It’s a LOTR one. I feel so upset over my DHs comment about elves.

[UnhappyHobbit]

Name change for this one as it’s slightly outing.

My DH is a huge lord of the rings fan. When my DH and I first got together, he used to “lovingly” joke that I was his hobbit. I’m only 5’3” and I do dress quite quirky so I took it as a compliment. It soon became a bit of a pet name for me and as he’s short too, I likened him to a dwarf.

Over the weekend, We were at one of his friend’s house and he has a relatively new girlfriend. Their kitchen /lounge is slightly open plan so I could hear slightly the conversation my DH was having with his friends. All of his friends are lotr fans and this new gf in the group is very tall. DHs friend was bragging that he had finally managed to pull an elf. My DH exclaimed that it was every man’s dream to pull an elf… One of DHs friends said I thought it was your dream to pull a hobbit, my pet name is known to his friends. DH said he wouldn’t touch a hobbit with those big and hairy feet.

I felt so defeated over this. He has called me a hobbit for years, affectionately so I thought.

I approached him about this after the party and he said that the whole hobbit thing was him teasing me because I’m short. He didn’t want to bring this up as, in his words “I made hobbit my whole personality”. We argued and I said, why is he with me if his dream is someone very tall and well the opposite to me.!? We haven’t spoken since and I’m wondering if I’m over reacting.

Aibu for being devastated and embarrassed by this?

Yeah he should be flattered by being called a dwarf when he could be called an orc with personal hygiene issues and bad manners.

Or she could call him Wormtongue, Boromir or go full on calling him Gollum.

Wot? Tauriel and Kili, anyone...

Meh just ignore it.

I love LOTR. It's my fav book. I'm definitely not an obsessive but I do love it.

I have nagged DS to death to read it now he's old enough. He was reluctant but he's currently half way through book one and I am victorious in my mission to make him a fan! (So it's on my radar ATM for a reason).

Actually hate myself a little bit for being that person but you know people legit can have dwarfism and it’s not really nice for people to refer to them in a negative piss takey way. Hobbits aren’t real though. Just thought I’d remind the thread and op of this

He's clearly a Golem, not an Aragorn

Just start taking the piss and calling him Golem

Bad example.

Tauriel was made up by Peter Jackson for the film and isn't a Tolkien character for purists...

OP, kindly, I can kind of see why you’re upset.. kind of.

Because I really love my DH. He’s a great man, husband, father, lover whatever.

He’s also well aware that if Chris Hemsworth and his thighs of Thor rock up at our house and offer me some login’, I’m kicking him out sooner than one can say ‘hakuna matata’. In reverse, I’m getting booted for Natalie Portman.

All joking aside, surely, we all harmlessly find other people/celebrities attractive, without a hidden agenda or actual plan of adultery? Just some people are attractive and easy to look at?

I wouldn’t overthink it. Explain you were hurt, but that maybe you’ll chill it with the hobbit things.

You’re right. I feel like getting rid of anything hobbit related to prove a point. I will not let him call me that again!

Natalie Portman could keep herself busy for a few years destroying marriages like this couldn't she?!

I'm quite invested in this thread mainly because it's a change from the recent trend of posts asking if people would report benefits cheats or tax dodgers.

Honestly I think you should do this - or if you are fond of some of the things, just put them away somewhere.

Don't forget what the orcs once were. Much better to be a hobbit! Besides, Hobbits are amazing creatures, as stated by Gandalf himself.

Orcs are definitely tax dodgers.

Saron is clearly Putin and Saruman is probably Trump.

I want to know who Gandalf is and where we might find Mr Frodo.

Good point. I should have made that clear.

People are being dicks. All these disingenuous comments about how posters have no words…, and then they post something critical.

I would suggest it lacks imagination to understand what the issue is here.

And all the ‘how old are you’ comments. I can’t pretend to be interested in these things, but many grown adults like stuff like Disney and Lord of the rings. Get over it.

OP, I suspect it was a throwaway comment he made about the elves. And he doesn’t identify you as being as much of a hobbit as you do. And you clearly don’t look like a hobbit, so the negative characteristics of being a hobbit are not yours!

He’s with you because he wants to be. Try not to overthink any of this. He should understand why he has upset you though and show some kindness.

Mark Carney?

Only managed the first film, the book is far, far better.

Untrue, sadly. He said he wouldn’t touch a hobbit with those big and hairy feet.

Hahaha, right? Only the whole group knows he calls his wife Hobbit. One of his friends even tried to stop him digging his grave but, no, he dived right in there with his spade (he's a Dwarf, right? They love digging.)

When she told him it hurt her feelings, he basically said she's an embarrassing twat for going along with the whole pet names thing. The thing he created, and has shown no sign of disliking.

OP, he's an arse and you deserve much better treatment (and Aragorn). If he hasn't apologised and mined a diamond for you - or maybe just brought you breakfast in bed - how about the friend who stood up for you? Does he like Hobbits??

I'm not suggesting you cheat on your Dwarf, of course. Just pointing out there may be better men in Middle Earth.

Oh don’t be silly 🤪

I’d be getting chucked out of the top floor window, I’m sure if it 🤣

Na.

He's definitely flawed.

Placemarking for the pics of the dwelf love child soon to come

I'm fascinated by men lusting after her, which a lot of them seem to. She's beautiful, obviously, but she always plays such buttoned-up characters. Maybe that's what men like.

If I were offered the chance to magically look like anyone else, I'd want to be mega-tall and gorgeous—Sigourney Weaver in the 80s, or She-Hulk.

Tbf I always thought Aragorn was nice eye candy and good with a sword but also knew it so was probably a right bastard with the ladies before he met Arwen.

If it's not Natalie it's Scarlet...