Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

[Yesttte]

Lighthearted really but I honestly can’t understand why anyone would feel precious about a friend forgetting their birthday. My very best friend has forgot a couple of times and it’s more funny than anything else. But other people seem up in arms about things like this.

Weddings… I couldn’t give a shit if someone couldn’t make my wedding or posted a photo too soon or whatever else. I’m amazed people care about this stuff.

Obviously there’s plenty I’m highly strung about though! 😅

Christmas
My own birthday
My own "milestone" birthday
Reality TV
Shoes off in the house (floors are literally there to be walked on)
Holidays/theatre/events on my own - going solo is my favourite thing
Constant messages/calls with the other half - yuck; we never do it
Other half being away - happy that we can both be independent and do our own thing
Cleaning the house - it just needs to be "good enough", whereas "spotless" houses are soulless
Sentimentality and fuss about any normal life event (births, marriages, deaths)

Neighbours barbecuing and generally enjoying their gardens in the summer.

I don’t care about having a big house which most people I know seem obsessed by. We could afford one, but can’t be bothered with all the maintenance and the bills. DH and I are just not massive home bods, we like a nice small cosy house and our little garden to come back to after adventures.

Leaving pegs on the washing line

Also my own wedding. I mean I loved the day and getting to be married to my DH. But I’m just not bothered by all the traditions.
No hens do.
No guest seating chart.
and my best no bother… no bridesmaids. I have been a bridesmaid 4 times and I could never really understand what the point is? Why are there 4 women all dressed the same holding flowers standing next to the bride? I felt like a part of a circus to be honest. I had my 3 best friends with me all day, we all had our makeup done and hair and they wore exactly what they wanted to. We drank champagne and laughed. We had wonderful photos together and had the best day. Nobody had to parade down an aisle ahead of me and stand to attention. It was wonderful.

Oh I thought of another one. I don’t mind admitting I’m wrong but lots of people seem to! They tie themselves in knots trying to avoid saying they’ve made a mistake. That just seems bonkers to me - where’s the shame in fessing up to an error, we all make them…. I don’t mean in a context where there could be awful retribution but, for instance, in a debate or a discussion where someone introduces a new fact or a line of reasoning that refutes what I previously thought - or they know more about it than I do!

I care about the lid being down too.

I know this sounds silly,but my hair

Last year,I found out I was going to be a granny and something just snapped inside me-i grew out my roots and found my Steel gray hair (its silver-and i love it) and suits me much better than my dark brown dye job

I don't have the time or money to sit at the hairdressers and I don't want to sit on my sofa with chemicals on my head (while trying not to cover the sofa in it)

The amount of women (mainly at work-i work in retail) who have got funny about my hair is unreal

'Oh I just couldn't!' (Bully for you)
'It's aged you' (really?)
'Why not try xyz colour?' (Because I don't want to)
'That's your natural colour?' (With a look of distaste)
'Have you tried xyz salon?' (No because I don't have the will,the time nor the money to get my roots done every month)

I will never colour my hair again but it really seems to hit a raw nerve-I'm honestly amazed by how many women have said the above

Loads of things.

This didn’t used to bother me, but I currently have a water obsessed toddler, so it’s a current annoyance. 🤣

I don't care about people going away for a hen do or having a baby shower
I couldn't care less how you birthed your child it's a birth
I don't care if you bottle or breastfeed

Not having mum friends
Not lving in a detached house with driveway
Not living in "villagey" neighbourhood
Saying hello to strangers on walks
Older women wearing their hair long
Neighbours having parties
Fireworks
DH not contacting me in the working day
Not having "equal child-free time"
Living in a city centre location
Living car-free

I have reached that point in life where very little bothers me anymore, but at the same time some tiny little insignificant thing can bring on a bout of rage so extreme, that its a bloody miracle I am not currently on remand for murder !

Stuff that doesn't bother me;

Anything wedding related, the only thing that I was bothered about at mine was that people had enough food and drink. It's a party, you've invited people, be a good host !
Childbirth, Ive done the whole variety of styles and it honestly matters not a jot how they get here, you are still expected to look after another tiny, vulnerable human being on torture levels of sleep deprivation. Don't judge yourself or anyone else, its pointless.
Driving, OK I will judge you if you drive right up my arse, because its dangerous and illegal, and you are ignorant and arrogant if you think your car can stop faster than any other car on the road or that your reaction time is beyond that of normal human capacity. And put your mobile phone down, if you aren't looking at the road you are putting everyone including yourself in danger !

Other than that, meh !

I didn't even know there was a wrong way for toilet roll 😂.
Ours sit on a shelf!

This doesn't bother me as much as people not replacing the toilet roll does.

Weddings (dull)
Breast/bottle feeding-I have zero opinion
What my kid eats-as long as its mostly ok I'm not too fussed
Sitting behind a learner driver-we were all there
Not being married - too indicisive 😂
Not having much to do with my family - meh. They're OK but draining a lot of the time
Cleaning /hoovering (gets done when it gets done)

The big one is probably going on holiday

As an adult I just can't be arsed. Its hassle, it's expensive, it's exhausting, come back more tired than I went.

It's all just a lot of faff 😂😂

To be fair not a lot bothers me. I'm a pretty chill person 😂

Apart from tea making. People who put the milk in before removing the tea bag give me an unhealthy dose of rage

Young, in my 20s: everything annoys me

Old, in my 60s: nothing annoys me any more

I’m developing a pale grey streak in my mid 30s and I love it.

Since moving out of London I've noticed this a lot more - suppressed rage of the home counties? Who cares if someone needs to change lane if they indicate and do it safely, why the rage?

I also feel road rage can be laced with misogyny - the other day I didn't stop soon enough to let a car through easily (cars parked both sides of the road), however I DID stop and tuck in and the other car could get through but just had to slow down - our windows were down and he literally shouted at me - 'Just fucking stop!' My 14 year old dd was next to me, it shook me up a bit, and I thought why? It was a really suburban place and tbh I just thought you suburban angry boring twat.

I don’t care if my DH wants to see his mother every day. It doesn’t make him a mummy’s boy.

My dad's partner gets him to leave the toilet seat lid down, which in turn he starts doing when he comes down here for two days. Now if a guy pees and puts the seat down, that's fine, but I don't really get why the lid needs to go down. I have incontinence issues, so I just leave the lid up as its easier for me if I'm rushing slightly. She also closes the bathroom doors when nobody is in there, again, what's the point of doing that!

@yeahwhatev

Was it a situation where it would have been much easier and quicker if you'd waited at the end of the road for the other driver to come past, rather than attempting to drive down the road and you both ending up in slow and awkward passing manoeuvres?

So many drivers seem to be incapable of appraising the situation. It's normally much quicker and a lot easier to simply sit and wait.

Loading dishwasher 'correctly', taking shoes off indoors, bicycles on pavements

Liken traffic situations to walking situations and you may get a better understanding of drivers rage. E. g. Your queuing to board a bus or waiting to be served at, say the bank or post office, and someone just walks up and goes in front of you! Implying that their time is more important than yours 😏