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Worried I’m about to move in with a cocklodger

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Holly9 · 05/05/2025 18:12

DP and I are currently house hunting. We’ve had a few conversations around chores etc and some of the stuff he came out with last night has really worried me. For example with his ex he said she done the bulk of the chores but on occasion he’d do a couple hours of solid housework and he’d get ‘rewarded’ at the end 😷I asked if he was joking and he said he was being serious…

Is it wrong or me to reconsider…

OP posts:
Ilovecleaning · 10/05/2025 17:40

Totallytoti · 10/05/2025 16:36

@Ilovecleaningit isn’t belittling. What is belittling is a woman who is clearly desperate for a man that she needs to ask.

I don’t see evidence of ‘clearly desperate for a man’
If she were desperate she would go along with him and she would not post on here.

WhiteWashingSunnyDay · 16/05/2025 21:49

Holly9 · 07/05/2025 09:45

I’ve taken stock of all the replies and spoke to him last night. I’ve said I want to park any idea of us moving out together but said I’d be willing for him to move in with me on the basis he is fully aware chores are to be shared and he pulls his weight. If that goes well then down the line, I’d consider looking at buying somewhere. He says he is going to think about it…

He also said the sexual comment was a joke which he made when he was tipsy to see how I’d react and that ‘obviously his ex didn’t do that’

Not a funny joke in my book. ‘He will think about’? So he doesn’t agree to sharing the chores? It doesn’t sound great.

2JFDIYOLO · 17/05/2025 15:43

I'd always recommend making friends with the ex and finding out the truth about him

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