DH embarrassing himself on local Facebook page

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I’ve been alerted by several people who know me about posts my DH has made on our town’s local community page and underneath articles posted on the newspapers Facebook page.

These are varying level of inappropriate/offensive depending on your views on certain topics. Some are outright rude. Immigration, migrant hotels etc

He appears to have only just started doing this in the past couple of weeks. I’ve confronted him and he has admitted it and basically said he’s just having a laugh and winding people up who take things too seriously.

I have asked him to stop this as it is embarrassing for me and we also have young DC who people will know.

He has said it’s his social media and I can’t control this, and that Facebook will delete his account if they feel what he’s posting is wrong, and they haven’t taken anything down.

Am I being controlling to suggest he should delete his account? The damage is done to an extent, but I want to save further embarrassment.

Same in my area.

Rude doesn’t mean racist though!

Yes, education about immigration is definitely necessary.

https://www.tradeandbusiness.uk/news/six-reasons-why-the-uk-needs-immigration

I honestly think I would have to walk away from him, it’s absurd behaviour.

Sure, it’s entirely possible to be rude about immigration and migrant hotels without being in the least bit racist.🤨

He’s a grown man, I cannot believe people are “alerting” you about his posts

Thank you @dovetail22uk .

This is a distinction that a fair few people struggle to make.

A teenager could be forgiven
A fully functioning adult, no it’s offensive
whether you believe him to be racist or not
he is certainly a xenophobe

I think a lot of people would want to know if their husband and father of their kids had potentially morphed into a sexist, zenophobic, hairy-handed troll online.

So he is a troll, getting kicks out of winding peoole up.

You or your friend making comments won’t make a difference.
Nor will other people in town taking offence. This will spur him on!

But I suspect one if his friends telling him it’s making him look like a twat will.
Is there some people in the group that he is friends with and could give him a reality check?

There is an absolute ton of these comments at the moment and they have nothing to do with the story.

Everything is made out to be about immigration. Most comments are racist and very offensive. There was one yesterday who wanted border security to fire shots at the boats to sink them and leave the people to drown. Truly awful and I bet they say worse things in Private groups.

It’s as though the Reform wins last week have given them even more of a voice. I wouldn’t be surprised if they turned into organised mobs this summer.

Fwiw I do think it's possible to have concerns about the level of immigration , without being racist, and one of the reasons Reform etc have been so successful is that for too long people havent been "allowed" to express those views without being labelled racist, but OP's DH is definitely racist.

Bloody hell, that's the sort of thing that should never be said in jest.

I seriously considered going NC with my "D"B when I found out he'd voted for the odious cunt, but as DB has significant MH issues and no other family, I thought I shouldn't.

He’s just a racist, OP. Sorry he is your husband.

Why does someones politics matter when it comes to their ability to do a good job? Personally I'd want the best worker for the job. It's none of my business what party they support and totally irrelevant as long as they do a good job.

I don’t know any company a social media policy. Genuine political discussion is fine, but racism is not. Misogyny is not (“I bet she is single” about a middle aged, recently widowed woman).
It brings a company into disrepute if their employees are openly racist.

Someone could easily screenshot his posts and forwarded them to his employers.

I mean.. do you genuinely think we have uncontrolled immigration in the UK?

It's pretty easy to search up just how difficult and expensive it is to migrate here so I do have to wonder what people's motivation is when they say things like this.

Is it just ignorance, or is it that you can see what you consider to be too many foreigners round and about?

He is making himself look like a twazok but it is being unreasonable to police his posts, although I can see why you are pissed off with him. I wonder why people go on local fb groups fullstop it's all a bit cringe. I assumed it's just busy bodies on them. I'd just tell the people complaining to you that it's nothing to do with you, he's not a child you can't tell him what to do but you don't agree with what he's posting. Perhaps if they had a problem they can tell him direct why are they reporting him to you?

Because I despise Nigel Farage and everything he stands for. I'm not actually a fan of hearing anybodys political views at any time.

If people want to post things it's their perogative but it's also mine not to part with my money. There are products that I act in the same way and i don't feel it's been to my detriment so far.

As far as a good job is concerned I'll take my chances.

I don't think that "wanting to wind people up" is actually a sign of a nice personality, regardless of the methods used to do it.

It's what people do when they want to seek attention and feel important, but don't actually have the knowledge or skills to achieve anything in a positive way. It's the verbal equivalent of teenagers vandalising things.

It sounds as though this guy cares more about winding up internet strangers than he does about his own wife's feelings.

Someone local to me made some racist comments on Facebook during a high profile event, they got reported to the police for hate speech and he was prosecuted. He was a self employed tradesman and his business never recovered.

He is also embarrassing you, so I’d have him wind his neck in. I get trying to wind up the local group, my husband does it from time to time, but not with comments like that. Your OH does sound like he has a previously hidden nasty/racist streak, though. That’s hard to ignore.

I would be mortified and really embarrassed , what a mean spirited thing to say.

Are you having a fecking giraffe??! People like me? What, people who read a post (and the follow-up posts), think about it for a little while whilst also considering the number of absolute wind-up merchants, journalists and trolls there are on here, and then comment with their own (fairly inoffensive) opinion?? Jog on!!

As it happens, I very rarely comment on the veracity of a thread but come on - this is dogwhistles and faux-naivete galore.