub without me
Me going to the pub without DH
Our car being dirty
What model of car we or other people own
Dandelions and other 'weeds'
Other people's cats in the garden
People yawning and not covering their mouth
People having the weight loss jab

Nothing! I’m bother by it ALL lol but love this for you. It’s definitely the best way to be. Your like my husband. Nothing bothers him at all. He should live in Jamaica or somewhere more chill because all he says to me is “why are you bothered” “don’t let it bother you” lol Ying and Yang we need it all to make the world go around and all that

Yes girl 🙌🏻 love this! Why are we made to feel guilty? I swear people who make a big scene crying etc when they leave their child are just attention seekers like if u feel that bad leaving them DONT lol

100% agree! Also what way the toilet roll hangs on the hook/holder, cannot give a rats arse 😅

"Wifework" - it really isn't an ordeal to make a call every few months to make a dentist appointment or set up direct debits.

Toilets - I genuinely couldn't care less who's in the cubicles around me.

Toilet seat up (someone has to put it up and down)
Toilet roll the wrong way round (so long as its there, and not soggy from being left in the sink, I'm good)
Announcements at weddings (if I love you enough to invite you, I love you enough to want to celebrate with you)
Child free weddings (have the wedding you want)
Wearing pale colours/ white to a wedding
Children playing on the neighboyrs garden/communal area
High spirited children/ teenagers
Transwomen in women's toilets

I’m not criticising anyone for being bothered by that. There’s no right or wrong way to feel about it. We’re all different.

But I, personally, am completely unbothered. My gynaecologist and my GP are both men and have poked plenty of things up my fanny.

During medical appointments, I mean. Not during a threesome.

If I had an issue that needed looking at and the only qualified person available was a man, I'd deal with it. But, if I had a preference I'd take a woman. Mainly because they actually understand those bits.

Wedding/hen do/honeymoon etc. Basically any kind of party. In my opinion every kind of occasion is more about the people than the frills. I'd put money behind the bar and sort a decent buffet - done.

Exactly my sentiments when I wrote it

Haha, between 10 am and 5pm!

I don’t care about people wearing shoes in my house, something lots of people seem to feel mortally offended about. I suppose I might feel different if I had cream carpets or something!

A lot of people seem to have a problem with doing various things alone, which always baffles me.

I should consider my curly hair a problem, and straighten it, apparently. Nope.

Me too! And eating out alone :) I don't get why people find that weird, but often they do!

Class and its signifiers. Keeping up with the Joneses. I don't care if you are affluent or if you look affluent or whatever. Stop fretting about whether you're middle class.

The male sex drive. Obviously I'm not referring to predators, harassers and rapists; I'm referring to the idea that someone I've gone on a couple of dates with "only wants one thing". I should hope so too. Maybe I "only want one thing" as well! And oh no, the absolute horror that your husband or partner wants to have sex with you.

Dogs anywhere. Though that's a lie because actually dogs are a big deal to me, I love seeing them and meeting them.

Gifts. Sometimes they hit, sometimes they miss, it's the nature of these things. They're not a litmus test of how much someone loves you. I always think that when someone is "devastated" by how their birthday/Mother's Day/Xmas has gone, it's a sign that the rest of their relationship is shit - putting so much importance on one day means the others are probably terrible.

Meeting my friends' friends. Every so often there's a horrified thread on here about a friend who has dared bring another friend along to the cafe and the dreaded dynamic has been changed.

And I'm another one who doesn't believe in emotional affairs unless it involves actual declarations of love, or sexting. "Confiding" is what friends do to each other and is not dependent on genitalia.

People getting in my way
Waiting in a queue or for the bus/train
Coming into my house with shoes on
People being late
Mess (within reason)
Not having a car
Bluebottles
Trans women in toilets
Immigration