Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

[Yesttte]

Lighthearted really but I honestly can’t understand why anyone would feel precious about a friend forgetting their birthday. My very best friend has forgot a couple of times and it’s more funny than anything else. But other people seem up in arms about things like this.

Weddings… I couldn’t give a shit if someone couldn’t make my wedding or posted a photo too soon or whatever else. I’m amazed people care about this stuff.

Obviously there’s plenty I’m highly strung about though! 😅

Being thanked for letting people pass.
Receiving the wrong food order or drink - I quite enjoy the surprise and have no allergies so I don’t care.
Neighbours’ building work / building noise.
Family and friends ever forgetting it’s my birthday.

Edit to add: don’t care about gifts, please nobody ever get me anything
Also don’t ever feel like you need thank me in writing for anything. If I hand you a gift / did something nice and you smiled and appreciated it in person we’re 100% good.

It fits better if it's all the same size and shape.

You’re probably not wrong, but it’s irritating and sloppy. And at my DD’s house it’s more of a problem as the table cutlery is also mixed up with sharp knives and bits of string 😱 I have actually cut myself before!

Receiving the wrong food order or drink - I quite enjoy the surprise and have no allergies so I don’t care.

Ditto for me, see also 'bad service'.

My husband and I have a fond anecdote bank of memorable meals where EVERYTHING went wrong and we laugh about it. (Especially the overworked Berlin waitress who brought out and laid out my husband's starter, main and side all at once for him, and said "is that ok?". Then offered to bring me bread as an apology, before coming back half an hour later to say there was no bread.)

I now get the ick about people who want the best food, the best dining experience at all times and will make wonky complaints throughout. Chill out you miserable fuckers and have a laugh.

Agree about double carbs. It's all fuel.

Also people being on benefits but having the temerity not to live in sackcloth and entertain themselves purely with sticks and pebbles.

People making short, occasional personal calls in the office.

People heating up food in the office. So it smells – so what? Go out for your own break if it troubles you that much. You probably need the air and the exercise anyway.

(inspired by some spectacularly mad responses on a thread a while back) the idea of a neighbour asking to use my shower a few times while they get their boiler/bathroom fixed.

It's not just mixing them up that gets some people riled. It's the allocation of compartments. Apparently, reading left to right, it ought to be fork compartment, knife compartment, dessert spoon compartment, serving spoon compartment and teaspoons in the horizontal one.

Every so often I'll move all the forks two to the right and the knives and dessert spoons one to the left. Once you've spent a nanosecond, the first time, noticing that the forks are in the third compartment, no time is lost in picking out a knife and fork.

However, this innovation causes consternation and despair - so it's not really about time being wasted. It's about 'what makes sense.' The OH is very clear about this.

"No, no - it doesn't make sense to have the forks in the third compartment! They have to be in the first compartment! Everyone knows that!"

"Why?"

"It's just the way it is!"

"If that's true, there must be a reason."

"Because that's how they are on the table! It's obvious!"

"I don't think the cutlery know that about themselves."

"This is all wrong. I'm going to change it back."

"It's very confusing for a left-handed person. That's discriminatory."

"You're not left-handed!"

"I'm thinking of converting."

"What? What does that even mean?"

"Also, we need to have words about the arrangement of the larder. It's my contention that Worcestershire is an ingredient rather than a table sauce."

"No!"

"Your intransigence around this issue is most regrettable. If you persist in this attitude, I may have to re-consider the future of this marriage."

Do you live in Bournemouth by any chance? I drive all over the country & it seems to be the worst place outside London!

I found I didn’t care about my wedding. I wanted a lovely wedding but cba with the details. My mum basically organised ours (and did a great job). Friends had spreadsheets and agonised over every detail - could not relate! I picked a colour and a dress then turned up basically!

I'm the same way about restaurants making mistakes. It doesn't bother me, I assume the server is stressed, tired, simply messed up, whatever.

I do seethe at rudeness, however, which is why I dumped the guy who groused over a minor miss at a restaurant. He was so condescending and rude to the server over bringing out a different type of pasta noodle. I decided right there that was our last date. People who get that upset over minor things are not my kind of people.

Same! I had a few specifics, but beyond that I wasn't fussed. I mentioned outfit colours (wear what you like) and seating plans (none) upthread, but tbh we didn't care about most of the traditions, we just wanted a lovely relaxed day for ourselves and our guests. We didn't bother with a receiving line or a first dance either, no sugared almonds (as we weren't planning on having kids) and I made a speech while DH didn't. I think MIL was having conniptions by the end of the day. 😂

I’m very laidback so a lot of what people moan about perplexes me. I have decided I must be a different species!

i used to be very bothered about authority figures, teachers,doctors,council officials,police,etc now I give not one fuck about authority. I am rebelling and ageing disgracefully now I really know me and I know whats best for me!

Ooh, big one for me - middle lane hoggers.

You just overtake them. It's not that hard, and they shouldn't be blamed for the dangerous choices of other drivers who are getting frustrated at getting there 2m quicker.

What really bugs me is the people who are SO KEEN to not be in the wrong lane, they cut back in with zero fucking braking distance.

I think you're misunderstanding just how problematic middle lane hogging is.

You're not allowed to overtake using the left-hand lane, so everybody is forced into the right-hand lane.

An otherwise empty motorway is turned into a congested mess as everybody struggles to get past the idiot doing 60 mph in the middle lane.

See also when you're using the middle lane as it should be used i.e. For overtaking, and then someone on the LHS lane decides to speed up and use it to undertake you while you're indicating..

Giving bread to ducks. OMG. Stop bothering me about this.

I love wildlife, I honestly do, and when all the bread hysteria first came out, I immediately stopped. Then signs went up in my local park asking people to please start giving ducks bread again. Then the signs disappeared and people started saying don't give them bread because it makes them explode so I stopped again. The the RSPB said it's absolutely fine to give them small amounts, then two years after that the RSPB said don't give them any, then the signs reappeared.

At this point, I gave up and just went back to feeding them small amounts of bread alongside grains and bit of fruit, like people have been doing for decades. And I do not appreciate boden-clad snooty women coming up to me and shaming me about exploding ducks when I am having a lovely moment sitting happily in the sunshine, next to a moat, giving a happy flock of intact ducks my broken up sandwich crusts.

Stationery!
Sure, I like a nice notebook and pencil for work but I can't get excited about fancy highlighters and washi tape.
I also don't know why people won't use their lovely stationery.

People not "reading the full thread" 🤣🤣🤣

Swearing. I can't get worked up about it.