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stupidstupidstupidgirl · 2025-05-04T20:22:06+00:00

Have name changed for this as don’t want it connected with my current name. Roughly 7/8 years ago I finally found the courage to leave a very abusive relationship. I had to get a restraining order and move house to get rid of him. He was always threatening to kill himself if I left and would send me pictures of pill packets etc. Anyway, fast forward, to the other day and I find out on the grapevine that he’s not only having tests for cancer but he’s also fucked his insides and will be on medication for life. AIBU that karma has finally happened to offset the hurt/drama and general chaos he caused including DV. I’ve not thought of him for years and this bought back quite a lot of horrible memories. I never sought revenge and have lived my best life since leaving him.

JandamiHash · 05/05/2025 13:41

I don’t know why people are discussing karma like it’s an academic question or perfect science. The OP is simply saying is that this particular man has what was coming to him - not that everyone who has cancer deserves it

Zone2NorthLondon · 05/05/2025 13:41

Women are socially expected to be nice. Even when recalling violent vile thugs women are expected to be gracious,compassionate,nice
Fuck that
Lets actually be honest,it’s ok to think meh, or comeuppance about someone who caused pain encountering a set back

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stupidstupidstupidgirl · 05/05/2025 14:13

ItGhoul · 05/05/2025 13:19

My ex-partner was very violently abusive to me. He made my life a misery. I still have permanent reminders in the form of physical scars/damage.

Many years after I left him I found out he’d died of a condition that was almost certainly caused by his own stupidity and arrogance.

I was absolutely fucking delighted.

I don’t give a shit if you find that ‘attractive’ or if you think it’s ’uncivilised’. Who the hell are you to tell women how they should feel about someone who viciously and repeatedly attacked them? Nobody appointed you the fucking Feelings Ombudsman.

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I still have the physical scars and my nose will never quite be straight after he head butted me and broke it.

It took my children a long time to not flinch at raised voices and know they’re safe in their home.

I’m sorry so many of you have experienced the same as me

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Codlingmoths · 05/05/2025 14:36

Eagle2025 · 05/05/2025 08:24

To be fair when this person posted the OP hadnt mentioned attempted murder at that point, just that he was abusive.

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Ah it was just abuse. Back when you didn’t know he tried to kill her, it was all ok and really sad he has cancer now and how dare she feel a moments satisfaction? Interesting line.

Eagle2025 · 05/05/2025 15:13

Codlingmoths · 05/05/2025 14:36

Ah it was just abuse. Back when you didn’t know he tried to kill her, it was all ok and really sad he has cancer now and how dare she feel a moments satisfaction? Interesting line.

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Pipe down 🙄 The poster I replied to was trying to say the original poster thought kicking a dog was ok but not attempted murder. And that's not what the original poster had said.

Eagle2025 · 05/05/2025 15:30

Eagle2025 · 05/05/2025 15:13

Pipe down 🙄 The poster I replied to was trying to say the original poster thought kicking a dog was ok but not attempted murder. And that's not what the original poster had said.

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Meant to say- kicking a dog was not ok but attempted murder was.

blueshoes · 05/05/2025 15:40

Nobody appointed you the fucking Feelings Ombudsman.

Well said and amen.

VickiFromAmsterdam · 05/05/2025 15:42

Even if we don’t say it we aaaaall think it.

Can’t imagine why people think the OP should be upset.

Glad you escaped the cunt OP.

DollydaydreamTheThird · 05/05/2025 16:15

ItGhoul · 05/05/2025 13:19

My ex-partner was very violently abusive to me. He made my life a misery. I still have permanent reminders in the form of physical scars/damage.

Many years after I left him I found out he’d died of a condition that was almost certainly caused by his own stupidity and arrogance.

I was absolutely fucking delighted.

I don’t give a shit if you find that ‘attractive’ or if you think it’s ’uncivilised’. Who the hell are you to tell women how they should feel about someone who viciously and repeatedly attacked them? Nobody appointed you the fucking Feelings Ombudsman.

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I'm really sorry to hear that @ItGhoul it sounds like you have been to hell and back. OP did not give us the level of detail you just did in her original post. I did say in my original post that it sounds like the fucker deserved it if you read that one? Everyone is different but I cannot live my life wishing everyone who has shit on me a vile and unhappy life. It's just not in my nature. OP has also since clarified that she doesn't go round wishing cancer on people either.

TheFluffyTwo · 05/05/2025 16:49

This thread reminds me a bit of mothers being asked something like, "would you kill for your children?"

Some of the mothers genuinely umm'd and ahh'd and weren't sure if there were any circumstances in which they could do that, essentially on the basis it "wasn't in [their] nature".

Whether it was actually true or whether they thought it made them sound good (rather than, say, weak and self-interested), I've no idea.

I found that as baffling as I have found people being actively angry at this OP for her feelings towards her abuser, and seemingly thinking that makes them good people.

Nowt so queer as folk.

nomas · 05/05/2025 16:53

TheFluffyTwo · 05/05/2025 16:49

This thread reminds me a bit of mothers being asked something like, "would you kill for your children?"

Some of the mothers genuinely umm'd and ahh'd and weren't sure if there were any circumstances in which they could do that, essentially on the basis it "wasn't in [their] nature".

Whether it was actually true or whether they thought it made them sound good (rather than, say, weak and self-interested), I've no idea.

I found that as baffling as I have found people being actively angry at this OP for her feelings towards her abuser, and seemingly thinking that makes them good people.

Nowt so queer as folk.

To be fair, the instances of people killing for their children are very rare so I can see why women may not be able to immediately think of an answer when put on the spot. It’s much more common for parents (mainly fathers) to kill their own children.

KeenDuck · 05/05/2025 16:56

I have never wished cancer on anybody, but I do think a broken leg and a hurt fingers entirely justified at times

TheFluffyTwo · 05/05/2025 17:00

nomas · 05/05/2025 16:53

To be fair, the instances of people killing for their children are very rare so I can see why women may not be able to immediately think of an answer when put on the spot. It’s much more common for parents (mainly fathers) to kill their own children.

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I'd certainly like to think that it was just being caught off guard!

In which case, the posters on this thread are more baffling since they had the time to think before responding!

ItGhoul · 05/05/2025 20:47

DollydaydreamTheThird · 05/05/2025 16:15

I'm really sorry to hear that @ItGhoul it sounds like you have been to hell and back. OP did not give us the level of detail you just did in her original post. I did say in my original post that it sounds like the fucker deserved it if you read that one? Everyone is different but I cannot live my life wishing everyone who has shit on me a vile and unhappy life. It's just not in my nature. OP has also since clarified that she doesn't go round wishing cancer on people either.

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The OP mentioned domestic violence and having to move house and get a restraining order. I’d have thought that was detail enough, really.