Apparently I’m attention seeking

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Currently on holiday with DH, MIL, FIL, SIL and her husband.
Before we even got here they had all been going on about this specific breakfast in the specific restaurant that is a local speciality. It was decided we would go there on our first morning and get this item.
So first morning, this item is mentioned again and they’re all excited about getting it. The way they were going on I was assuming this item was all they sold in the morning so I said too I was up for trying it.

We got to the restaurant- sat down and FIL told the waitress we wanted 6 of said item. I then said “actually, I wouldn’t mind having a Quick Look at the menu?”. I saw MIL roll her eyes and I’m pretty sure SIL pulled a face too but can’t be certain. DH then whispered to me “don’t start this now for gods sake” !? Was asking for the menu really so bad? I’d noticed as we walked in that everyone was eating different things so clearly there was more on offer than this one item. I ended up choosing something different, I didn’t realise however that mine would take longer to arrive so I was sat without anything while they all ate theirs. SILs husband did say “shall we wait until Poostep’s arrives?” And MIL said “no I don’t think so, we came in for these didn’t we, I don’t want mine going cold”. So they all ate. Mine arrived 15 minutes later and naturally I was sat eating on my own after they all finished.
later DH asked me if I was going to be seeking attention throughout the holiday. So were they right to be annoyed?

"Join me for dinner at this restaurant if you want to try their famous moussaka".

You have two choices. Go try the moussaka. Don't go. How is this hard?

Pretty wrong - to say the least - to insist that OP has to stay indoors too. She’s on holiday, not at nursery.

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‘OR AT LEAST STICK A GIANT NAPKIN ON YOUR HEAD AND MAKE SLURPING AND CRUNCHING NOISES LIKE THE REST OF US, FOR PITY’S SAKE!!!’

You would get on my nerves too, I’m guessing you do this a lot as they seem to be sick of you wanting to be different all the time.

You are like the opposite of a people pleaser, which is totally admirable but don’t expect people to like you if you are always suiting yourself. It takes courage to be disliked so just enjoy your own type of holidays and food by yourself from now on. Good luck.

”Op only agreed because she was under the impression it was all they served. You can't control what other people eat in order to please yourself.”

@Naunetdo you really believe that a grown adult genuinely thought a cafe would only serve one item? Cos I don’t

Would I care? No. But it’d be disingenuous to not get why some people might be a bit miffed.

(FWIW I think the in-laws generally sound rude and weird, even if the hair-washing anecdote doesn’t paint the op in a good light)

Making everyone wait whilst you have a “quick coffee” is so so rude. If they’re ready and they’ve paid can’t you just get out the door and get on with it?

No I can’t see that, and I wouldn’t agree to go and eat with anyone who made such ridiculous demands. It’s like the mafia, ‘I’m making you an offer you can’t refuse’, it’s hilarious that you think this is normal, it’s completely controlling 😂

Because someone suggested it as an example and OP agreed

Because Sharon is in a restaurant and has changed her mind once she realised she doesn't actually want to eat it and there's a menu available meaning they offer a choice of items

It sounds like your in laws and your husband don't like you. They're controlling and anything you do outside of the groupthink choices is labeled as attention seeking.

Your last example I can't tell if you were unreasonable wanting to shower when the rest of them were up and ready or it was a failure to communicate on your husband's part. Did he tell you everyone else was ready to leave and then you decided to shower and dry your hair and have coffee? That would be kind of a bitch move on your part if you knew they were ready then and you made them wait. For the frizzy hair, slick it back with water or gel and ponytail it. If he said they wanted to leave soon, you could have forgone the dryer. That was a bit rude of you.

I think your inlaws want complete conformity with their wishes. You need to make the same food choices, be instantly ready when they say, and just march in lockstep. It sounds like they're made very uncomfortable if you make different choices and they're making your life a bit difficult when you do by the name calling. This includes your husband. Is he becoming a son vs a husband around them?

If it's a question of time, can you offer to meet up with them after you've finished your breakfast or whatever. Or would that cause more difficulty.

They remind me a bit of those family teams you see at Disney with the family t shirts and outfits all the same.

Because she loves your charming company …..

She confirmed that is very similar to what happened. They all ordered the local specialty and she order med a fry up type thing.

She wants breakfast that’s what she’s doing there.
Or is she supposed to go somewhere else because the entire premises is off limits unless she eats what she’s told
Honestly
This thread is mad

I think OP may be being painted as Ditherer, a Faffer, and an Attention Seeker when in reality PIL are Miserable Bastards.

Yeah, but we aren't getting their side of the story.

FFS they sound like hard work.

You sound like a right pain in the arse, particularly on the last update regarding the needing a quick coffee and drying of hair 🙄

Although no one had told OP what time they had all planned to leave? Nice.

I agree. It’s not attention seeking it’s a bit like selfishness. Maybe you are doing things in other areas all the time and this cafe behaviour is highlighting their feelings towards your overall behaviour. I wouldn’t call it attention seeking though.

😂😂 love this!

I’m clearly doing something wrong. Pay for the trip, still have to spend much of it at soft play and farm parks 🤣

Im 60. I’m too old for death slides!

ugh good luck for the rest of the holiday - book some nice activities for yourself and boo to the rest. they sound not very nice at all

I do wonder if the situation is one where the in-laws, a fairly structured family with good time management skills, have decided, rightly or wrongly, that the OP is an awkward, time-wasting contrarian. They are still keen to have their son and their daughter-in-law on holiday with them so were looking to ways to mitigate the faffery and flakiness.

Hence, asking her in advance whether she'd like to join on them on their mystery meal breakfast. Being clear that they were all going to said restaurant to sample said delicacy.

Stating that they were going out on a trip the next day and everyone needed to e up and ready to leave early.

Yet, their plans still got fecked up because after agreeing to it all, OP changes her mind at the 11th hour and holds them up. So they're exasperated and she doesn't know what's gone wrong.

They sound like an absolute bunch of cunts. I’d tell them to holiday on without you and do your own things. This is not a holiday.