To wish someone had acknowledged our anniversary?

[JustAMum31]

I’m not talking about a big fuss - just a “happy anniversary guys! Can’t believe it’s been a year already” message or something?!

It was our 1st wedding anniversary this weekend. Obviously this is an occasion for DH and I to celebrate rather than other people but AIBU to feel a bit sad that not a single family member or friend acknowledged it at all?

I always send a message wishing a happy anniversary for immediate family and close friends and have on numerous occasions offered childcare for those that I know struggle to get time on their own to allow them to have a meal etc if they want it. I wouldn’t expect this in return, we have never had family childcare and that’s fine. For big milestone anniversaries we usually send a card and maybe a small gift if appropriate.

But for us, not even a text 🥲

Awh man, get a grip! No one cares about other people's anniversaries, nor should be expected to remember.

I don't think I remember anyone's anniversaries except for my parents' because I make a smartshow 3d video with their photos every year. Yes, acknowledge the day would be a nice thing to do, but most people don't really care about it and only learn about the anniversary from your posts or stories.
It's nice of you to send out messages, but I'd just let it go tbh. It doesn't reflect the way your relationships with friends and acquaitances.

If I was married my mum would give me an anniversary card as she does for my brother. Beyond that, I doubt friends remember dates of anniversaries. My friend will post on social media some photos and wish her husband happy anniversary so then people will wish them the same. Otherwise i’d have no clue when it was, apart from knowing it was May sometime.

Jeesus

Who expects you too?

Yabu.

We didn't get any external acknowledgement of our 25th Wedding Anniversary! (Unless you count FB comments on the pictures I posted).

Wedding Anniversaries are about the couple these days. I don't think others really acknowledge them anymore.

You might want to think about quietly dropping that or slowly fading it out then - there may be some grumbles at first but it may not be as much as you think.

I wasn't fussed about mother's day but both GM started making it a big deal for them when I had very young kids - and MIL got nasty one year about a gift from shop that wasn't all there with us - so we stepped right back - nothing really happen.

Though by then our DC were making things with groups or schools so I got something which was lovely and sort helped me get over the resentment that had oddly built up in me.

Relationships would be much better if people stopped expecting other people to think or do the same as they do and getting upset when they don't.

Family by the sounds of it. It seems for the OP, reading her updates, it’s less so about the expectation of people to celebrate and more so the injustice that they are quite strictly expected to mark family members’ anniversaries but they haven’t received the same in return.